A new indirect/direct opener.

I went out yesterday. While in the field I came up with new fun opener, that I tried out and worked well.

2 chink set in front of mall. The target is HB6.5. I approach them head on.
OH BTW I was really happy 'coz I had just heard "The Secret" in my car. It damn put me into a really happy mood. I was wide smiling for no reason at all.

Me : (Bigass smile. And pointing to the target. Maintaining a good EC) Hey, I need to ask you simple question. Give me female opinion.
Set : (Stops immediately. Gives me 100% attention without even thinking of going anywhere)  Yes.
Me : What would be an interesting first date activity? Suggest me something interesting.

Set : Well .... ( Target discusses with her friend. Translates the opener to her friend into her native tongue :P)
Target : What kind of girl is she ?

Me : I really don't know her that well. I haven't even asked her out yet.
Set : awwwwww... (you know that "How cute..." kinda expression)
Me : And I am very interested in her. I dont know her that well.  Suppose I were to ask you out, what would you prefer for 1st date. ;-).

Obstacle : She like movies. Movie dates are great.
Target : Yes I think movie date is good.

Me : Well... OK (Pause, Pause, pause.. while maintaining eye contact)
Me : Actually you are the girl that I want to ask out. Would you go on a movie date with me.

Set : (Giggling hard and running away from me.)

I persisted quite a bit. Trying to be funny and direct. But I had to give up. As the target was running away from me.

May be I will trying introducing myself before I go direct next time. Let me see how well that work out.

I also want to try several other similar openers.
   "Whats the best way to approach a beautiful stranger" Exit the set and re-approach complying to the way they asked you.
   "Whats the best way to initiate a conversation with YOU "


I am going to try these out today.

My Gameplan for a typical outting.

This is plan will be updated on a constant basis as my understanding increases.

1. Busting through AA : Each outting you have to get through your AA. Somedays its tough some other days easy. This will be the plan for get my AA handled.
    a. Do a direction (to a place/shop) opener. Dont persist leave.
    b. Direction + Tomboy opener. Leave.
    c. Direction/Tomboy -> Introduction of self.
    d. Direction/Tomboy -> Direct opener -> Introduction
    e. Direct opener -> Introduction. or the Indirect-direct openers.


2. Handling Fears of Escalation: There is AA and then there is fear of escalation even if conquer your AA. The following is my step by step approach to handle my Fear of Escalation.
    a. Initiate an Introduction.
    b. Hold a Seductive eye contact. ( Look for dilated pupils)
    c. Handshake and don't let go first.
    d. Bridge the physical Space.
    e. Push for Finger lock.
    d. Bounce to new venue
    f. Date close.

Slow ramping your way through AA.

Its often the case that I am like literally overcome by AA. I really wanted to find way around it. Yesterday I tried out a new approach for approaching which resulted in less approach anxiety.

I realized that its important to approach even the UGs continually if not anything this will keep you in top form and help you with the next Hottie that you might encountered.
It also made a lot of sense when I started small and ramped up slowly step by step.  And above all its imperative that you just do the first five sets you see when you are in the field. If you avoid these five sets it would set up a very bad (negative) start for your evening. If you miss any of the first five sets you might as well go back home just then as save yourself some time.

Anyway this is how I ramped up yesterday.

Set 1:
Opener : What a good shop around here to buy some ladies footwear.

Set2:
Opener : What a good shop around here to buy some ladies footwear.
Opener2 : Get the answer to the question and followup with 2nd question which transitions into Tom Boy opener.

Set3:
Opener : What a good shop around here to buy some ladies footwear.
Opener2 : Get the answer to the question and followup with 2nd question which transitions into Tom Boy opener.
Opener3 : Try to transition into personal

Set4:
Opener : What a good shop around here to buy some ladies footwear.
Opener2 : Get the answer to the question and followup with 2nd question which transitions into Tom Boy opener.
Opener3 : Cut the stupid indirect opener and transition into a direct.

Set5 :
Opener : Direct.


This way I am slowly and continuously ramping up the approach ladder busting the approach anxiety little by little. If you are total beginner you might consider something as basic as asking time or direction and slowly working you way up-to transition phase over a course of some 10-15 sets.

One more stuff that really helped me (not just in PU but my Day to Day life as well). Don't be a slave to micro avoidance. When you want to do something that you wanna do but avoid or procrastinate (even smallest of things like tidying up your desk which would take like a minute or so) you take a hit on your self esteem. You think less of yourself. Over the course of the day the micro-avoidance will degrade your self esteem. So say NO to avoiding stuff and set yourself up for success. (For more on Micro-avoidance refer to Sixty Years of challenge)