Day2 : Kino in Kino

Kino in Kino
Disclaimer : Incredibly long and detailed post. You would rather be reading a romance novel.

OOPS.. Bangalore traffic. It unforgiving even on a Saturday morning. Its already 10 AM. Shit I am gonna be late, I hate making ppl wait for me. :-(

As I was pulling my girl into the parking lot. There she sits right next to me on her already parked scooterette. Short babe dressed in cute blue top and a black tight jeans folded up just enough to reveal her calves. That cute nose ring cuteness even more, which reminded me of Sania Mirza. But unlike that 18 YO. This one is bit dusky, and for some reason I love dusky babes. This time she looks even better than the first time I had met her up.

Was hanging out with Raj on a Wednesday evening @ Garuda along with PBR and a buddy of PBR. As I was waiting for PBR. I notice this group of 5 college girls checking me out from their table @ food court. As Raj arrives, I drag him along to sit @ a table near the set. We warmup on a bowl of hot Boiled Sweet Corn, while PBR told about her Airhottie sarge. While I was semi listening to Raj and full checking out the set and planning up the approach. After about 5 minutes I get up, walk towards them, Grab a chair from their next table and drag it towards their table.

Drake : (As I am sitting down beside them) Hey Guys, Can I join u for a while.
Pls note : ask permission verbally and carry on as if u have been permitted. This is like being a Gentleman verbally and badboy physically.

Now there was one girl (obstacle) who hadn't noticed me. I knew she would be a problem. So while I was asking.. I deliberately avoided any EC with her. I ECed HBZ who was giving me IOI.

HBZ: (Without missing a beat) Ya sure!!!
Drake : I am Drake .. (shake hands with all of the 5 girls beginning with the target)
Next things I don't remember word by word but it was pretty much a mix of Banter, fluff, teasing and comfort talk.
Drake : Hey guys it was a gr8 fun meeting you all. I enjoyed it thoroughly. But I like your friend(pointing to HBZ). Would you guys mind if I have her number and meet her up again sometime later this week.

Close her, 20 minutes later send her a message about how cute her nose ring is. Call her two days later. Fluff for a while and set up a day two with a direct line... something to the effect of.
"Hey I like u, I want to meet you again. Let me know when can we meet".

Typically never go for movie dates... but this time it just happened. Somehow had this feeling that I could escalate easy with this date.

Drake : Very Sorry I am late by 5.
HBZ: No a full 10 minute.
Drake : Oh forgive me pls. For this blunder, I would buy you a bunch of roses :P
HBZ: :-)
Then.. convo went flat.. void ... null... nilch. Felt the discomfort, I knew I had to quickly build some comfort.. or it could get worse. Some of the comfort questions/ that came to my aid were.
1. How did ya get here ?
2. Two things I like about u?
a. Her punctuality - was there at venue at the exact time.
b. Non-Nakhra, sweet attitude.
Tell her that above two things score her lot of marks from me. And then proceed to give her a side hug. There was no warm reception for the side hug. But nevertheless there was no rejection as well.. just a hint of slight discomfort. Shake hands for some reason and let the hand linger in mine for a duration longer than required. It stayed there for about 10 seconds and she pulled it out.

We were waiting at the theater door. I made sure that I sit very next to her such that our shoulders are touching. She is quite comfortable with this. While chatting up. I would crack a joke and give a Hi5 and let my fingers linger on her hand... Wicked eh!! :P. As we entered the movie theater, made a bold move. I grabbed her palms and went for finger lock again. She is a bit hesitant. Neutralize it with "I hope you are comfortable with that". The only sound I could hear for that was a ummmm..hmm, which I took as "Yes".

Thanks to PBR for booking a corner two seat for us. Its just two seat towards the end, I know that's pure gold. As we approach the seats. I couldn't help but comment on the corner seat placement
"Wow nice seats huhn!!! Looks like we are lucky today. We can cuddle in without compromising on privacy.". My date couldn't help but smile.

