You open the set. And set takes the opening well. After the initial introduction and fluff at times you might not find anything to tell. What will you do. Of course being silent itself is an option. But there are couple of things that we can try out. Or at times even when you close, you might have this feeling if the close is a real close.The list below might come in handy as a nitro boost to ur game.
1. Cold Read.
I have strange feeling about u guys. You guys look like best friends ?
2. Banter.
1. Future adventure projection.
2. Setting the "u leader and she follower" frame.
3. Push pull.
Ex: You are like the cutest women I have seen... all day long that is.
4. Teasing.
5. Qualifications.
I am kinda person who lives and die by Adrenalin. Being adventurous is impressive for me. Whats the best adventure u have had recently ?
6. SOIing.
Ex : The way you said that particular thing about dressing, totally impressed me. I find that way u talk sexy about you.
7. Forcing IOIs.
Ask her to give you the IOIs that you want. Ex: Hey you look so cute when u brush trough ur hair. Do it for me again pls.
8. Active disinterest.
a. Neg - Careful
b. Jealousy plots. Ignoring her for a while and diverting attention to her friends.
c. You not gonna have me frame.
9. Sexual tension
Sxl barriers
10. Kino
11. Fluff
12. Connection, Deep rapport
13. Challenging
14. Breaking Rapport
Oh you like that Stuff. I dont like that at all. Its already not working between us.
15. Compliments
Sincere ones... Dont try to fake the compliments.
16. Relate and reward.
You know the way you feel when u listen to the music. I can totally understand and relate to that. You know I am passionate about dancing and I feel the same when I see a good dance performance.
17. Warm Read.
You know even before u told that u were an Airhostess.. I somehow felt that u work in a service/hospatility industry. Otherwise its difficult to get this kinda class and standards.
PS: I know the post is not so well written. But WTH if u get the concept thats my goal acheived.
Sunday, September 14, 2008
Sunday, September 7, 2008
Day2 : Kino in Kino
Kino in Kino
Disclaimer : Incredibly long and detailed post. You would rather be reading a romance novel.
OOPS.. Bangalore traffic. It unforgiving even on a Saturday morning. Its already 10 AM. Shit I am gonna be late, I hate making ppl wait for me. :-(
As I was pulling my girl into the parking lot. There she sits right next to me on her already parked scooterette. Short babe dressed in cute blue top and a black tight jeans folded up just enough to reveal her calves. That cute nose ring cuteness even more, which reminded me of Sania Mirza. But unlike that 18 YO. This one is bit dusky, and for some reason I love dusky babes. This time she looks even better than the first time I had met her up.
Was hanging out with Raj on a Wednesday evening @ Garuda along with PBR and a buddy of PBR. As I was waiting for PBR. I notice this group of 5 college girls checking me out from their table @ food court. As Raj arrives, I drag him along to sit @ a table near the set. We warmup on a bowl of hot Boiled Sweet Corn, while PBR told about her Airhottie sarge. While I was semi listening to Raj and full checking out the set and planning up the approach. After about 5 minutes I get up, walk towards them, Grab a chair from their next table and drag it towards their table.
Drake : (As I am sitting down beside them) Hey Guys, Can I join u for a while.
Pls note : ask permission verbally and carry on as if u have been permitted. This is like being a Gentleman verbally and badboy physically.
Now there was one girl (obstacle) who hadn't noticed me. I knew she would be a problem. So while I was asking.. I deliberately avoided any EC with her. I ECed HBZ who was giving me IOI.
HBZ: (Without missing a beat) Ya sure!!!
Drake : I am Drake .. (shake hands with all of the 5 girls beginning with the target)
Next things I don't remember word by word but it was pretty much a mix of Banter, fluff, teasing and comfort talk.
Drake : Hey guys it was a gr8 fun meeting you all. I enjoyed it thoroughly. But I like your friend(pointing to HBZ). Would you guys mind if I have her number and meet her up again sometime later this week.
Close her, 20 minutes later send her a message about how cute her nose ring is. Call her two days later. Fluff for a while and set up a day two with a direct line... something to the effect of.
"Hey I like u, I want to meet you again. Let me know when can we meet".
