Old FR.. New Writer

This is how to write FR OR Is it how to write a Romance Novel.

Kudos to MaserCaser for having Romanticized the boring Day2 FR.
Guys u need to check this post out. MCs linguistic skills and humor are amazing... read for yourself.

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Someday, I know, I'll regret having put this down in writing. I'm not even sure why I'm doing this. It was a glorious Saturday morning. Glorious, in terms of clouds forming shapes little kids love to decipher, in terms of the morning shower hitting just the right spots, in terms of the microwave heating last night's dinner to its succulent perfection. Definitely not in terms of the unforgiving Bangalore traffic.

It was already 10 AM and I hated making people wait, especially beautiful women. I vroomed in to the parking lot right next to this petite babe, in a cute blue top and tight black jeans, folded up just enough to reveal her calves. It was her. It was she. I forget the grammar. That's the effect she has on me.

Her cute nose perked up at my sight and her nose-ring raised its head in an enquiring manner - a nose-ring much like that of Sania Mirza's. But, the girl next to me was duskier than that teen heartthrob (I don't even think Sania is that hot. Damn media.). And for some reason, dusky babes just wiggle me right. She was even more beautiful than when I first met her.

It was another of those lazy days – the Wednesday of the same week. I was twiddling my fingers waiting for Ravi and his friend to arrive at the mall. A - how do I put it - flutter caught my eye. You know, the kind of flutter that is so much the signature of a clique of teenage girls. They were at the food court doing what girls do best: having their heads together over the table. I don't know what goes on in that little circle of feminine mystery, but I'd give away a month's salary to find out. Actually, double that.

The queen bee had just shot a dart of intense appraisal at me, and quickly pulled back her gaze down into their huddle, moments after which their table broke into squeals of girly laughter. Music to my ears.

Just then, Ravi slid down beside me as his friend pulled back a chair. He slapped me on my back to bring me out of my reverie and introduced his friend. I nodded my friendliest nod. And then, I don't know what it was - probably the thing that has brought mankind from its inception to its present generation.

I took my little group closer to the girls. We sat down at a table two away from theirs. We ordered and calmed down my nerves on a bowl of boiled sweet corn while Ravi told me about this air-hostess he had met at a party earlier that week. I nodded what I thought was approval to Ravi's heroics while checking out the girls and pepping myself up to do something about this.

Just as Ravi came to the punchline of his little story, I cut him off with a huge sigh of unbridled anxiety and went up to my special bunch of girls. I grabbed a chair from the adjacent table, and dragged it towards theirs. As I was sitting down, I politely asked them if I could join them. Not that I cared what they said. By this time, I was on auto-pilot. Don't ask me where I got the balls. Call of genes, baby.

The group seemed open enough. I should think they were more startled than open, now in hindsight. As I slid down in the most casual way possible, I looked in to the queen bee's eyes. They had a spark of shock and pleasure. Wow.

She turned a little bit towards me and said without missing a beat, "Ya sure!"
All this while, I had noticed a girl, a little on the fringe of the group. I knew she was gonna be a problem. So, I avoided eye contact with her. I, however, shook hands with the whole group.

I said,"You girls aren't tourists, are you?"

One of the girls perked up. "Huh, why do you ask?"

"No, it's just the way you were gawking at me. Most foreigners gawk at me."

As, there were little spurts of laughter, the bitch dismisses me by saying, "We weren't looking at you. Who are you?"

I'd have gladly gone beyond enemy lines into Waziristan than face this shit.

I recovered, somewhat.

"Oh! My bad, then."

"But, now that I'm here, what else do you like about me?" I ask my queen bee, as I lean back on my chair.

Before she could reply, I turn to the group and tell them they remind me of some girl-band. I pick out a girl in random and tell her that her face and the way she presents herself tells me that she can handle a new experience. This brings a smile to her face.

I look at another girl who is listening very keenly to me and quip that she will help anyone if she gets a chance. As she nods enthusiastically, I look at this girl whose eyes were shining with understanding. Her lips were slithering into a mischievous smile, and I implored by letting her know that she rooted for the underdog. I dearly hoped she got the point. She held me at bay by nodding to herself and looking at the girl sitting next to her: the bitch.

