Day2 : Kino in Kino

Kino in Kino
Disclaimer : Incredibly long and detailed post. You would rather be reading a romance novel.

OOPS.. Bangalore traffic. It unforgiving even on a Saturday morning. Its already 10 AM. Shit I am gonna be late, I hate making ppl wait for me. :-(

As I was pulling my girl into the parking lot. There she sits right next to me on her already parked scooterette. Short babe dressed in cute blue top and a black tight jeans folded up just enough to reveal her calves. That cute nose ring cuteness even more, which reminded me of Sania Mirza. But unlike that 18 YO. This one is bit dusky, and for some reason I love dusky babes. This time she looks even better than the first time I had met her up.

Was hanging out with Raj on a Wednesday evening @ Garuda along with PBR and a buddy of PBR. As I was waiting for PBR. I notice this group of 5 college girls checking me out from their table @ food court. As Raj arrives, I drag him along to sit @ a table near the set. We warmup on a bowl of hot Boiled Sweet Corn, while PBR told about her Airhottie sarge. While I was semi listening to Raj and full checking out the set and planning up the approach. After about 5 minutes I get up, walk towards them, Grab a chair from their next table and drag it towards their table.

Drake : (As I am sitting down beside them) Hey Guys, Can I join u for a while.
Pls note : ask permission verbally and carry on as if u have been permitted. This is like being a Gentleman verbally and badboy physically.

Now there was one girl (obstacle) who hadn't noticed me. I knew she would be a problem. So while I was asking.. I deliberately avoided any EC with her. I ECed HBZ who was giving me IOI.

HBZ: (Without missing a beat) Ya sure!!!
Drake : I am Drake .. (shake hands with all of the 5 girls beginning with the target)
Next things I don't remember word by word but it was pretty much a mix of Banter, fluff, teasing and comfort talk.
Drake : Hey guys it was a gr8 fun meeting you all. I enjoyed it thoroughly. But I like your friend(pointing to HBZ). Would you guys mind if I have her number and meet her up again sometime later this week.

Close her, 20 minutes later send her a message about how cute her nose ring is. Call her two days later. Fluff for a while and set up a day two with a direct line... something to the effect of.
"Hey I like u, I want to meet you again. Let me know when can we meet".

Typically never go for movie dates... but this time it just happened. Somehow had this feeling that I could escalate easy with this date.

Drake : Very Sorry I am late by 5.
HBZ: No a full 10 minute.
Drake : Oh forgive me pls. For this blunder, I would buy you a bunch of roses :P
HBZ: :-)
Then.. convo went flat.. void ... null... nilch. Felt the discomfort, I knew I had to quickly build some comfort.. or it could get worse. Some of the comfort questions/ that came to my aid were.
1. How did ya get here ?
2. Two things I like about u?
a. Her punctuality - was there at venue at the exact time.
b. Non-Nakhra, sweet attitude.
Tell her that above two things score her lot of marks from me. And then proceed to give her a side hug. There was no warm reception for the side hug. But nevertheless there was no rejection as well.. just a hint of slight discomfort. Shake hands for some reason and let the hand linger in mine for a duration longer than required. It stayed there for about 10 seconds and she pulled it out.

We were waiting at the theater door. I made sure that I sit very next to her such that our shoulders are touching. She is quite comfortable with this. While chatting up. I would crack a joke and give a Hi5 and let my fingers linger on her hand... Wicked eh!! :P. As we entered the movie theater, made a bold move. I grabbed her palms and went for finger lock again. She is a bit hesitant. Neutralize it with "I hope you are comfortable with that". The only sound I could hear for that was a ummmm..hmm, which I took as "Yes".

Thanks to PBR for booking a corner two seat for us. Its just two seat towards the end, I know that's pure gold. As we approach the seats. I couldn't help but comment on the corner seat placement
"Wow nice seats huhn!!! Looks like we are lucky today. We can cuddle in without compromising on privacy.". My date couldn't help but smile.

As we settled in our seats, build more comfort with question about family, friends, cousins etc.

The comedy movie starts up. The first 10 minutes was so hilarious that I forgot I have to escalate. 10 mins into the movie I extend my hand (palm up)in front of her (like I am asking for her hand).