Typically never go for movie dates... but this time it just happened. Somehow had this feeling that I could escalate easy with this date.
Drake : Very Sorry I am late by 5.
HBZ: No a full 10 minute.
Drake : Oh forgive me pls. For this blunder, I would buy you a bunch of roses :P
HBZ: :-)
Then.. convo went flat.. void ... null... nilch. Felt the discomfort, I knew I had to quickly build some comfort.. or it could get worse. Some of the comfort questions/ that came to my aid were.
1. How did ya get here ?
2. Two things I like about u?
a. Her punctuality - was there at venue at the exact time.
b. Non-Nakhra, sweet attitude.
Tell her that above two things score her lot of marks from me. And then proceed to give her a side hug. There was no warm reception for the side hug. But nevertheless there was no rejection as well.. just a hint of slight discomfort. Shake hands for some reason and let the hand linger in mine for a duration longer than required. It stayed there for about 10 seconds and she pulled it out.
We were waiting at the theater door. I made sure that I sit very next to her such that our shoulders are touching. She is quite comfortable with this. While chatting up. I would crack a joke and give a Hi5 and let my fingers linger on her hand... Wicked eh!! :P. As we entered the movie theater, made a bold move. I grabbed her palms and went for finger lock again. She is a bit hesitant. Neutralize it with "I hope you are comfortable with that". The only sound I could hear for that was a ummmm..hmm, which I took as "Yes".
Thanks to PBR for booking a corner two seat for us. Its just two seat towards the end, I know that's pure gold. As we approach the seats. I couldn't help but comment on the corner seat placement
"Wow nice seats huhn!!! Looks like we are lucky today. We can cuddle in without compromising on privacy.". My date couldn't help but smile.
As we settled in our seats, build more comfort with question about family, friends, cousins etc.
The comedy movie starts up. The first 10 minutes was so hilarious that I forgot I have to escalate. 10 mins into the movie I extend my hand (palm up)in front of her (like I am asking for her hand).
HBZ: :? (Puzzled look on her face)
Drake : Hey!!! Give me ur hand. I want some warmth :-).
HBZ : (Places her hand in mine)
Went for finger lock. Got very lil compliance. Held it for 5 mins... I started playing around with her fingers. Its like when you twine up your fingers together and have thumbs together. Fiddle her thumb with yours as if you are upto thumb war. Initially there was very lil response. But then slowly but surely the response became stronger and obvious. Which means I can proceed a step further. But before taking further steps, u have to take a step backwards ;-). Stopped fiddling for a while, and got on with my next step.
Whats next step ?? Kino on back of palm, forearms and shoulders. As if I am caressing. No objections from the HB. So I had her palm in mine and kino back of her palm on my cheeks and lips. I have learnt by my experience and experience of others, that a big step towards (French) kissing is to kiss on hands and cheeks first. So, I kiss her palms and fingers. Sure the HB seemed comfortable. And that meant time for some more escalation. But before further escalation I don't know why I asked but I did.
Drake : I wanna kiss you r8 now.
HBZ: No. (Of course I knew it was only a verbal 'no')
Drake: (Without loosing composure) OK.
Cuddling time : :-). Just pulled her in with something like "Hey lets cuddle up". I am gently pulled her in towards me and made her to lean against my shoulder while my arm is thrown over her shoulders. The way to pull in "Gentle But Firm".. .re-read that again. I lean my head on her head, such that my lips are just inches away from her temple. But something about cuddling is to good and romantic. The warmth and the closeness u feel towards the other person is simply amazing. As we cuddled up our fingers locked up again and I knew I can peck on her temple. Peck I did and it was amazing. I could hear the depth in her breath. Slowly somehow the posture went from head to head to cheek to cheek. The only natural thing for me to do was to peck her cheeks. Which she seemed to enjoy. I continued kissing on cheeks for a while . I was expecting her to peck me as well... But sadly it didn't happen ASD ?? I don't know. But I decided escalate anyways. I had this burning desire to kiss the HB on her lips. I was preparing myself to do that but then something happened that I had to stop and un-cuddle. Damn.. .the intermission. As the lights in the Kino went on. An imaginary VJ in my head uttered those bugging lines. Those lines which everyone of us absolutely love to hate.