I quickly said that this girl steps up whenever there is a vacuum of leadership and hoped that she wouldn't. I finally turned to my girl and gave her a look of appraisal, trying to imitate the one she gave me. I told her that God uses her to accomplish things without her even knowing about it. This had the whole group laughing.
Ravi was having a ball. He was on his mobile pretending to talk, but was busily clicking away pictures of the girls and myself. He high-fived with his friend to let me know I was doing great.

I can't quite put my finger on what happened next. I do not remember the words. But, I can still feel the energy of that interaction. It was short-circuits galore. I was spewing bullshit but the girls didn't trip me up. Thank you, Cupid.

Eventually, I tell the group that it was great fun meeting them all. Then, I pointed at my girl and let the group know that I liked their friend and would like to meet up with her again and asked if it was ok for me to take their friend's number. As the bitch was about to protest, my ally, the underdog-savior gives me the go-ahead.

And then I returned to my friends with my head held high and chest pumping with pride, like a warrior, a Spartan returning from the battle of the 300. Ravi was beside himself with joy (quite frankly, I think the people around us thought he was having multiple orgasms) and his friend was wonderstruck. I was his hero. I was my own hero.

Later, when my head had stopped buzzing and my nerves had stopped fizzing and more importantly when Ravi had sobered up enough, I took leave and on the way to my bike texted my girl about how cute her nose-ring was.

I called her two days later and talked about the weather and then asked her out in the simplest and most honest way possible:

"Hey, I like you. I want to meet you again. Let me know when we can."

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Quite honestly, movie dates are not my style. But, this one just happened.

I apologized for being late.

Me: "I'm very sorry, I'm late by five."

Her: "No, by full ten minutes."

Me: "Oh, sorry madam, forgive me please. I'll get you a bunch of roses to make up for this."

She smiled. And then, the inevitable happened. The conversation ground to a halt. There was this vacuum of silence sucking all the energy. We both were uncomfortable. I knew I had to do something before things went further downhill. So, I started asking some stupid questions like how she got there.

Then, I told her the two things I liked about her: her punctuality and her sweet, refreshing attitude. I patted her shoulder saying that she scored some good points there with me and proceeded to give her a side hug. It was awkward.

It wasn't as if she brushed me off, but there was that slight discomfort. Then, we shook hands for some reason and I held her hand for a little longer than necessary. After about ten seconds, she pulled her hand out. Her hands were as smooth as nights in white satin (I know, I know, bad bad simile, cliché cliché cliché.).

Then, we went up to the cinema. There was a queue. I stand as close to her as possible with our shoulders touching. She doesn't seem to mind. The stewardess there who was checking the tickets was a hottie. She checks our tickets and says, "Enjoy your movie!"

I quip, "Hey, do not tell me what to do!", in a playful tone.

This gets my girl laughing and breaks the tension, a little. I cracked some more jokes and had her laughing and then we would high-five and for some reason my hands would linger on hers.

I remember, as we entered the movie, I made a bold move. Without me realizing it, I had grabbed her palms and locked my fingers with hers. They were a little moist like the condensation on the bathroom mirror after a warm relaxing shower. I could feel her pulse quicken. My heart was racing.

I blurted, "I hope you are comfortable with that." Such a homo thing to say, really.

She just mumbled something. I took it as a Yes.

Ravi, for all his antics, is a star. He had booked us the tickets and they were two corner seats – pure gold. As I perused the tickets and verified the seat numbers and approached the seats, I couldn't help but quip: "Wow! Nice seats, huh? Looks like we are in luck, we can cuddle in privacy." My date couldn't help but smile. I still wonder how come she didn't dump me then and there.

As we settled down in our seats, I asked her questions about her family, her friends, especially that underdog-savior friend. I told her, I liked that friend of hers the best. She smiled.

Then she asked me some questions.

"So, Raghu, are you from Bangalore? You don't seem to be pukka Bangalorean somehow."

My heart had stopped and done a little Irish jig. It was the first time her lips held my name.

I repied, "Oh, really Sonali? What makes a pukka Bangalorean?"

By now, the titles had started, and we had to talk in whispers, which only made it that much more romantic. But, then I was distracted by the movie. The first ten minutes were so hilarious that I forgot I was on a date. I can be such a moron. Thankfully, Sonali too was enjoying the movie.