As we settled in our seats, build more comfort with question about family, friends, cousins etc.

The comedy movie starts up. The first 10 minutes was so hilarious that I forgot I have to escalate. 10 mins into the movie I extend my hand (palm up)in front of her (like I am asking for her hand).

HBZ: :? (Puzzled look on her face)
Drake : Hey!!! Give me ur hand. I want some warmth :-).
HBZ : (Places her hand in mine)

Went for finger lock. Got very lil compliance. Held it for 5 mins... I started playing around with her fingers. Its like when you twine up your fingers together and have thumbs together. Fiddle her thumb with yours as if you are upto thumb war. Initially there was very lil response. But then slowly but surely the response became stronger and obvious. Which means I can proceed a step further. But before taking further steps, u have to take a step backwards ;-). Stopped fiddling for a while, and got on with my next step.

Whats next step ?? Kino on back of palm, forearms and shoulders. As if I am caressing. No objections from the HB. So I had her palm in mine and kino back of her palm on my cheeks and lips. I have learnt by my experience and experience of others, that a big step towards (French) kissing is to kiss on hands and cheeks first. So, I kiss her palms and fingers. Sure the HB seemed comfortable. And that meant time for some more escalation. But before further escalation I don't know why I asked but I did.

Drake : I wanna kiss you r8 now.
HBZ: No. (Of course I knew it was only a verbal 'no')
Drake: (Without loosing composure) OK.

Cuddling time : :-). Just pulled her in with something like "Hey lets cuddle up". I am gently pulled her in towards me and made her to lean against my shoulder while my arm is thrown over her shoulders. The way to pull in "Gentle But Firm".. .re-read that again. I lean my head on her head, such that my lips are just inches away from her temple. But something about cuddling is to good and romantic. The warmth and the closeness u feel towards the other person is simply amazing. As we cuddled up our fingers locked up again and I knew I can peck on her temple. Peck I did and it was amazing. I could hear the depth in her breath. Slowly somehow the posture went from head to head to cheek to cheek. The only natural thing for me to do was to peck her cheeks. Which she seemed to enjoy. I continued kissing on cheeks for a while . I was expecting her to peck me as well... But sadly it didn't happen ASD ?? I don't know. But I decided escalate anyways. I had this burning desire to kiss the HB on her lips. I was preparing myself to do that but then something happened that I had to stop and un-cuddle. Damn.. .the intermission. As the lights in the Kino went on. An imaginary VJ in my head uttered those bugging lines. Those lines which everyone of us absolutely love to hate.
"We will continue the show after this quick break"


During the break. Some more comfort and more fluff talk. She looked relaxed and comfortable. We couldn't wait for the movie to start again. After all the first half was not properly understood and we better concentrate in the second half. :P

After the break we picked it from right where we left. Cuddle up and cheek kisses. I could have escalated straight to lip-to-lip. But I wanted it much more smooth. So, I kino her on cheeks and lips with the back of my palms (using the hand which is wrapped around her shoulders). Run the train till the comfort is built.


When I knew I had enough of comfort with all that kino on the face. Stopped all the kino on face while we still cuddling. Slightly shift my face such that our cheeks touching and so are our noses. My nose seem to like her's, so the noses go for a lil rub. While our lips are almost touching. I move in a lil bit, she does her part its obvious that its gonna happen. But then I pull back and whisper something in her ears.

"This is bad. I think we should slow down a bit."

Then we go back to cuddling. Kissing on cheeks (still the HB didn't kiss me on my cheeks). After a while our, noses decide to rub again. But this time, I lean in, she does her bit and for about 10 seconds it was passionate one. I pull back first. Then the rest of the show we would alternate between kissing on the cheeks and lips. Kissing is great fun ain't guys.

