How we talk ourselves off oppurtunities.

Here is an article that exactly captures my thoughts at the moment of truth.

http://approachanxiety.com/?p=183

Believe me.. there is no next time. Now is the time and today is the day.

Questions... A 1000 of them

Why is that I am finding it soooooo difficult to even approach ?
Have I lost my game ?
Should I get committed to my One-itis ?
Why do I miss my LTR so much ?
Should I quit the game ?
Would I be cool with it later, if I quit the game now ?
Is my game affecting my work ?
Am I gaining anything at all (if not qualified women) by playing the game ?


992 other similar questions are invading my thoughts. And I am damn confused. It feels like I am just a waste of space and resources on this planet. Feel like my 'quest' is taking away too much of my time and energy.


In any quest there will be problems. Probably a million of them. One thing that I have learnt by experience. Whatever is the problem there is a solution. Only thing that I have to ensure is to 'hang on tight' till I get the solution.

But amidst all these questions I know one thing for sure; "I want to be good at whatever I play". And definitely "I won't quit the game, till I get the game". You call it stupidity/stubbornness/being adamant... It doesn't matter to me. I know what I want, I know it clearly and I am going to get it.


i. From my initial days I grew some game. My game took a dip while I was in l.t.r . Then I started this blog and used to updated it regularly and my game started improving. Then for some reason and/or laziness updating the blog didn't happen that regularly... and the game dived into the depths of darkness. Probably its a good idea to script down my thoughts and put it down here. I guess its gives me a much required direction and strengthens my beliefs.
ii. First ten minutes is the most important time in the field if u are in hunter mode it better to open any damn set in first time minutes. Otherwise 3 second rule is good I guess.
iii. Concentrate on the bread-and-butter work. One area of the life certainly has effects on the other. So, if your game isn't going good. Try and be the best at your work. It requires lot of concentration and dedication to be the best. But when @ work no thinking about game or any other distraction. Get the best of the work. And sarging will definitely give the best. Amidst work make some time for sarging regularly.


So things u gotta do.
i. Concentrate on work. Be your best.
ii. Best time to do anything is NOW. Open ASAP.
iii. Update this blog regularly.

PS: If I sound confused in this post, then probably I am.

The best reponse ever

Set : 4 + 0
Target: HB8 . Very cute. Had a great dress going for her. But thick glass. About 18... (I doubt)
Location : Westside, Forum
Time : 2:00 PM

Drake : (After lot of pumping up ). Hey hi. I think you are really cute. I just wanted to come and meet you up.
HBGlasses: (Shocked).....
Drake : I am Drake... (thrust my hand out)
HBGlasses : (Confused. Moves away into the security of the group :P)
Drake : :???
HBGlasses : (Realizes that this is an approach) WOULD YOU TELL THE SAME THING TO YOUR MOM AND SISTER.
Drake : :????
Drake : (Regain composure) Guys guys guys.... I apologize I am sorry for having approached you. Have a nice day.


WOW!!! thats quite a scarer. :-). I wasn't prepared for that at all. lol. Telling my mom or sister that they are cute.... I definitely think I cant do that. ROTFL. Anyways nice experience. This is the first time ever that I got blown off like this that too in a direct approach. Maybe she was LSE.

Another set with the same direct opener. Target is a model...that PBR knows. Of course very good looking about 20 and great sense of dressing... I am still drooling for her.
Me : Hey hi.
Set : Hi
Me : I really think that you are very adorable.
HBModel : Oh. So nice of you thank you. (No smiles straight face )
Me : I just wanted to come and meet you. I am Preetham.
HBmodel: I am HBM.
Me (to obstacle) : And u ??
Obstacle : I am HBObstacle.
Me : So......
HBModel : We are really in a hurry .. I gotta go.
Me : I know thats a lie ;-)
HBMod : No... it i ( I cut her short)
Me : But its OK. NP. Have a nice day.
HBMod : Thanks you too.

What should have been done instead.
HBMod : We are really in a hurry.. I gotta go now.
Me : Oh I gotta go as well. But I am really interested in knowing more about you. I am sure there must be something more than just the raw beauty about you that attracts ppl.
Me : I am not free 2moro. How about day after tomorrow ?? Are you free ?
HBM : I am not free till weekend.
Me : Fair enough. I am busy till Saturday afternoon. I can get some time Saturday afternoon we can meet. 3PM brigade road CCD.
HBM : hmmmm.
Me : Gimme your number so that I can co-ordinate the date.
....

Point here is anyway the set is being lost. Give a last try for the date. May be it will click. If it doesn't click ... big deal. Adeno heltaralla ... " Hodre shaaaa#!$% Bandre Gudda" i.e I got nothing to loose.

SP: Stacking is a SP these days. Take great care. Make it point in set. So many ops today where stacking could have been done. But I couldnt DAMN DAMN DAMN.

Buyer's Remorse Or SN

They say
" Nadi moola kandhidibahudu, samudrada aala kandhidbahudu aadre naari mansnalli yenide anta yaru kandhidyakagalla"
Roughly translates to :
" You can find the origin of a river, measure the depths of the Ocean but you can never understand whats on a woman's mind"

Even after studying the Venusian arts and practicing it for so many days.. this mystery seems to deepen.

Anyways, it was an awesome day3. I was supposed to meet her up at 7 in the evening. I land up in a friend's house (nearby to her house from where I was supposed to pick her up) at about 6:45. About 6:50 my mobile buzzes off.

Drake: Hey hi all set.
HBD : Hey hi.... hmmm (seemed to be a bit hesitant. Symptoms of Flake-itis)
Drake : ..................... ( Silence .. the weapon of mass destruction :-)
HBD : Actually u know what... I was mentioning to you that I had invitation for this party which I was thinking of not attending. The host called me up half an hour back and personally invited me. Now I have to go.
Drake : (taking it very lightly) ......... hmmm ok. (completely unaffected and neutral tonality)
HBD : Where are you right now ?
Drake : Just 5 minutes away from your home (Pause, pause pause ) But it's not a matter. I have this friend of mine staying near by. I will visit him we will chill over some beers. So don't you worry. Enjoy your party. (Neutral tone)
HBD : hmmm..... (silence... can tell that she is really feeling bad for flaking on me at the nth moment )
Drake : .................
HBD : Hey, I really want to meet you at-least for 15-20 minutes. How have you come ?
Drake : I am with my girl... unicorn.
HBD : Cool, come down to my place. We can meet up for about half an hour or so.
Drake : hmmm ... Ok sure.

I land up near her house. She's in a pair of blue denims and a red top.... as usual looking highly cool.
Drake : Hi cutie. Hop on, we are going for a long drive.
She hops on my bike. I ask her how much time she has... she says not to bother and leave her back when she tells to.

Now at this point I was preparing to my open up my Kino bag. I have this usual kino material for the bike rides.

On Bike kino escalation:
1. At signals casually drop your elbows on to her knees. Do it in a relaxed casual way. Look for compliance and comfort.
2. At next signal use your palms kino her on the knees. Blabber something while doing so.
3. Caressing the knees. Look for compliance and comfort.
4. Escalate caressing to thigh and calves. If you are doing this and the reaction is compliance or neutral. Time to go for a palm lock... kiss her on the back of the palm . And further you can lead her to hug u from the back by taking her hands and wrapping them around yourself.