All that laughter helped. There, somehow was a new dynamic between us. As if we had known each other forever. I may be imagining it now, but I think our breath rose and fell at the same time. She was still watching the movie while I stole glances at her. I looked at her vibrant, black eyes. I could drown in them, I have drowned in them. The light from the screen illuminated her face and I could see her nose had turned a little red with all the laughing. Her nose-ring was glinting in the dark, almost as if it was winking at my furtive appreciation. The Technicolor basked her smooth skin and her hair danced in the harsh gale of the air-conditioner. Her spine twitched a little with the cold.

It was pretty cold outside and the theater in all its Indian-ness had the AC going on in full swing. I held my hand out in front of her, my palm glistening with nervous sweat in the cold corner.

She gave me a puzzled look.

I came up with: "Hey! Give me your hand, I need some warmth.", and smiled sheepishly.

She placed her hand in mine.
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All Credits to MaserCaster.

Your tools for running the set.

You open the set. And set takes the opening well. After the initial introduction and fluff at times you might not find anything to tell. What will you do. Of course being silent itself is an option. But there are couple of things that we can try out. Or at times even when you close, you might have this feeling if the close is a real close.The list below might come in handy as a nitro boost to ur game.

1. Cold Read.
I have strange feeling about u guys. You guys look like best friends ?

2. Banter.
1. Future adventure projection.
2. Setting the "u leader and she follower" frame.

3. Push pull.
Ex: You are like the cutest women I have seen... all day long that is.

4. Teasing.

5. Qualifications.
I am kinda person who lives and die by Adrenalin. Being adventurous is impressive for me. Whats the best adventure u have had recently ?

6. SOIing.
Ex : The way you said that particular thing about dressing, totally impressed me. I find that way u talk sexy about you.

7. Forcing IOIs.
Ask her to give you the IOIs that you want. Ex: Hey you look so cute when u brush trough ur hair. Do it for me again pls.

8. Active disinterest.
a. Neg - Careful
b. Jealousy plots. Ignoring her for a while and diverting attention to her friends.
c. You not gonna have me frame.

9. Sexual tension
Sxl barriers

10. Kino

11. Fluff

12. Connection, Deep rapport

13. Challenging

14. Breaking Rapport
Oh you like that Stuff. I dont like that at all. Its already not working between us.

15. Compliments
Sincere ones... Dont try to fake the compliments.

16. Relate and reward.
You know the way you feel when u listen to the music. I can totally understand and relate to that. You know I am passionate about dancing and I feel the same when I see a good dance performance.

17. Warm Read.
You know even before u told that u were an Airhostess.. I somehow felt that u work in a service/hospatility industry. Otherwise its difficult to get this kinda class and standards.


PS: I know the post is not so well written. But WTH if u get the concept thats my goal acheived.

Day2 : Kino in Kino

Kino in Kino
Disclaimer : Incredibly long and detailed post. You would rather be reading a romance novel.

OOPS.. Bangalore traffic. It unforgiving even on a Saturday morning. Its already 10 AM. Shit I am gonna be late, I hate making ppl wait for me. :-(

As I was pulling my girl into the parking lot. There she sits right next to me on her already parked scooterette. Short babe dressed in cute blue top and a black tight jeans folded up just enough to reveal her calves. That cute nose ring cuteness even more, which reminded me of Sania Mirza. But unlike that 18 YO. This one is bit dusky, and for some reason I love dusky babes. This time she looks even better than the first time I had met her up.

Was hanging out with Raj on a Wednesday evening @ Garuda along with PBR and a buddy of PBR. As I was waiting for PBR. I notice this group of 5 college girls checking me out from their table @ food court. As Raj arrives, I drag him along to sit @ a table near the set. We warmup on a bowl of hot Boiled Sweet Corn, while PBR told about her Airhottie sarge. While I was semi listening to Raj and full checking out the set and planning up the approach. After about 5 minutes I get up, walk towards them, Grab a chair from their next table and drag it towards their table.

Drake : (As I am sitting down beside them) Hey Guys, Can I join u for a while.
Pls note : ask permission verbally and carry on as if u have been permitted. This is like being a Gentleman verbally and badboy physically.

Now there was one girl (obstacle) who hadn't noticed me. I knew she would be a problem. So while I was asking.. I deliberately avoided any EC with her. I ECed HBZ who was giving me IOI.

HBZ: (Without missing a beat) Ya sure!!!
Drake : I am Drake .. (shake hands with all of the 5 girls beginning with the target)
Next things I don't remember word by word but it was pretty much a mix of Banter, fluff, teasing and comfort talk.
Drake : Hey guys it was a gr8 fun meeting you all. I enjoyed it thoroughly. But I like your friend(pointing to HBZ). Would you guys mind if I have her number and meet her up again sometime later this week.