HBZ: :? (Puzzled look on her face)
Drake : Hey!!! Give me ur hand. I want some warmth :-).
HBZ : (Places her hand in mine)

Went for finger lock. Got very lil compliance. Held it for 5 mins... I started playing around with her fingers. Its like when you twine up your fingers together and have thumbs together. Fiddle her thumb with yours as if you are upto thumb war. Initially there was very lil response. But then slowly but surely the response became stronger and obvious. Which means I can proceed a step further. But before taking further steps, u have to take a step backwards ;-). Stopped fiddling for a while, and got on with my next step.

Whats next step ?? Kino on back of palm, forearms and shoulders. As if I am caressing. No objections from the HB. So I had her palm in mine and kino back of her palm on my cheeks and lips. I have learnt by my experience and experience of others, that a big step towards (French) kissing is to kiss on hands and cheeks first. So, I kiss her palms and fingers. Sure the HB seemed comfortable. And that meant time for some more escalation. But before further escalation I don't know why I asked but I did.

Drake : I wanna kiss you r8 now.
HBZ: No. (Of course I knew it was only a verbal 'no')
Drake: (Without loosing composure) OK.

Cuddling time : :-). Just pulled her in with something like "Hey lets cuddle up". I am gently pulled her in towards me and made her to lean against my shoulder while my arm is thrown over her shoulders. The way to pull in "Gentle But Firm".. .re-read that again. I lean my head on her head, such that my lips are just inches away from her temple. But something about cuddling is to good and romantic. The warmth and the closeness u feel towards the other person is simply amazing. As we cuddled up our fingers locked up again and I knew I can peck on her temple. Peck I did and it was amazing. I could hear the depth in her breath. Slowly somehow the posture went from head to head to cheek to cheek. The only natural thing for me to do was to peck her cheeks. Which she seemed to enjoy. I continued kissing on cheeks for a while . I was expecting her to peck me as well... But sadly it didn't happen ASD ?? I don't know. But I decided escalate anyways. I had this burning desire to kiss the HB on her lips. I was preparing myself to do that but then something happened that I had to stop and un-cuddle. Damn.. .the intermission. As the lights in the Kino went on. An imaginary VJ in my head uttered those bugging lines. Those lines which everyone of us absolutely love to hate.
"We will continue the show after this quick break"


During the break. Some more comfort and more fluff talk. She looked relaxed and comfortable. We couldn't wait for the movie to start again. After all the first half was not properly understood and we better concentrate in the second half. :P

After the break we picked it from right where we left. Cuddle up and cheek kisses. I could have escalated straight to lip-to-lip. But I wanted it much more smooth. So, I kino her on cheeks and lips with the back of my palms (using the hand which is wrapped around her shoulders). Run the train till the comfort is built.


When I knew I had enough of comfort with all that kino on the face. Stopped all the kino on face while we still cuddling. Slightly shift my face such that our cheeks touching and so are our noses. My nose seem to like her's, so the noses go for a lil rub. While our lips are almost touching. I move in a lil bit, she does her part its obvious that its gonna happen. But then I pull back and whisper something in her ears.

"This is bad. I think we should slow down a bit."

Then we go back to cuddling. Kissing on cheeks (still the HB didn't kiss me on my cheeks). After a while our, noses decide to rub again. But this time, I lean in, she does her bit and for about 10 seconds it was passionate one. I pull back first. Then the rest of the show we would alternate between kissing on the cheeks and lips. Kissing is great fun ain't guys.

Sometime while we were kissing. I had gripped her upper arm. My thumb was touching something very soft. And I noticed that she was comfortable with it. So I knew base-2 gonna be pretty easy. So I start caressing her neck. First on the side of the neck just below the cheek and then on the front of the neck just below chin. After a while I worked my down and caress her upper chest on top of the t-shirt. I didn't encounter any resistance till now. I could just feel the bra straps on top of the tee. I snap it.. no reaction. OK, Hands inside the Tee and snap the strap from with in. Slightly move down. But now get some resistance. So I go back caressing the neck. And again work my way down this time on the Tee. But then I get some resistance again.. so what to do ? Of course rinse and repeat. After about three to four repeats She just gives in. But then after 10 seconds ASD is back and she starts resisting. I didn't wanted it go any further lest I trigger some major buyers remorse and consequently no second date. So I stop and we go back for kissing and cuddling.