The above routine is field tested. Results are assured.

Anyways, I couldn't use this routine on her. Shit, she didn't allow me to use the kino material. After about 30 seconds on my bike she hugs me from behind. Ahaaa how romantic. :P.

I escalate further by caressing her arms. Going for palm lock. Pecking her on the back of her palms. Even she is escalating by caressing my chest and touching me on my facing. To which I accuse her of trying to turn me on and I wont be that easy. Woah!! was it a bike ride or a kino ride :P.

The 20 minutes bike ride turned out to be a full hour kino game. I drop her back at her place. She gives me a cute hug and tell me how much she enjoyed the bike ride. Further she pecks on my cheeks for which I was totally unprepared. I was caught off-guard. She waves me a good bye and head inside her house. It didn't even occur to me that I could k-close her. DAMMMNNNNNN!!!! I deserve to be bitch slapped. Whose gonna do it... file your nominations, quick.

2 weeks since that meet up. I don't know whats up with her. Forget calling me... she is reluctant to even pick my calls. The reason being "I am busy", which I totally buy as any stupid looser would buy it. I persisted for about a week... thinking that she is having a huge buyer's remorse for escalating things. But my persistence didn't pay off this time. Or is it the case that "something" happened at the party that she doesn't even consider me in the frame anymore. I know that I shouldn't be expecting any communication from her. Further persisting with her would make me nothing but a wuss-bag. So lets cleanup my cellphone and go fishing.

Oh BTW, actively escalate things to K-Close (and more) as soon as possible. When things are going well in a phase advance to ext phase by assuming that things are 'on'. As my wing PBR puts it "It's better to kiss and lose the girl than not to kiss her at all".


SN : SuLe Nataka (kannada lingo) -> Bitch Games

The power of warm reads

Usually don't hitch-hike. Earlier used to feel that its weird asking a stranger to do you a favor by dropping me off to some destination. Social anxiety of making a fool out of myself if I am not acknowledged. But, wait a minute... what would I think if somebody else would ask me for a 'lift'. Depending on my mood I would either be happy to help them out or I will be 'neutral' and just move on. Certainly, I wouldn't think anything bad about the person asking me a favor. And I reckon, other people would be thinking on same lines as well.

I can find parallels in the PU stuff. If somebody were to approach me and chat me up 'coz they like me (no other intention behind it.. or at least they aren't hiding their intentions). It would only make me happy. Doesn't same apply to picking up chiks ??? Chicks would be happy, 'coz they are appealing to the opposite sex.

Ooopppppsss !! off track :-). Back to the hitch-hike story. The other day I happened to ask for 'lift' from this motorcyclist. Looks like he is in his 40s. He stops and I hop on his bike.

Man : Where do you want to go ? ( Well it sounded like tamilized English :-)
Intution. I felt that this guy might be a follower of Christianity.
Me : Can you pls drop me to xxx place up ahead ??
Man : Sure, I am going in the same direction.
Me : Great sir.... I am Preetham and your name sir.
Man : I am David.

After this initial conversation there was an awkward silence. I know that we have to talk or its gonna get more awkward. But there is this initial hitch ... kinda like AA thats stopping me from opening my mouth. I come up with various ridiculous reasons for not to talk to him.

"Well he is biking and I shouldn't be disturbing him"

"I'll talk to him when he stops at the next signal"

After about two minutes of rationalize my silence I decide to 'fuck it' and talk to him anyways. I try to do a small talk about about his work, where he currently heading, his work timings and stuff. But, all of this comes out like I am interviewing him. He is not warming up to the conversation ( OK OK community lingo ... . 'Opening Up':-).

After about 1 more minute of awkward silence.

Me : Sir, you know what ? I had this intuition about you, the moment I met you.
Man : hmmm...
Me : I don't know why I felt it... But I certainly felt that you are a follower of Christianity.
Man : May be my name is Christian name.
Me : No No... even before that... when you just asked me as to where u can drop me off. I had the intuition that you might be a Christian.
Man : May be its my accent and my appearance.
Me : Possibly yeah.

After this point the guy is opened up. Further we talked about family/native place/traveling/friends etc. Basically no silence was awkward from then on. And I didn't have any issue asking him any 'normal' questions, neither did he.

Looking back at it. I can see, its a warm read. Warm read ??? Well, its like cold read. But unlike the cold read, the information being 'read' is already know or its obvious. In the above case, I warm read him of being a follower of Christianity. The information was so obvious from his name and all I have to do it was just say that I intuitively knew that he was Christian already.

I don't exactly know if I am generalizing things based on a single case or not. But, it obviously helps to strengthen the connection with the person being warm read. I have to test this out on a few sets before I can say it for sure. In the meanwhile, lemme know what do you guys think about this ?

Day2 : I will come like a beggar

It was a tiring Sunday. I hit the sack early by 10 PM. Within minutes
I was fast asleep. About 11:45 PM I was disturbed. Without even I
realizing what I was up to I had answered the phone. The half awake me
could recognize that it was a female voice on the other end :-) but
couldn't guess who. I checked the number again... I didn't have it
stored on my phone.
Drake (rubbing eyes): err... hello... ummmhh
: Hi Preetham wazzup. (She seemed to be
bubbling up with energy at midnight and I was all sleepy :P)
Drake : Errrrr.... Who is this ?
: Its HBDaccan here.
It took a while for the sleeping gaint to realize who actually was on
the other end.

Same HBDaccan from the "FR: Bangbros episode 24 @ hint". Earlier, I
had unsuccessfully tried to setup day2s with this babe. I had been
very direct with this girl in asking her out. Mostly used things
like..... "Hey lets have a date on so and so date" or "I have been
trying to setup a day2, but u lil Miss Sunshine is acting very busy. I
am free on so and so date, wazzup with ya ?" (note: these lines were
delivered with an alpha mindset of "I know what I want. And I want to
get it" and not with a "make my life gimme a date " frame). Although
she seemed to liked my approach and talk sweetly with me, she would
never return my call or msgs. She looked busy. I kept msging/calling
her once every 2/3 days till 15 days back when she totally stopped
taking my calls. It looked like another one of the "DEFs - Delayed
Effect Flakes". Before deleting her number I sent her an SMS.

"I been unsuccessfully asking you out for the past few days. Now, I am
confused about your feelings. If you don't like to date me pls feel
free to tell me the same and we can just be friends. That way we can
save a bit of each others precious time"

I expected a reply... I got none. And the available free memory on my
cellphone increased a bit. The last thing I ever expected was to get a
call from her after about 10 or so days.

HBDaccan: Sorry Preetham I was not able to attend your call or msg you
back. Know what my company got merged with other company and I had to
attend a lot of training for 3 to 4 weeks and was very busy. (Felt
that she was being genuine )
All I could do at the point was to mumble up a few ummms, aahhhs and
OK No Problems as I desperately wanted to go back to my sleep again.