"We will continue the show after this quick break"
During the break. Some more comfort and more fluff talk. She looked relaxed and comfortable. We couldn't wait for the movie to start again. After all the first half was not properly understood and we better concentrate in the second half. :P
After the break we picked it from right where we left. Cuddle up and cheek kisses. I could have escalated straight to lip-to-lip. But I wanted it much more smooth. So, I kino her on cheeks and lips with the back of my palms (using the hand which is wrapped around her shoulders). Run the train till the comfort is built.
When I knew I had enough of comfort with all that kino on the face. Stopped all the kino on face while we still cuddling. Slightly shift my face such that our cheeks touching and so are our noses. My nose seem to like her's, so the noses go for a lil rub. While our lips are almost touching. I move in a lil bit, she does her part its obvious that its gonna happen. But then I pull back and whisper something in her ears.
"This is bad. I think we should slow down a bit."
Then we go back to cuddling. Kissing on cheeks (still the HB didn't kiss me on my cheeks). After a while our, noses decide to rub again. But this time, I lean in, she does her bit and for about 10 seconds it was passionate one. I pull back first. Then the rest of the show we would alternate between kissing on the cheeks and lips. Kissing is great fun ain't guys.
Sometime while we were kissing. I had gripped her upper arm. My thumb was touching something very soft. And I noticed that she was comfortable with it. So I knew base-2 gonna be pretty easy. So I start caressing her neck. First on the side of the neck just below the cheek and then on the front of the neck just below chin. After a while I worked my down and caress her upper chest on top of the t-shirt. I didn't encounter any resistance till now. I could just feel the bra straps on top of the tee. I snap it.. no reaction. OK, Hands inside the Tee and snap the strap from with in. Slightly move down. But now get some resistance. So I go back caressing the neck. And again work my way down this time on the Tee. But then I get some resistance again.. so what to do ? Of course rinse and repeat. After about three to four repeats She just gives in. But then after 10 seconds ASD is back and she starts resisting. I didn't wanted it go any further lest I trigger some major buyers remorse and consequently no second date. So I stop and we go back for kissing and cuddling.
Before I know the movie was over. Neither of us had any idea about the storyline. I drop her on the way back. We indulge in more comfort talks. Overall comfort level was high. I take her leave by telling her that the time we spent together was awesome and that I couldn't wait to see her again. Ya I know second date would be much more interesting. ;-)
Lessons :
1. Be a bad boy gentleman. Ask for permission verbally and continue physically as if the permission is granted.
2. Closing in a group : Ask her friend if u can take targets contact details. This does wonders. They either leave the choice to the target or they agree for being polite. In any case the permission of the group makes it soooo easy for the target to give out her number.
3. Being direct and honest about the fact that u dig her makes for a easy escalation.
4. 2 step forward 1 step back + Rinse and repeat till u achieve your goal.
PS: Just to add to your vocab... KINO also means theater :-)
Disclaimer : Incredibly long and detailed post. You would rather be reading a romance novel.
OOPS.. Bangalore traffic. It unforgiving even on a Saturday morning. Its already 10 AM. Shit I am gonna be late, I hate making ppl wait for me. :-(
As I was pulling my girl into the parking lot. There she sits right next to me on her already parked scooterette. Short babe dressed in cute blue top and a black tight jeans folded up just enough to reveal her calves. That cute nose ring cuteness even more, which reminded me of Sania Mirza. But unlike that 18 YO. This one is bit dusky, and for some reason I love dusky babes. This time she looks even better than the first time I had met her up.
Was hanging out with Raj on a Wednesday evening @ Garuda along with PBR and a buddy of PBR. As I was waiting for PBR. I notice this group of 5 college girls checking me out from their table @ food court. As Raj arrives, I drag him along to sit @ a table near the set. We warmup on a bowl of hot Boiled Sweet Corn, while PBR told about her Airhottie sarge. While I was semi listening to Raj and full checking out the set and planning up the approach. After about 5 minutes I get up, walk towards them, Grab a chair from their next table and drag it towards their table.