Sometime while we were kissing. I had gripped her upper arm. My thumb was touching something very soft. And I noticed that she was comfortable with it. So I knew base-2 gonna be pretty easy. So I start caressing her neck. First on the side of the neck just below the cheek and then on the front of the neck just below chin. After a while I worked my down and caress her upper chest on top of the t-shirt. I didn't encounter any resistance till now. I could just feel the bra straps on top of the tee. I snap it.. no reaction. OK, Hands inside the Tee and snap the strap from with in. Slightly move down. But now get some resistance. So I go back caressing the neck. And again work my way down this time on the Tee. But then I get some resistance again.. so what to do ? Of course rinse and repeat. After about three to four repeats She just gives in. But then after 10 seconds ASD is back and she starts resisting. I didn't wanted it go any further lest I trigger some major buyers remorse and consequently no second date. So I stop and we go back for kissing and cuddling.

Before I know the movie was over. Neither of us had any idea about the storyline. I drop her on the way back. We indulge in more comfort talks. Overall comfort level was high. I take her leave by telling her that the time we spent together was awesome and that I couldn't wait to see her again. Ya I know second date would be much more interesting. ;-)




Lessons :
1. Be a bad boy gentleman. Ask for permission verbally and continue physically as if the permission is granted.
2. Closing in a group : Ask her friend if u can take targets contact details. This does wonders. They either leave the choice to the target or they agree for being polite. In any case the permission of the group makes it soooo easy for the target to give out her number.
3. Being direct and honest about the fact that u dig her makes for a easy escalation.
4. 2 step forward 1 step back + Rinse and repeat till u achieve your goal.


PS: Just to add to your vocab... KINO also means theater :-)

Day2 : I will come like a beggar

It was a tiring Sunday. I hit the sack early by 10 PM. Within minutes
I was fast asleep. About 11:45 PM I was disturbed. Without even I
realizing what I was up to I had answered the phone. The half awake me
could recognize that it was a female voice on the other end :-) but
couldn't guess who. I checked the number again... I didn't have it
stored on my phone.
Drake (rubbing eyes): err... hello... ummmhh
: Hi Preetham wazzup. (She seemed to be
bubbling up with energy at midnight and I was all sleepy :P)
Drake : Errrrr.... Who is this ?
: Its HBDaccan here.
It took a while for the sleeping gaint to realize who actually was on
the other end.

Same HBDaccan from the "FR: Bangbros episode 24 @ hint". Earlier, I
had unsuccessfully tried to setup day2s with this babe. I had been
very direct with this girl in asking her out. Mostly used things
like..... "Hey lets have a date on so and so date" or "I have been
trying to setup a day2, but u lil Miss Sunshine is acting very busy. I
am free on so and so date, wazzup with ya ?" (note: these lines were
delivered with an alpha mindset of "I know what I want. And I want to
get it" and not with a "make my life gimme a date " frame). Although
she seemed to liked my approach and talk sweetly with me, she would
never return my call or msgs. She looked busy. I kept msging/calling
her once every 2/3 days till 15 days back when she totally stopped
taking my calls. It looked like another one of the "DEFs - Delayed
Effect Flakes". Before deleting her number I sent her an SMS.

"I been unsuccessfully asking you out for the past few days. Now, I am
confused about your feelings. If you don't like to date me pls feel
free to tell me the same and we can just be friends. That way we can
save a bit of each others precious time"

I expected a reply... I got none. And the available free memory on my
cellphone increased a bit. The last thing I ever expected was to get a
call from her after about 10 or so days.

HBDaccan: Sorry Preetham I was not able to attend your call or msg you
back. Know what my company got merged with other company and I had to
attend a lot of training for 3 to 4 weeks and was very busy. (Felt
that she was being genuine )
All I could do at the point was to mumble up a few ummms, aahhhs and
OK No Problems as I desperately wanted to go back to my sleep again.