Tuesday I share this incident with Hedonist ( oops!!!, pardon me
brother .. "Head on tits" i.e). He advices me to go direct and ask her
out again. But I couldnt call her as I was busy the entire day. The
next day I was having a terrible time at work. My mobile rings .
Drake : Hey hi, HBD wazzzup.
: blah blah blah
HBDaccan : It's my off today. I have come to CMH road for some
shopping. Where are you ?
Drake : I am miles away baby and I am very busy at work.
HBDaccan : So we can't meet right now ??
Drake : It will be very very difficult for me.
HBD : Whats the plan 2moro ? I will be free by 1 PM .
Drake : I will be off from work at about 6PM.
HBD : So, can we meet 2moro.
Drake : Well OK. 6PM Planet M, brigade Road.
HBD : Ok fine.
Drake : Hey, wear something very sexy.
HBD : No, I will come like a beggar.
Drake : Nice, I get to see some nice body parts thru ur phata purana
beggar dress + I get to collect all your alms.
HBD : (Giggles) u r too much
Some more banter before we end the call.

My game plan for the date was to shop for some T-shirts ( I really
needed one ) followed by coffee/walk date. Basically want to keep it
low key date. As far as my verbal game is concerned, these days I am
trying to alternate between A and C. i.e mix up attraction and comfort
material. Basically, bust on her/ pass C&F comments/banter and in
between use some comfort material like deep rapport talk, share your
vulnerabilities and stuff.

I was early at the venue and had opened a set already so was already
in the conversational mood. I had very faint idea as to how she looked
like. Coz we had earlier met in a dark club some 6 weeks back. She
turned out to be a solid 8.5 ( -ve marks on the tummy) in a pair of
blue denims and a girlie girlie top. Open long hairs. Very subtle, but
well made up. Oh boy, she is cute , i mutter to myself.
Drake : Hey hi.
HBD : Hiiii (we shake hands. Kino her on elbow while shaking hands)
Drake : Hey, nice beggar dress. ;-) ( Straight away into banter yeah)
HBD : (Giggles) Thanks
Drake : But sad, I cant really see much of your body parts through
this dress. :-(
HBD : Hey !!! (HBD, playfully punches my tummy)
Drake : ( Smile ) Hey come with me... lets hunt for a funkie tee for
me.
HBD : Ok.
HBD : I thought you were like a real sweet guy. But you are turning
out to be a naughty and flirty guy.
Drake : Yeah sure.
Drake (In a very serious voice tonality) : The last time we met, I
thought you were about 27-28 (years old). But now I think you are
REALLY REALLY Cute. ( Yeah kinda push pull )
HBD : I take it as a compliment. ( May be she thought I was being
sarcastic)
Drake : No, honestly I think you are really cute.

As we jump around a few shops looking for my tee..while doing so we
talk about our mutual taste/liking when it comes to apparels. She even
cold reads me that I am 'into' peacocking and she that likes my watch
and the neck piece. lol

I remember talking to all the shop keepers in the local language. She
notices this..
HBD: Hey, I like to learn Kannada. Can you teach me?
Drake : Sure.
( Teach her a few basic sentences and lingo )
Drake : OK, 125Rs 32 Paise pls. That my language training fees.
HBD : I will pay you in some other way (don't really know what was
that supposed to mean ? I leave the thread there :-)

We finish my mini-shopping. We head towards CCD on Brigade Road. At
the signal she is trying to cross the road while light is still red. I
hold her back by her hand.
Drake : Ezzzz lil Miss Sunshine. Think of what would happen if you
collide with the bus. POOR BUS.
HBD (with a straight face): Ok Mr. Handsome :-|
Drake : And stop playing with your hairs. It means something totally
different.
She starts yapping about how she is not allowed to touch her hairs in
her line of work.
Drake : You know what... girls in your line of work have this 'air'
around themselves. You know all that Nakhra and stuff. I was
pleasantly surprised that you are not like them all and I find that
very SEXY about you. :-).
HBD : :-) Oh so many compliments.
Drake : Hey you are bad girl ;-) :-). You have not even returned a
single compliment. :-). You will go to hell for sure. lol (Banter
saves the day again)
HBD : :-)

We settle down at CCD, order for some coffee.
Drake : So where did ya finish your schooling ? ( Oh yeah I am the
interviewer lol )
HBD : Ohhhhhhhhh interview... interview :-).
Drake sits there with a straight face expecting an answer. After about
three seconds she gives in and tells me about her school days. I share
a lil story about how we would break all the rules at residential
school that I studied. We both connect well on the feeling of missing
those childhood days. Guys try this out, any person would miss his
school/college days. Find an interesting story or two from your school
or college days and share it with your dates, superb rapport material.
I even ask her about what she wanted to be when she was like 7 years
old. She tells me that she wanted to doctor but could get good marks
for AIIMS. And how she was all heart-broke,depressed and feeling
suicidal for not making it. I share my views on why I didn't take up
medical even though I had a good score. We further talked on about our
families/siblings/work/friends/love life and lot of other topics. By
the end of coffee session I feel like we are very well connected. On
the kino front... she was the one who's chasing me. Through out coffee
session she was the one kinoing me for petty reasons like, socking me
in the arm for teasing her, "hey there is something on you hair... let
me take it off for you" and stuff like that.

We go for a lil walk down the street towards Garuda Mall. On road more
kino from my side. Things like holding her by shoulders and directing
her towards the my left hand side so that I am walking on the curb.
Some protective kino like holding her by shoulders whenever there is a
group of guys coming from the opposite side. Leading her by holding
hands whenever there is not much room for both of us to walk
together.

We come near to Garuda mall and she suggest me that we sit near Garuda
for sometime. Basically there is this place outside the mall where
usually couples sit and chill. We end up sitting there. She is
comfortable enough to sit very close by me. Our legs and shoulders are
touching. I know now that I can go in for an explicit kino. At high
points in the interaction (when we crack up on joke, or any
emotionally charged moment) I would give her a explicit kino. Taking
her hand when laughing it off and placing it on my knees (yeah its
stays there .. kino compliance). Reaffirming hug from sideways when
she told me some emotionally involved things about her parents. And
later even on low points I would hold out my hand (as if asking her
for placing her hand in) she would just place her hand into mine.
Followed it up by a palm lock (basically your palm on her palm and
your fingers just lock on to the back of her palm), she complies. I
have found that if there is compliance for palm lock ..
congratulations you got the girl under your spell ;-) you can escalate
with some major kino from then on. Went for hand on her shoulders and
she complied by putting her hands around my waist.

It was times up by 8:30. Didn't even realize how 2 hours just flew by.
She had to go back home. Damn, I was missing my Unicorn ( I had left
my ride at home) coz a motorbike is helluva thing for kino. Cursing
myself I just catch her a Rik and leave her with a good bye hug.

At 10:00 she buzzes me. Tells me that she had a wonderful time.
Without being much of an ass, I told that drake had a great time too
and he can't wait to see her again.

To sum it up it was great day2. Lot of things learnt. At the end of it
I think that HBD is a very sweet girl not one those bitchy kinds. I
can see that this is heading towards a Romantic relationship rather
than "Friends with benefits" kind. I think my game is not of the FWB
type. I really think that relationships are great, but has to be
handled very carefully. Coz I feel very bad when other person is hurt
or heartbroke cuz of me. I know I can be honest and tell her about my
multiple dating lifestyle. Any other tips that you guys have to help
me outta this mindset/sticking point would be greatly appreciated.

Oh, BTW if you have read it all, thanks I know its fucking long.