Before I know the movie was over. Neither of us had any idea about the storyline. I drop her on the way back. We indulge in more comfort talks. Overall comfort level was high. I take her leave by telling her that the time we spent together was awesome and that I couldn't wait to see her again. Ya I know second date would be much more interesting. ;-)




Lessons :
1. Be a bad boy gentleman. Ask for permission verbally and continue physically as if the permission is granted.
2. Closing in a group : Ask her friend if u can take targets contact details. This does wonders. They either leave the choice to the target or they agree for being polite. In any case the permission of the group makes it soooo easy for the target to give out her number.
3. Being direct and honest about the fact that u dig her makes for a easy escalation.
4. 2 step forward 1 step back + Rinse and repeat till u achieve your goal.


PS: Just to add to your vocab... KINO also means theater :-)

Direct revelations

Its altogether a different feeling when you are meeting (at least trying to :-) new people amidst your day to day activities. I feel that finally (after so much of struggle, and practice) meeting new ppl is becoming so much so like a second nature to me. I am opening in all sorts of places. Street while on the way to work. Coffee shops while I am out with my cousins. While with friends. I want to be at a stage where I do not specifically want to go out to meet new ppl.

The other day me and my cousin were hanging out at this JPNagar CCD. My cousin is kinda natural guy (but unfortunately doesn't do cold calls.) He points out to me that a lonewolf 9 just walked in and is sitting "over there". It takes a while for me to pump myself before I get myself to approach her.

I walk up as she finished her sandwich. I pulled a chair in front of her with a big smile. And park my ass right next to her. I extend my arm towards her.

Me : Hi, I am Preetham.
HB : ( 90% Neutral 10% Pissed ) I don't know you!!!
Me :(Still the hand stretched out and still smiling) Thats why I am introducing my self. I am Preetham.
HB : (80%:20%:P) So!!!
I let my hand stay there in front of her. Hoping at least that leaving it there would make the moment so uncomfortable that she would have to eventually shake hands with me. But she is a tough nut to crack. I leave the palm in front of her for about 7-8seconds. But no luck.
Me : (Pointing to myself) Me and my cousin (Pointing to my cousin) over there were just about to leave the cafe. I saw you.. just want to come and say you a Hi.
HB : (Perfect blank.. no expression) (Starts sorting out her bill)

I sit there for about 5 more seconds before realizing that it is going anywhere but down.

Me : (Smile wide) It was pleasure meeting you (no not the sarcastic vibe but sincere vibe). Have a nice evening miss.

As I walk back to my cousin. I punch the air with my fist. And re-iterate to myself "Congrats you did your approach of the day".

Just as we came out side CCD. I had to attend a call. My cousin notices that the same HB is coming out of the CCD and is kinda staring at me while she ejects the place. (Girls.. aren't they crazy!!!). I couldn't notice her 'coz I am facing away from the exit of the CCD.

I thought about the approach later. I would have preferred pacing the approach before actually going for the introduction. If we notice above that I introduce myself first and then pace it (may be I was nervous.. quite possible). Thus it occurred to me that its time to structure/refine my approach.

Elements that I would like to incorporate in my approach.

1. Politeness (even at the expense of alphaness)
2. Outcome independent.
3. Coolness and composedness.
4. Mix of laid back and being interested.

Structure :
1. Have a big smile even before you approach:
You are already having fun. Plus the smile increases the attractiveness of your face by at least 10 times.

2. Begin with a "Excuse me":
This might come across as less alpha. But makes approach more polite and decent. You come across as less player like.

3. Get them to answer your first question with a yes:
Yes -> Acceptance. Once they accept you its kinda difficult to reject you. More often than not.. the Yes train continues.

Ex:
Me : Excuse me. If I ain't disturbing you can I sit by you for a minute.
She : Yes.
(Note the (false) time constraint as well)

4. Pace the intro. Genuine Compliment and introduce.
Ex : Me and my cousin were just about to leave the CCD I happen to notice you. I had to to come and meet you. 'Coz I think you have a great sense of dressing. I am Preetham.

5. Shake hands and get to know her name. If she has company, pay equal attention to her friends.

6. Banter, flirt and make their day.

7. Pace the close.
Example :- Lack of time have to run now. But definitely would like to hangout again. Lets swap numbers.

8. Ejecting (even if you are blown out) Smile at her. Sincerely thank her for talking and eject blissfully. Just make sure you convey using your body lang that u aren't affected by the outcome.