Tuesday I share this incident with Hedonist ( oops!!!, pardon me
brother .. "Head on tits" i.e). He advices me to go direct and ask her
out again. But I couldnt call her as I was busy the entire day. The
next day I was having a terrible time at work. My mobile rings .
Drake : Hey hi, HBD wazzzup.
: blah blah blah
HBDaccan : It's my off today. I have come to CMH road for some
shopping. Where are you ?
Drake : I am miles away baby and I am very busy at work.
HBDaccan : So we can't meet right now ??
Drake : It will be very very difficult for me.
HBD : Whats the plan 2moro ? I will be free by 1 PM .
Drake : I will be off from work at about 6PM.
HBD : So, can we meet 2moro.
Drake : Well OK. 6PM Planet M, brigade Road.
HBD : Ok fine.
Drake : Hey, wear something very sexy.
HBD : No, I will come like a beggar.
Drake : Nice, I get to see some nice body parts thru ur phata purana
beggar dress + I get to collect all your alms.
HBD : (Giggles) u r too much
Some more banter before we end the call.

My game plan for the date was to shop for some T-shirts ( I really
needed one ) followed by coffee/walk date. Basically want to keep it
low key date. As far as my verbal game is concerned, these days I am
trying to alternate between A and C. i.e mix up attraction and comfort
material. Basically, bust on her/ pass C&F comments/banter and in
between use some comfort material like deep rapport talk, share your
vulnerabilities and stuff.

I was early at the venue and had opened a set already so was already
in the conversational mood. I had very faint idea as to how she looked
like. Coz we had earlier met in a dark club some 6 weeks back. She
turned out to be a solid 8.5 ( -ve marks on the tummy) in a pair of
blue denims and a girlie girlie top. Open long hairs. Very subtle, but
well made up. Oh boy, she is cute , i mutter to myself.
Drake : Hey hi.
HBD : Hiiii (we shake hands. Kino her on elbow while shaking hands)
Drake : Hey, nice beggar dress. ;-) ( Straight away into banter yeah)
HBD : (Giggles) Thanks
Drake : But sad, I cant really see much of your body parts through
this dress. :-(
HBD : Hey !!! (HBD, playfully punches my tummy)
Drake : ( Smile ) Hey come with me... lets hunt for a funkie tee for
me.
HBD : Ok.
HBD : I thought you were like a real sweet guy. But you are turning
out to be a naughty and flirty guy.
Drake : Yeah sure.
Drake (In a very serious voice tonality) : The last time we met, I
thought you were about 27-28 (years old). But now I think you are
REALLY REALLY Cute. ( Yeah kinda push pull )
HBD : I take it as a compliment. ( May be she thought I was being
sarcastic)
Drake : No, honestly I think you are really cute.

As we jump around a few shops looking for my tee..while doing so we
talk about our mutual taste/liking when it comes to apparels. She even
cold reads me that I am 'into' peacocking and she that likes my watch
and the neck piece. lol

I remember talking to all the shop keepers in the local language. She
notices this..
HBD: Hey, I like to learn Kannada. Can you teach me?
Drake : Sure.
( Teach her a few basic sentences and lingo )
Drake : OK, 125Rs 32 Paise pls. That my language training fees.
HBD : I will pay you in some other way (don't really know what was
that supposed to mean ? I leave the thread there :-)

We finish my mini-shopping. We head towards CCD on Brigade Road. At
the signal she is trying to cross the road while light is still red. I
hold her back by her hand.
Drake : Ezzzz lil Miss Sunshine. Think of what would happen if you
collide with the bus. POOR BUS.
HBD (with a straight face): Ok Mr. Handsome :-|
Drake : And stop playing with your hairs. It means something totally
different.
She starts yapping about how she is not allowed to touch her hairs in
her line of work.
Drake : You know what... girls in your line of work have this 'air'
around themselves. You know all that Nakhra and stuff. I was
pleasantly surprised that you are not like them all and I find that
very SEXY about you. :-).
HBD : :-) Oh so many compliments.
Drake : Hey you are bad girl ;-) :-). You have not even returned a
single compliment. :-). You will go to hell for sure. lol (Banter
saves the day again)
HBD : :-)