Lessons:
1. Persistence and being direct/honest can work wonders
2. Show that you are willing to risk it. And you don't care if you she
is playing you.
3. Alternate between comforting and attraction material. Comfort
material can be boring sometimes. So, sprinkling it with some banter
and playful teasing can spice up things.
4. Palm lock test for seeing kino compliance. If palm lock is complied
some major kino escalation can be done.

Now that the game is gone.

Game is all time low. Plus suffering with a huge huge one-itis. Plus parents moved in with me. Totally confused. Is it the end of Drake.... or is it. There are three suggestions/solutions though.
1. Sarge
2. Sarge more
3. Sarge even more.
:-( well jokes apart. I need to get some motivation and time to sarge.
steps :
1. Get to the center of the town where u can go out and sarge almost daily.
2. Go thru the materials again... juggler, DYD, mystery.

FR: How I met this natural 'guy' @ Hint

Well, you guys guessed it right. Tuesday, and its ladies night at
HINT.

The evening started with me getting blown-off at Garuda while I wait
for Maser (who lived up to his fame of "late comer".) Finally maser
arrives at Garuda.

We do a few warm-up sets. We open up a set of two in cafeteria with
WLM and a set next to them is all ears. After about 3 minutes in the
set. We decide to run the same opener on the adjacent set. We thank
our current set and end up with the second set. They act as if they
aren't interested. I was about to eject. But Maser wanted to plow
through and sure we did. WLM didn't work. Maser switches gears to run
best friend which didn't work. Switch to U v/s C smiles. Which also
didn't work. But however the set is having fun. Finally, they agree to
answer WLM and they do. After which we eject. The best part about this
is plowing through was awesome fun and we got into state.

We catchup with my friend P and head to Hint.

@HINT
Bouncer: How many of you ?
Me : 3 stags
Bouncer : Today's ladies night and we arent allowing stags.
Me (kino bouncer on the arm): Are you sure ?
Bouncer : We don't allow too many stags. It will take a while for you
guys to get in.
Well if ladies get drinks on the house then how will they (club) make
money. I know the bouncer is BSing.
Me to Wings: Guys, I think its better to head to Taika (another club
nearby) rather than wait here. What do ya guys say ?
P and MC: ya man lets hit Taika.
We do a body turn as if we are ejecting. Then we turn to face the
Bouncer.
Me : So how long did ya tell it will take us to get in ??
Bouncer (smiling) : Well Rs 200 entry and Rs 300 cover.
With a big-ass smile on my face I motion our guys to get in. Make a
small talk with the bouncer as we enter in.

We get inside Hint at about 9PM. And holy hell, the place is crawling
with ............ well STAGS (well its not called ladies night for
nothing.) Not a single babe in sight. So, we chill over a pint of
beer, some nice music and brake dance shows on TV, while the venue
comes to life. In about half an hour there are HBs everywhere. And we
proclaim, "Let the games begin".

We end up in the lounge area. Spot a two set. HBJas(club -7.5 may be a
6 if I had seen her in proper lighting) had a signature southren dark
complexion and HBAnamika. Decided to approach and my wingmen did a lil
bit of much required 'pimping up my state'. I am off. Pulling a chair
from nearby I walk up to them.

Drake# : Hey guys, I am Preetham (thrust my palms out)
HBJas (smiling) : I am Jasmine (shaking my hands) (I later figure out
that its not her fake BPO name)
Drake to HBAnamika : And you.
HBAnamika : (Just shakes my hand and doesn't but doesn't tell her
name)
Drake : You guys come here often is it.
HBJas : No, this is just the second time. ( Already touching her hair
and smiling )
I don't know if it was the way I approached the set or something else.
But, IOIs started out very very early in the sets.
So Drake decides to switch to banter mode.
Drake : So you are one of those girls yeah.
HBJas : One of what girls ?
Drake (funny vibe) : One of those girls who keep on visiting every
club in the city only on ladies night yeah.
Set : (giggles)
Drake : So that you get free drinks yeah. And whats that drink ...
Orange juice yeah. C'mon guys, Orange juice is not what you take if
its on the house.
HBJas : (Giggling) Noooooo, its orange juice with Vodka.
In the mean time I notice that HBJas has an accent.
Drake : Wait a minute. Do you have an accent ?? You don't look like an
ABCD.
HBJas: Thats because we work for a call-center.
Drake : So its a fake accent. Just to attract ppl huhn!! Its not
working on me.
Drake : So I guess your names are also fake . Is that your Las Vegas
names ?
They don't get what I meant by Las Vegas names. They look at each
other and look at me sheepishly. I go silent and let silence do its
job.
Drake : ..................
After about 10 seconds.
HBJas : Where are you from ?
Drake ( In my sloppy 'mercan accent) : I from San-Francisco. USofA.
HBJas : You dont sound like one.
Drake (sloppy 'mercan accent) : Just like you guys I am trying to fake
an Indian accent to fool ppl around.
Set: (Giggling) Oh you are so funny . ( Sloppy accent did the trick I
guess)
Drake: Wait a minute. Are like trying to flirt with me. (credits :
Mango aka marina hunter)
HBJas: No, I am not.
Drake: Then you should try your hand at it. You never know when you
get lucky.
HBJas : (giggling)
Drake : But don't get any funny ideas now. You ain't getting lucking
to-night. (Credits :Mango aka marina hunter)
HBJas : What does that mean ? :-)
Drake : You know what it means ;-).
The conversation continued on the similar lines. For about another
five or so minutes. At some point their friends come in I intro myself
to all the friends without waiting for the set to intro me. The set is
6 set now. And, I turn back to signal Maser to pitch-in. But, maser or
P wasn't to be seen anywhere around. So, I eject.

I see another 3 (HBN - cute one with good cleavage ;-) ,HBP - Cute
babe with braces:D,HBChimney - wasn't hot but smoking ;-) set in the
other lounge area of hint. I walk up to them confidently.
Drake : Hey guys ! whatzup ??
Set : (Neutral look ) ..... (as if they are trying to remember who
might I be )
Drake (Occupying a empty chair): I am Preetham. (Thurst my hand out)
HBN : I am HBN.
HBP : I am HBP.
HBChimney: I am Priscilla.
Drake (faking a confused look) :What ??? Shakila ??? ;-).
All of them crack up for playfully goofing up of her name. Notice that
they are giving IOIs (playing with hairs and stuff)
Drake : I can see that you guys are enjoying yourself . Cheers guys.
(Raising my bottle for a toast. To which the set complies)
Drake : (Kino HBN on the Knee ) Interesting drink. What is it ???
Lemme guess..... Water on the rocks :-)???
Set : (Giggling) No. Its Vodka.
Set : So you do this always. Walk up and talk to girls.
Drake : Not always. Only with the cute ones :-). ( Credits due)
:
:
Banter for some more time, details of which I don't remember . Some
more kino (mainly on knees and highfives). After about 5 minutes in
the set Maser and P enter the set. I sorta accomplish intro them.
Maser immediately goes into banter mode. At one point maser talks
about pickup lines.