Ex : Blow out
She : Get the fuck off from here dude.
Me : Oh !!! Pardon me. didn't mean to offend you or something. It really was my pleasure meeting you. Have a wonderful day ahead. (smile and eject).


Now I have to get myself in the field and practice this. Check this space for updates on the results.

FR: 60 - 0 in 3.5, YAQC

This is big one for me. It shattered one of my limiting beliefs. I am biker dude. Thing is I love the freedom/maneuverability/speed the motor-bike offers me. And I always wanted to do an off-the-bike approach, for which the time was just right today :-). Plus I always wanted to "Sarge while I am Out" rather than "Go out to sarge"... mean to say meet new ppl while doing the day to day activities rather than to have to specifically go out to meet new ones.

Enough of setting the stage... on with the FR.

Its Nine in the morning and I am cruising @ 60 KMPH. Even though it is mid summer I can feel the coooool wind on my face for it had rained heavily the previous day. Clear skies clean streets cool breeze what else does a biker need. As I was riding my 'girl', I was mentally going thru a list of activities that I need to complete @ work. Something in my peripheral vision distracted me.. something in white top and blue jeans. It took me about .5 seconds to realise that it was lone wolf about 8 on my scale. As I rode past her, voices in my head debated whether to approach or not to. I decided to do it anyways and braked hard for about 3.5 seconds until the digital speedometer showed O KMPH.

Parked my 'girl', got off her. Removed my helmet. Brushed off imaginary dust off my shoulders. Set off towards the HB. With my chest out, chin held up and a big smile on my face, approaching her from her side. During the 10 seconds walk to the target, I couldn't help but admire her curves ;P. As approach near to her she got it from her peripheral vision that I was about to approach her. Girls and their intuition..kinda amazes me sometimes.

Drake : Excuse me.
HB : (Turns towards me)
Drake : (Big smile on my face)Hey Hi.
HB : (Confused Smile) Hi.

As she said this she kinda turned to face me. (Saw the face was a bit disappointed as the face value was just of a 7.. but that ain't stopping me from going on.
Drake : I was just passing by.. I saw you. Thought you are kinda cute. Wanted to come and meet you. (Thrusting my hand out) I am Preetham.

There is goes on yet again.... the chirstmas tree light i.e.
HB : I am HBSlp. (Smile)
Drake : Nice meeting you HBSlp.
I barely completed the above sentence.
HBSlp: So you are working somewhere ?
Guess she is in a hurry to jump off to comfort stage :PPP.

Drake : blah blah blah. You working or studying??
HBSlp : I am working as well as Studying. Doing ma MBA.
Drake : Oh no... One more of those HR girls yeah. (Playfully delivered) :-)
HBSlp : :-). Actually I am into Finance.
Drake : And where do you work?
HBSlp : XYZ software firm. blah blah blah.
fluff tease flirt for another minute.
HBSlp : So are u on ur way to work ?
Drake : yeah. You.
HBSlp : Yeah. Waiting for a friend of mine. He is supposed to come and pick me up from.
And right then I hear ring tones from her cellphone. Guess its was her 'pickup and drop' service aka her bodygaurd. As she continued to give directions to her 'pickup drop service' I slowly pulled out my phone. And waited for her to end the call.
HBSlp : (cutting the call) Its m friend whose is picking me up.
Drake : AH OK. .....
HBSlp : :-)....
Drake : Hey I gtg now... getting late for college.
HBSlp : College ???
Drake : Oh did I say college.. I meant office.. I guess I am bit nervous.
HBSlp : :-) :-) :-)
Drake : It was nice meeting you. I would like to keep in touch. Whats your number.
HBSlp : Sure... my number is XXXXXXXXXXX.

I store the number and give her a call so that she has my number.
HBSlp : Gimme a call sometimes.
DRake : Sure. Bye.
HBSlp : Bye.

I had this sense of satisfaction and achievement as I was walking back towards my 'girl'. :-). It feels really good to inculcate the whole 'pickup' thing in ur day 2 day activities.

And I was writing this FR I at least got four calls from HBSlp. It definitely on. But that kinda turns me off a bit.

Lessons:
1. Direct is fucking awesome... no unnecessary beating around the bush.
2. Quick closes are not necessarily the lucky ones.

PS: YAQC :: Yet Another Quick Close.;-)