We settle down at CCD, order for some coffee.
Drake : So where did ya finish your schooling ? ( Oh yeah I am the
interviewer lol )
HBD : Ohhhhhhhhh interview... interview :-).
Drake sits there with a straight face expecting an answer. After about
three seconds she gives in and tells me about her school days. I share
a lil story about how we would break all the rules at residential
school that I studied. We both connect well on the feeling of missing
those childhood days. Guys try this out, any person would miss his
school/college days. Find an interesting story or two from your school
or college days and share it with your dates, superb rapport material.
I even ask her about what she wanted to be when she was like 7 years
old. She tells me that she wanted to doctor but could get good marks
for AIIMS. And how she was all heart-broke,depressed and feeling
suicidal for not making it. I share my views on why I didn't take up
medical even though I had a good score. We further talked on about our
families/siblings/work/friends/love life and lot of other topics. By
the end of coffee session I feel like we are very well connected. On
the kino front... she was the one who's chasing me. Through out coffee
session she was the one kinoing me for petty reasons like, socking me
in the arm for teasing her, "hey there is something on you hair... let
me take it off for you" and stuff like that.

We go for a lil walk down the street towards Garuda Mall. On road more
kino from my side. Things like holding her by shoulders and directing
her towards the my left hand side so that I am walking on the curb.
Some protective kino like holding her by shoulders whenever there is a
group of guys coming from the opposite side. Leading her by holding
hands whenever there is not much room for both of us to walk
together.

We come near to Garuda mall and she suggest me that we sit near Garuda
for sometime. Basically there is this place outside the mall where
usually couples sit and chill. We end up sitting there. She is
comfortable enough to sit very close by me. Our legs and shoulders are
touching. I know now that I can go in for an explicit kino. At high
points in the interaction (when we crack up on joke, or any
emotionally charged moment) I would give her a explicit kino. Taking
her hand when laughing it off and placing it on my knees (yeah its
stays there .. kino compliance). Reaffirming hug from sideways when
she told me some emotionally involved things about her parents. And
later even on low points I would hold out my hand (as if asking her
for placing her hand in) she would just place her hand into mine.
Followed it up by a palm lock (basically your palm on her palm and
your fingers just lock on to the back of her palm), she complies. I
have found that if there is compliance for palm lock ..
congratulations you got the girl under your spell ;-) you can escalate
with some major kino from then on. Went for hand on her shoulders and
she complied by putting her hands around my waist.

It was times up by 8:30. Didn't even realize how 2 hours just flew by.
She had to go back home. Damn, I was missing my Unicorn ( I had left
my ride at home) coz a motorbike is helluva thing for kino. Cursing
myself I just catch her a Rik and leave her with a good bye hug.

At 10:00 she buzzes me. Tells me that she had a wonderful time.
Without being much of an ass, I told that drake had a great time too
and he can't wait to see her again.

To sum it up it was great day2. Lot of things learnt. At the end of it
I think that HBD is a very sweet girl not one those bitchy kinds. I
can see that this is heading towards a Romantic relationship rather
than "Friends with benefits" kind. I think my game is not of the FWB
type. I really think that relationships are great, but has to be
handled very carefully. Coz I feel very bad when other person is hurt
or heartbroke cuz of me. I know I can be honest and tell her about my
multiple dating lifestyle. Any other tips that you guys have to help
me outta this mindset/sticking point would be greatly appreciated.

Oh, BTW if you have read it all, thanks I know its fucking long.


Lessons:
1. Persistence and being direct/honest can work wonders
2. Show that you are willing to risk it. And you don't care if you she
is playing you.
3. Alternate between comforting and attraction material. Comfort
material can be boring sometimes. So, sprinkling it with some banter
and playful teasing can spice up things.
4. Palm lock test for seeing kino compliance. If palm lock is complied
some major kino escalation can be done.