Maser: So, guys what are best pickup lines that you have heard.
HBN : I don't remember any. (Outsourcing the question to HBP) What are
the pickup lines you have heard.
HBP : I haven't been picked up yet.
Drake sees a window of oppurtunity. And jumps in.
Drake to HBP: REALLY. Now is your time and today is your lucky day.
You are getting picked. (Holding her hand and leading her to dance
floor)
Set is giggling. But, HBP is sorta shy to follow and resists a bit.
But, I persist. And we are off to Dance floor. Some kino on her back
on the way to dance floor. Just few spins and some more kino. We get
back to where the set is. BIG BIG BIG mistake. I screwed up my chance
of isolating and further escalation (Somebody kick me in the butt - I
have to remember this lesson ). I should have led her away from the
set and run some comfort game. As we get back to set, Maser and P are
ejecting. Hug HBP and go for the close.

Drake to HBP: I would like to meet you again. Whats your number ?
HBP : Well..... Here it is 9xxxx xxxxx
Drake : Hey, Repeat it slowly.
At this point I observe that HBs are eye-talking. You know chicks do
this eye-to-eye communication.
HBP (in a straight voice) : Hey, it doesn't matter. I ain't meeting
you again.
Drake (straight voice) : It's Ok. Have fun guys. (Eject)

We hit the bar, grab a beer. And I see this fat warpig (lets call her
HBUG -:P). She gives me an EC as she settles down in a chair some 10
feet away from me. I communicated (non-verbally) with her motioning
her to hit the dance floor and have some fun. She reciprocates
positively. She sure does hits the dance floor while doing so she
motions me to join along. As I join her on the dance floor she intros
me to her friends (the intro came across as I am an old friend of
her). Well guess what ??? I had hit the bulls-eye by opening the HBUG.
The set has a HB8 (call her HBDaccan :P) and two other cougars. I
intro my friends into the set. And we jam the dance floor. Basically
lot of incidental kino with all the girls. And some grinding with
HBDaccan. Well, we had some AMOGs too. AMOG1 who was trying to grind
HBDaccan while he threw few challenging looks at me. I just ignore him
and let him dance with HBDaccan while I dance with other ladies of the
group. After a few momemts AMOG1 has blown himself out. Think he over
did the kino and HBDaccan is far away from him. AMOG2 is a lesser amog
who is trying to get some incidental kino from HBDaccan. Make friends
with him and encourage him to do more of his shit, showing off that I
am also in the same league as him (he doesn't know that I have met the
set). Rest, I don't know how he managed to blow himself away.

After a while of dancing I eject the floor. Join HBUG in the lobby and
do so serious fluffing. Even number close HBUG (with a friendly vibe
ofcourse ;-). Later, HBDaccan joins in.

Drake (smile): I really like your energy. It was really nice dancing
with you.
HBDaccan: (Smiles)
Drake : So what are you ? Professional dancer or something ?
HBDaccan : No, I am an Airhostess.
Drake : Really. Whom do you work for ?
HBDaccan : Work for (low cost airlines)
Drake (in a humorous demeaning voice) : Oh Daccan. I guess you vend
peanuts there ? (OMG!! Can't beleive said that, such an ass-soul)
Set : (Giggles)
Drake : So what are the different ways in which you sell your peanuts
to customers.
Drake : Well, you can sell the tapori istyle - Yeh ShaNe chup chap
Peanuts lene ka.
Drake : And if its a handsome guy you can sell in a sweet way -
Sweetheart (kino her on cheeks as I show her how to do it) take some
peanuts.
Drake : If its cute kid you can sell in a cute way - Cutie (kino on
hairs and chin) here take some peanuts.

As I write the above lines, I am laughing my ass off. Can't believe
such a silly stuff, worked. She is giggling and seemed to enjoy the
Kino.

Switch to fluff. Some serious fluff and hand holding (would initiate a
high five and never let go off the hands after hi-5.) Observe that she
squeezed my hand back when I held it.

I go for the #close as the set decides to eject. Though HBDaccan is
giving her number I felt that it would be a flake. She doesn't seemed
to be very interested in exchanging number. Even HBUG utter some word
like "Raat gayi baat gayi.. never bother" hinting a flake. But anyways
I get the number. And wish them good bye.

Later, joined HBJas on dance floor. I go for the close as the last
track ramps down.
Drake : Hey, it was really nice meeting ya. Would like to meet you
again. Whats your number ?
HBJas : I am not giving my number. ( even at this point , she is
smiling and playing with her hairs :-)
Drake : I can give you gr8 references. My mom, sis, my nursery teacher
etc. (Credits due)
HBJas : (giggles) Ok, take it 9xxxxx xxxxx
Just by looking at it I could tell that the number was fake. So, I
dial the number and place the mobile oh her ears to have her listen to
invalid number tone.
Drake (with a smile) : Fake name, Fake accent and even fake numbers
yeah. Look, whats the worse that can happen. I might end up making a
really dumb friend yeah. Its Ok.
HBJas : ( Smiling and giving some more IOIs - Don't know what I should
make out of this. Any comments fellas??)
Drake : Well its ok guys. Forget the number. I will take your leave
now. Have fun.

Eject to home and hit the sack.

Lessons:
1. Plow through - Never know when the set hooks. ( Plow through iff
the set is having fun and not getting pissed off ).
2. When a set plays you by not giving out names. Goof up with their
name. Guess their name and make it a funny name.
Me : I didnt get your names?
Set: 'Coz, we didnt give it out yet.
Me : Lemme guess in that case.......(pause) ... (pause).. Ok here it
is Mayawati, Phoolwati and Basmati.
For the rest of time call them with these names.
3. Isolate Isolate Isolate... and run some comfort game.
4. Take the obstacles into confidence before you go for the number.
Target will give her digits out if her friends are ok with it. Is it
some sort of approval seeking from group or is it a insecurity? A
better line would be.
Me to obstacle : Hey, your friend is so adorable. I would like to meet
her again. Will it be OK with you if I ask her digits.
5. Be a social being talk to everybody. For you never know when you
hit the jackpot.
6. Kino is powerful.

PS: Talked to HBDaccan and HBUG (they are roomies). They talk very
sweetly. We connect well. Somewhere in the conversation I let out the
fact that next day is my bday. And sure I had HBDaccan buzzing my
phone at 00:00 AM. Finally, not a flake yeah. And yeah its my B'day
today. No guys I don't accept costly gifts so don't bother ;-) just
Wish me a 'playful 27' ahead.

# : Drake is my player half.

Approaching with your (non-lair) friends

I always wanted to do this stuff. Approach a set or two when chilling
along with my friends. The ultimate goal being - making 'approaching
sets' a second nature of myself. Y'day happened to one of those days
when I did actually approach a few sets when hanging out with my non-
lair friends. And they were highly cool with it. I always knew that
they would only encourage my 'talking to strangers' attitude. And,
sure they did especially the girls.

I saw this cute lone-wolf while we ( HDP, HDL, HBSP and me (HD-
>HotDude, HB->HotBabe)) were chilling-out on a cuppa cold coffee at

Barista. After a while the lonewolf went outta sight. Then as we were
ejecting I saw the lone-wolf again.
Me : Hey HBSp , I want go talk to her.
HBSp: Yeah sure lets go.
( We start walking towards lone-wolf - Lets call her HBN (HB-7.5) )
HBSp: But, I won't start the conversation with her.
Me : Don't worry I do all the talking, you just be there along with
me.

HBSp: Hey Preetu, lets go back man :P.
Me : No, No. We are already knee deep lets get over this.
HBSp: OK. Lets do it.