Drake : (As I am sitting down beside them) Hey Guys, Can I join u for a while.
Pls note : ask permission verbally and carry on as if u have been permitted. This is like being a Gentleman verbally and badboy physically.
Now there was one girl (obstacle) who hadn't noticed me. I knew she would be a problem. So while I was asking.. I deliberately avoided any EC with her. I ECed HBZ who was giving me IOI.
HBZ: (Without missing a beat) Ya sure!!!
Drake : I am Drake .. (shake hands with all of the 5 girls beginning with the target)
Next things I don't remember word by word but it was pretty much a mix of Banter, fluff, teasing and comfort talk.
Drake : Hey guys it was a gr8 fun meeting you all. I enjoyed it thoroughly. But I like your friend(pointing to HBZ). Would you guys mind if I have her number and meet her up again sometime later this week.
Close her, 20 minutes later send her a message about how cute her nose ring is. Call her two days later. Fluff for a while and set up a day two with a direct line... something to the effect of.
"Hey I like u, I want to meet you again. Let me know when can we meet".
Typically never go for movie dates... but this time it just happened. Somehow had this feeling that I could escalate easy with this date.
Drake : Very Sorry I am late by 5.
HBZ: No a full 10 minute.
Drake : Oh forgive me pls. For this blunder, I would buy you a bunch of roses :P
HBZ: :-)
Then.. convo went flat.. void ... null... nilch. Felt the discomfort, I knew I had to quickly build some comfort.. or it could get worse. Some of the comfort questions/ that came to my aid were.
1. How did ya get here ?
2. Two things I like about u?
a. Her punctuality - was there at venue at the exact time.
b. Non-Nakhra, sweet attitude.
Tell her that above two things score her lot of marks from me. And then proceed to give her a side hug. There was no warm reception for the side hug. But nevertheless there was no rejection as well.. just a hint of slight discomfort. Shake hands for some reason and let the hand linger in mine for a duration longer than required. It stayed there for about 10 seconds and she pulled it out.
We were waiting at the theater door. I made sure that I sit very next to her such that our shoulders are touching. She is quite comfortable with this. While chatting up. I would crack a joke and give a Hi5 and let my fingers linger on her hand... Wicked eh!! :P. As we entered the movie theater, made a bold move. I grabbed her palms and went for finger lock again. She is a bit hesitant. Neutralize it with "I hope you are comfortable with that". The only sound I could hear for that was a ummmm..hmm, which I took as "Yes".
Thanks to PBR for booking a corner two seat for us. Its just two seat towards the end, I know that's pure gold. As we approach the seats. I couldn't help but comment on the corner seat placement
"Wow nice seats huhn!!! Looks like we are lucky today. We can cuddle in without compromising on privacy.". My date couldn't help but smile.
As we settled in our seats, build more comfort with question about family, friends, cousins etc.
The comedy movie starts up. The first 10 minutes was so hilarious that I forgot I have to escalate. 10 mins into the movie I extend my hand (palm up)in front of her (like I am asking for her hand).
HBZ: :? (Puzzled look on her face)
Drake : Hey!!! Give me ur hand. I want some warmth :-).
HBZ : (Places her hand in mine)
Went for finger lock. Got very lil compliance. Held it for 5 mins... I started playing around with her fingers. Its like when you twine up your fingers together and have thumbs together. Fiddle her thumb with yours as if you are upto thumb war. Initially there was very lil response. But then slowly but surely the response became stronger and obvious. Which means I can proceed a step further. But before taking further steps, u have to take a step backwards ;-). Stopped fiddling for a while, and got on with my next step.
Whats next step ?? Kino on back of palm, forearms and shoulders. As if I am caressing. No objections from the HB. So I had her palm in mine and kino back of her palm on my cheeks and lips. I have learnt by my experience and experience of others, that a big step towards (French) kissing is to kiss on hands and cheeks first. So, I kiss her palms and fingers. Sure the HB seemed comfortable. And that meant time for some more escalation. But before further escalation I don't know why I asked but I did.
Drake : I wanna kiss you r8 now.