Me to HBN: Hey Hi, Can we join you?
HBN : (Smiling) I am sorry. I am waiting for my friends to join me.
Me : Hey NP, I just wanted to come here and compliment you .
Me : You have a unique sense of dressing. I like it.
HBN (Smiling) : Hey thank you very much.
Me : I am Preetham. This is my friend HBSp.
HBN (Thrusting her palm out) : This is HBN.
:
:
We blabber around for a minute or two.
Me : HBN, We will leave you to wait for your friends now. Cya.
HBN: It was nice meeting you guys.
Me and HBSp: Same here. Have a nice day.

Well, having a female friend by your side surely does help. Girls are
more open to your approach.

After the approach when we joined our other two friends. HBSp can't
wait to tell the story of the approach. She is all excited :-). I felt
good for it was a whole new experience approaching with my female
friend by my side.

I did one more set as we were walking down the brigade road. A set of
4 UGs blabbering about "Jhoom barabar jhoom". And I open them with "Is
that movie that great". And we talked about movies as we walked down
stretch of brigade road. After the set my friends were appreciating me
for the opening.

Lesson I learnt was invaluable. Don't hesitate to approach when you
are hanging out with your non-lair bros. Each approach will help you
earn more respect from your friends. And further they might get
inspired... and there is nothing more satisfying than "Spreading the
light - the light of the game".

FR: I Found A Way

I never thought that it'd be so simple but
I found a way, I found a way
I always thought that it'd be too crazy but
I found a way, I found a way

Lines from the title song of one of my favorite TV series 'Drake and
Josh'. The song always pumps me up, so does the show. Story of two
brothers Drake : The rockstar player and Josh : The Intelligent AFC. A
Hilarious show.

Saturday was superb day. The day, 'I found a new way' of gaming -
Direct and Situational openers. We pushed our limits. We were really
amazed by the things we did. Don't even remember the number of sets we
opened. It was like non-stop yapping, basically just talk/banter/have
fun with anyone and everyone - Kids, Moms, Uncles, Aunties, Couples,
all girl sets and mixed sets.

I roll into Forum listening to "I found a way" on my mp3 player. I had
to wait for Flamin and Maser Caster. So, I went into landmark
(bookstore) just for some time pass. I am in Indian Writing section
turning a few pages.

Drake: There is a cute girl let me open her.
Josh : She is not THAT cute.
Drake: Whatever, lets do it for fun.
Josh : What if she blows you out big time. You can't even be in the
field after you get blown out.
Drake: Shut the fuck up Josh.
Josh : Look at the People watching at you. What will they think if you
approach her and talk to her.
Drake: Do I look like I care.
Josh : Ok, go talk to her, get blown out and be a looser.
Drake: Thanks, thats all the encouragement I need from you. Can you
pls leave me alone.

The cute babe gives proximity.
Drake (to HBC, with a big smile): Hey Hi, do you actually read all
these books or you just hang around here and turn pages while you wait
for your friends.
HBC: (Smiles) No, I am really into Indian writing. I always keep
reading these books.
Drake : But you don't look like one of those Nerdy girls at all.
HBC : (Smiles).
Drake: I am Drake. And you. (Extend the hand)
HBC : I am XXX.
Drake: Which of these books would you suggest me?

She suggests me few books by Jhumpa Lahiri. We talk a bit about the
book. And switch to fluff (background, employment and stuff). By then
my wingmen Flamin and MC arrive. I thank her for the suggestion and
eject. Maser drags us to food-court for he wanted to fill up his
tummy. Found a cute 3 set which we wanted to approach. But, blame it
on Josh. He messes Drake's state completely. And Drake decides not to
approach.

Out of food court we start roaming around in the mall. Maser points a
2 chinky set.
Josh : Drake, forget them they will blow you out.
Drake: Whatever I don't care ?
Josh : Your wish. I will just watch u getting blown out. It will be
fun.

Drake: Hey guys, I wish to give you a sincere compliment.
HBChinki : What ?? (with a nervous look)
Drake: You are very very cute. I just wanted to come here and say a
Hi.
HBChinki : Oh, thank you. (Starts walking away from us)
Drake: Have a rocking day guys. Bye.
Set : Bye

Drake (to Josh) : See that was ease.
Josh : But she didn't talk to you well.
Drake: Doesn't matter I am in state. I think you should go back to
home now. I don't need your company anymore.

The above were the initial few sets that I could remember well. We did
lot of direct openers. Putting them all here seems to be a bad idea to
me. So, I will write about some of the most memorable things we did.

Superman set:
A guy wearing a Superman T-shirt passing by.
Drake: (In a very loud voice) Yo superman ;-)
Superman dude : (smiles)
Drake: Where's your CAPE dude ?
Superman dude : I left it at home.
Drake: So sad, how will you be able to fly around and save chicks
now ?

Superman dude cracks up. And we laugh too. The point here being "talk
to anyone and everyone" not just chicks. Helps you to be in "The
state".

Toddler set:
I have found out that talking/playing with toddlers is good thing to
do. Kids don't reject or mind your approach. Further, I believe that
if you can befriend a toddler you can befriend anybody. 'Coz toddlers
are very pure at heart.

Drake (to firang mom): Your kid is so adorable. Can I play with him
for a while.
Mom : (Smiles)
Drake: Is it a boy or a girl ?
Mom : Its a baby girl. Her name is XXX.
Drake plays with the baby for a while. And when ejecting ;-)
Drake: (In a warm funny tone) Your baby is soo cute just like you.
Mom : (Laughs) Thanks
Her face told me that her day was made.

Firang milf set :
At McDonalds. Firang in her 40s occupies the adjacent seat. She is
reading a crime thriller.
Drake: Excuse me Madam. Can I have a look at that book ?
Firang: Sure.
I take a good look at the book and start talking with her about the
book (like what kinda book it is? About the author ). Then
conversation switched to her reading habits and the kinda books that
she likes to read. Later some fluff. As soon as our conversation dies
down, Flamin re-initiates conversation and runs loads and loads of
routines. And she is happily eating each one of it. By the time we
ejected, I am sure she would qualify as a 'chalti pirthi' backup of
Bristol lair ;-).

The Dance all night long 3 set :
We see the 3 set standing out the mall. BTB its the same set as the
one seen in food court. We observe that they were in their gymm-ing
dress. So Maser and myself approach them.

Drake: Hey guys do always come to Forum in your gymm-ing dress.
Set tells us that they just finished their dance classes and were
hanging out in the mall.
Drake : Actually the reason we approached you guys is. We think you
guys are very very cute and just wanted to come and say a hi to you
all.
HBDAN(HB6.5 with a t-shirt reading "Dance all night"): Thank you.
(With a straight face)
I now realise that I should have given this compliment specifically to
the target instead of giving it to the whole group. Some of the UGs in
the group must have felt like we are Bullshitting.

Drake: I am Preetham. And you(I extend my hand expecting an handshake)
HBDAN gives me a 'I don't care' look and I am left there holding my
hand out like an idiot :-(.
HBDAN: We are not interested.
Maser: Guys be polite and introduce yourself.
Drake: Ya and after that u can tell me to 'fuck off' and I won't mind.
HBDAN: Actually its polite to tell that we are not interested than
telling you to 'fuck off'.
Drake: (trying to be funny but missing the beats) Oh good god. How
boring can this thing get?
Bad calibration, the set got offended.
HBDAN: Look Mister. A) You approach us B) Look at your mannerisms C)
Look at your body language
I cut her off.. and blow her out before she blows me away.
Drake: D) Blah blah blah E) Blah blah blah F) Blah Blah Blah .....
HBDAN walks away and the rest of the group follows her. Me and Maser
laugh our asses off.

I realize my mistake. I must have recalibrate and told that I was
trying to be funny and no offense was intended. But my ego didn't
allow me to do so. This is a SP and should be taken care of.

The diamonds:
Husband and wife set in the movie ticket queue. Holding an Asmi
diamond jewelery carry bag (without any jewelery in it).
Drake: (Dramatic voice) Are there diamonds in the bag?
Wife: No no.
Drake: Because if there are diamonds, I am planning to steal it and
run away.
Both of them crack up.
Drake: You guys are best siblings I have ever seen.
Holy shit!!! They crack up yet again. And they explain to me that they
are Man and wife.
I introduce myself to them. They are happy to meet. We fluff for a few
minutes before ejecting.

The stylish girl:
Good looking lone wolf in a pink tank top, jeans, cap and long open
hairs. She had a unique style. She was moving towards the escalator. I
love doing sets on escalator 'coz they can't move away from you. The
only thing that needs to be taken care of is that you have to be
slightly ahead of them on the escalator. This is because they can't
blow you out by turning their back to you.
Drake: Hey hi.
HBS : Hi. (Neutral look)
Drake: I just wanted to come here and compliment you on your unique
sense of style.
HBS: Thank you.
Drake : So are you from around here ??
MISTAKE - Should have introduced myself before doing this.
HBS: Yeah.
Drake: My obvious next question will be - from where ?
HBS: Why do you want to know that?
Drake : (Being direct and upfront) Because, I think you are cute.
HBS: So ???
Drake : I wanna know more about you.
HBS: ---
Drake: Tell me where are you from.
As I tell this we get off the escalator.
HBS: I am sorry I am really not interested.
Drake: (Kino-ing her on the arm) Its not a big deal. Take care cya.


Mannequin starer:
HBFirang staring at a 'Guy Mannequin' in Reebok showroom. She is
probably thinking of buying the shirt on display for her brother or
may be for her dad :P.
Drake : You really dig that guy don't you ?
HBFirang: (Smiles)
And just then as if she had asked for it, her stupid phone starts
ringing. I ask her to receive the phone while I plant myself in front
of her. As she receives the phone she is like waving at me as if she
is taking my leave.
Drake : You finish the conversation I will be here. (With appropriate
hand signs)
She gets it but she still continues to wave at me with a smile. But, I
persist.
Drake : I am not going anywhere you finish the conversation then I am
talking to you (With appropriate hand signs again)
She continues to wave and walk away from me. And I beam a smile at her
and eject.

Well these are some of the most memorable sets that I had. There are
lot more sets worth mentioning. But, I guess neither me nor you guys
could spare more time on this thread.

As I was ejecting home, I heard my favorite song again. And the
following lines seemed like they were just written for me.


Now that I know that anything's possible
I found a way, I found a way
No one can break what is so unbreakable
I found a way, I found a way

Next steps:
Concentrate on bantering.
Work towards closes.

Shout Outs: Flamin and Maser Caster : YOU GUYS ROCK.

Lessons:
1. Require 3-4 sets to get into state.
2. Talk to kids and play around with them. Make faces at them and just
watch their amusement.
3. Recalibrate on the fly, if you fuck-up. Tell them directly that you
were trying to tease them and no offense was meant.

FR: UGs blow you out

One more smooth open to day morning at SSS my usual adda for BF. As I
enter in I find this 3 set munching on in their Dosas. Not that cute a
set. But, then I remembered the lair myth of "UGs blow you out" and
decided to take the challenge. I got my plate of Dosa and walk up
confidently towards the table where there are sitting.

Me : Hey guys, can I join
you?
And I give them all an confident EC.
The UG and another 'not so UG' has a neutral look on their face. While
the cuter one had a confused 'whats wrong with this guy' look. I
employed the silence to do the trick for me. Stood for about 3 seconds
without a word. Then one of the girls smile at me and say

HB2 : Yeah sure.
Preetu : Thank you guys.
I know at this point that either I start talking or get them to close-
up. So I blabber out some random thing that occured to me.

Preetu :
Seems like you guys are having a lazy saturday.
HB1 : Yeah kinda :-)
Preetu : U guys look like u r just outta bed and came directly for ur
BF.

All of them smile.

Preetu : I am Preetham and you guys ?
At this point HB3 gets a call and leaves the table.
HB1 : I am HB1
HB3 : I am HB3

Preetu: nice meeting u guys.
Preetu: So u guys working somewhere??
HB1 : yeah we are.
Preetu : U guys look like u guys are roommates. U
guys must be staying in a PG or something around here.
HB1 : yeah we are roomies.
Preetu : Where are u guys from ?
Turns out that one is a GULT another is a Tamilian and third one is
from Goa.
Preetu : Ohhhh ! You guys are into national integration or
something :-).
They laugh and I am a bit releived at this point.
HB1 : What about you ?
Preetu : I am a Kannadiga. There is a small town called XXX . I am
from there.
HB1 : I know that place. One of my friends is from the same city.

At this point HB2 is done with talking on phone and joins in.
Preetu : I got everybody's name here... but not yours. I am
Preetham.
HB2 : I am HB2. < Dont kno why but I can see that in her eyes that she
is happy to meet me>

Employing Mr Silence again. I allow the conversation to die out just
to test whether they will pick on it or not. And sure they did.

HB1 : Where do you work ?
I give it to them straight without even a attempt of being a assmodel,
lointamer or use and throw pen repairman. And then they tell me as to
where they work and stuff. At this point I know am completely in. I
dont know about IOIs and stuff, I wasn't even looking out for one of
them. For I was there to get into 'conversataional mood'.

Preetu: U know what guys as I walked into the restra. I saw u guys and
I was like "Wow ... Charlie's Angels". You are like Lucy liu, u are
like D.B and u are CD. Where is the charlie guys ???

And all of them crack up. And thats it. We talk for a few minutes.
After a few minutes of talking, they were done with their food and
took my leave. I was left there sitting alone and thinking something
like "Who said 'talking to strangers' ;-) is tough". I sure saw a
window for #close but my AFC evil twin brother shut me up. Somebody
fuck this stupid twin of mine.

Anyways it was a nice set to begin my day with. I got into mood. I am
hitting field soon after I am done with posting this. I sure am in
mood to do more such things.

FR: Going the direct way

Today I went totally direct on a two set.
This is big thing for me as I am doing it for the very first time. For my amazement it went well. The chicks were in from the moment I opened them.

Two set (HBO - 7.5 and HBS - 6 ) walking towards escalator in Forum mall. I approach them from behind and start walking confidently with them for about 2 - 3 seconds. I open as they step onto escalator.
Me : Hey Guys
HBO : Hello (with a nice air-hostess kinda smile)
Me : Can I give you a sincere compliment?
HBO : Yes.
HBS :
Me : I find you really cute, I just wanted to come here and say a Hi to you.
HBO : Thank you
Me : Hi, I am Preetham and you ?