HBZ: No. (Of course I knew it was only a verbal 'no')
Drake: (Without loosing composure) OK.
Cuddling time : :-). Just pulled her in with something like "Hey lets cuddle up". I am gently pulled her in towards me and made her to lean against my shoulder while my arm is thrown over her shoulders. The way to pull in "Gentle But Firm".. .re-read that again. I lean my head on her head, such that my lips are just inches away from her temple. But something about cuddling is to good and romantic. The warmth and the closeness u feel towards the other person is simply amazing. As we cuddled up our fingers locked up again and I knew I can peck on her temple. Peck I did and it was amazing. I could hear the depth in her breath. Slowly somehow the posture went from head to head to cheek to cheek. The only natural thing for me to do was to peck her cheeks. Which she seemed to enjoy. I continued kissing on cheeks for a while . I was expecting her to peck me as well... But sadly it didn't happen ASD ?? I don't know. But I decided escalate anyways. I had this burning desire to kiss the HB on her lips. I was preparing myself to do that but then something happened that I had to stop and un-cuddle. Damn.. .the intermission. As the lights in the Kino went on. An imaginary VJ in my head uttered those bugging lines. Those lines which everyone of us absolutely love to hate.
"We will continue the show after this quick break"
During the break. Some more comfort and more fluff talk. She looked relaxed and comfortable. We couldn't wait for the movie to start again. After all the first half was not properly understood and we better concentrate in the second half. :P
After the break we picked it from right where we left. Cuddle up and cheek kisses. I could have escalated straight to lip-to-lip. But I wanted it much more smooth. So, I kino her on cheeks and lips with the back of my palms (using the hand which is wrapped around her shoulders). Run the train till the comfort is built.
When I knew I had enough of comfort with all that kino on the face. Stopped all the kino on face while we still cuddling. Slightly shift my face such that our cheeks touching and so are our noses. My nose seem to like her's, so the noses go for a lil rub. While our lips are almost touching. I move in a lil bit, she does her part its obvious that its gonna happen. But then I pull back and whisper something in her ears.
"This is bad. I think we should slow down a bit."
Then we go back to cuddling. Kissing on cheeks (still the HB didn't kiss me on my cheeks). After a while our, noses decide to rub again. But this time, I lean in, she does her bit and for about 10 seconds it was passionate one. I pull back first. Then the rest of the show we would alternate between kissing on the cheeks and lips. Kissing is great fun ain't guys.
Sometime while we were kissing. I had gripped her upper arm. My thumb was touching something very soft. And I noticed that she was comfortable with it. So I knew base-2 gonna be pretty easy. So I start caressing her neck. First on the side of the neck just below the cheek and then on the front of the neck just below chin. After a while I worked my down and caress her upper chest on top of the t-shirt. I didn't encounter any resistance till now. I could just feel the bra straps on top of the tee. I snap it.. no reaction. OK, Hands inside the Tee and snap the strap from with in. Slightly move down. But now get some resistance. So I go back caressing the neck. And again work my way down this time on the Tee. But then I get some resistance again.. so what to do ? Of course rinse and repeat. After about three to four repeats She just gives in. But then after 10 seconds ASD is back and she starts resisting. I didn't wanted it go any further lest I trigger some major buyers remorse and consequently no second date. So I stop and we go back for kissing and cuddling.
Before I know the movie was over. Neither of us had any idea about the storyline. I drop her on the way back. We indulge in more comfort talks. Overall comfort level was high. I take her leave by telling her that the time we spent together was awesome and that I couldn't wait to see her again. Ya I know second date would be much more interesting. ;-)
Lessons :
1. Be a bad boy gentleman. Ask for permission verbally and continue physically as if the permission is granted.
2. Closing in a group : Ask her friend if u can take targets contact details. This does wonders. They either leave the choice to the target or they agree for being polite. In any case the permission of the group makes it soooo easy for the target to give out her number.
3. Being direct and honest about the fact that u dig her makes for a easy escalation.
4. 2 step forward 1 step back + Rinse and repeat till u achieve your goal.
PS: Just to add to your vocab... KINO also means theater :-)
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