At this point I was expecting that she would be too shy shake my hand. But she extended her arm and shook my hand firmly.
HBO : I am HBO. < I was nervous. And, I dont even remember her name>

Me : So, are you guys like shopping here ?
Me : Ofcourse you are at a shopping mall you must be shopping you know.
HBO : No, we are not here for shopping.
Me : ..... < I went blank and didnt even respond>
At this point I realized that I hadnt even talked to HBS.
Me (to HBS) : I didnt get your name ?

She shakes my hand and gives her name.
HBS: I am HBS.

At this point we were almost getting off the escalator and my evil AFC twin brother is shouting in my head, telling me to eject. And I succumb to his evil intentions.
Me : It was a pleasure meeting you guys. Have a nice weekend guys.

HBS & HBO : Bye.
Me : Bye


What ?? Did I hear you say "what a dumb-ass report ?". Well, in fact it is lame. But the fact that I did a direct one and it went Ok is a big thing for me. All these days I been going indirect (and it was working for me). But, recently I felt that I should have 'direct - astra' in my arsenal. However, was finding it very difficult to open 'direct'. It took lot of 'pumping up preetu' on part of Maser and Flamin before I could go direct. Guys, kudos to you both. You guys are fucking awesome wingmen. Big hugs to you both. Kudos to THUG as well, your y'day's pep talk really helped me a lot.

Now, what next? Well , well there is a whole weekend awaiting me. I will be only using direct openers for next two days. Expect another dumbass report soon.

Killing AA - One approach at a time.

Today in the field was a gr8 one. Though I opened a single set it went ok. But I got into 'the state'. Looking back at it few things which helped me to get into the state were :
1. The confident chest out walk like I own the place.
2. Smooth talk in a confident, deliberate way.
3. Tonality was gruff - And somehow this pumped up my confidence.
4. 3second rule was honored.

One more thing that I have decide is to do atleast one approach a day. Like on the way to work or in a coffee shop or in a bookstore... like anywhere I can find chicks. I think I will implement this seriously.

I am the jackass

Having breakfast at SNSagar. Was sitting in front of this guy, who was gulping plate after plates of breakfast, Idli, Poori, BBBath, Pongal and whatnot. On chatting him up, found out that he is a druggie and after a heavy dose he had slept for three long days. Yes, without any food and water. Now I know, where that huge appetite for BF came from. However, the reason for chatting up with the druggie was to get into conversational mood (very much required if you are sleep deprived and tired of rigorous gym-ming). 'coz I wanted to get in mood for a smalltalk with this cute girl who was there along with her UG friends.

I planned as to how to chat up with the girl. I planned up things like what to open with (BTB I am trying on direct openers these days). What would be my follow up story ? Logistics and pretty much everything that is sufficient. But, when the time was ripe. Weird thoughts took control of my mind. What if she rejected me ? What if I don't get a proper response? What if I C&B and all the other people at the restra laughed at me? She is not even hot. And whole bunch of other weird thoughts. The result, I chickened out, came home and 'glorified her name' (if you know what I mean ;-).

I know, all these thought bubbles are just a manipulation of my AA. If I want to improve my personality, rejections doesn't even matter and approaches sure will. Still I am not able to get this thing outta my head. But whatever it is I am bound to succeed, nobody can stop the 'determined me'. I just have to remember that there is nothing called the next time and just do it the next time ;-). Next opportunity, I might be wingless or might be at the shabbiest of my state or may be in fucked up mindset. I have decided that I gotta do it. For, I don't wanna feel like 'THE JACKASS'.

You are so funny ... just like bugs bunny ;-)

I ROCK.

There is nothing like have a gr8 day at field. Especially after so many of bad bad bad days. Felt awesome r8 from the very beginning. Things which really pepped me up were :
1. Had my shit know even before I left the home. Knew what to do and whatta say ?
2. As I was leaving the home , I just read thru the list of banter lines I had collected. Not only we enjoyed reading it from pickup viewpoint, but also got ourselves pepped up. The reason being these banter lines are very funny and outrageous (Ok ridiculous). May, doing a favorite activity of your might pep u up as well. So, will your most favorite music.
3. Warm up . Oh, this is gold. Started the whole process very very low key. Ask for time. Then move on to asking a shop or shit. Then an opinion opener. I wanted to continue this way up to a direct opener. But however failed to use a direct opener.

I did notice that I was coming up with in-situ openers. However, I didn't use them in sets .. Is this what they called as AA ??? I dunno. But, whatever it is its bad for my game. Forget getting bashed or blown out and do your shit.

Generally, I vibed well with everyone. Be it guys or girls. Poked fun at everybody. The best part was I wasn't even thinking whether the stuff I was doing, looks silly/outrageous/weird. The only thing I knew was, whatever I did was enjoyable to me. If they felt it as weird, its their problem ....right.

SP:
1. Make sure you warm up all the way up to direct opener.
2. Make a conscious effort to come up and throw the in-situ openers.
3. Don't leave the set without stacking. In other words stick in the set until the HBs tell you to F**KOFF.
4. Have a step back/calibrate. when you tell something outrageous and the set gets offended/BT goes up very fast. Take a step back ... say something like "I was kidding"
5. Fucking don't point out set.. if you like them just say my ball and do the set. Only loosers point out or mis sets.


I know 2moro is gonna be an awesome day. I have to close at least two. One of them should be thru direct. Infact, a better strategy would be use a indirect approach for a close. And following which only try to use direct approaches for closes.

I as sit here and hear to some good music on Vh1, I think I am gonna call it a night. With lots of hopes for tomorrow and days to come.

"You are so funny ... just like bugs bunny ;-)"

Weekly goals

I have realized that nothing would work out 'well' without a proper goals and a plan to achieve them.
Goal for the week -
1. Approach atleast 10 sets.
2. 2 Number closes.
3. Atleast two sets in usual places.. i.e not when especially out for sarging.
4. Atleast one set should be direct.

Plan:
1. Monday, Thursday evening 6:30 PM, .
2. Make it a point to take a walk in the CMH road after office before coming to home.
3. Open the girl in the gym.
4. Opener for direct : I just saw you.. I feel that you are cute... Can I meet you ?/Are you a friendly being ?
5. Sarging on saturday and sunday.

My Gimick opener

Hit upon this idea while just sitting n relaxing. Gotta field test it.

Find a set which u really dig.
Me : Guys do u have a minute.
HB :.... (pause.)
Me : I need a quick female suggestion on this.
Me : I saw this really gorgeous looking girl in this place. Whom I definitely want to meet. But wouldn't know how any tips you would wanna give me.
Me : I mean whats the best way to meet her... if u were in that situation. What would have worked with ya.

Hb: Go and say her a HI or Just say I wannted meet you or Any other xyz

Me: Thank you guys.... Thanks a lot.

Eject and approach the same set after 30secs or so. This time use their suggestions to hit upon them.

I guess this would be cool. Let me field test it and put up a report. Expect a report soon. ;-)

Getting started

Never maintained a dairy till date. But, hightime I start maintaining one.

Well, the million dollar question : What will I write about here. I will basically intend to keep an account of thing w.r.t my playa lifestyle. FR, LR, and SPs. Comeback for more.