Close her, 20 minutes later send her a message about how cute her nose ring is. Call her two days later. Fluff for a while and set up a day two with a direct line... something to the effect of.
"Hey I like u, I want to meet you again. Let me know when can we meet".

Typically never go for movie dates... but this time it just happened. Somehow had this feeling that I could escalate easy with this date.

Drake : Very Sorry I am late by 5.
HBZ: No a full 10 minute.
Drake : Oh forgive me pls. For this blunder, I would buy you a bunch of roses :P
HBZ: :-)
Then.. convo went flat.. void ... null... nilch. Felt the discomfort, I knew I had to quickly build some comfort.. or it could get worse. Some of the comfort questions/ that came to my aid were.
1. How did ya get here ?
2. Two things I like about u?
a. Her punctuality - was there at venue at the exact time.
b. Non-Nakhra, sweet attitude.
Tell her that above two things score her lot of marks from me. And then proceed to give her a side hug. There was no warm reception for the side hug. But nevertheless there was no rejection as well.. just a hint of slight discomfort. Shake hands for some reason and let the hand linger in mine for a duration longer than required. It stayed there for about 10 seconds and she pulled it out.

We were waiting at the theater door. I made sure that I sit very next to her such that our shoulders are touching. She is quite comfortable with this. While chatting up. I would crack a joke and give a Hi5 and let my fingers linger on her hand... Wicked eh!! :P. As we entered the movie theater, made a bold move. I grabbed her palms and went for finger lock again. She is a bit hesitant. Neutralize it with "I hope you are comfortable with that". The only sound I could hear for that was a ummmm..hmm, which I took as "Yes".

Thanks to PBR for booking a corner two seat for us. Its just two seat towards the end, I know that's pure gold. As we approach the seats. I couldn't help but comment on the corner seat placement
"Wow nice seats huhn!!! Looks like we are lucky today. We can cuddle in without compromising on privacy.". My date couldn't help but smile.

As we settled in our seats, build more comfort with question about family, friends, cousins etc.

The comedy movie starts up. The first 10 minutes was so hilarious that I forgot I have to escalate. 10 mins into the movie I extend my hand (palm up)in front of her (like I am asking for her hand).

HBZ: :? (Puzzled look on her face)
Drake : Hey!!! Give me ur hand. I want some warmth :-).
HBZ : (Places her hand in mine)

Went for finger lock. Got very lil compliance. Held it for 5 mins... I started playing around with her fingers. Its like when you twine up your fingers together and have thumbs together. Fiddle her thumb with yours as if you are upto thumb war. Initially there was very lil response. But then slowly but surely the response became stronger and obvious. Which means I can proceed a step further. But before taking further steps, u have to take a step backwards ;-). Stopped fiddling for a while, and got on with my next step.

Whats next step ?? Kino on back of palm, forearms and shoulders. As if I am caressing. No objections from the HB. So I had her palm in mine and kino back of her palm on my cheeks and lips. I have learnt by my experience and experience of others, that a big step towards (French) kissing is to kiss on hands and cheeks first. So, I kiss her palms and fingers. Sure the HB seemed comfortable. And that meant time for some more escalation. But before further escalation I don't know why I asked but I did.

Drake : I wanna kiss you r8 now.
HBZ: No. (Of course I knew it was only a verbal 'no')
Drake: (Without loosing composure) OK.

Cuddling time : :-). Just pulled her in with something like "Hey lets cuddle up". I am gently pulled her in towards me and made her to lean against my shoulder while my arm is thrown over her shoulders. The way to pull in "Gentle But Firm".. .re-read that again. I lean my head on her head, such that my lips are just inches away from her temple. But something about cuddling is to good and romantic. The warmth and the closeness u feel towards the other person is simply amazing. As we cuddled up our fingers locked up again and I knew I can peck on her temple. Peck I did and it was amazing. I could hear the depth in her breath. Slowly somehow the posture went from head to head to cheek to cheek. The only natural thing for me to do was to peck her cheeks. Which she seemed to enjoy. I continued kissing on cheeks for a while . I was expecting her to peck me as well... But sadly it didn't happen ASD ?? I don't know. But I decided escalate anyways. I had this burning desire to kiss the HB on her lips. I was preparing myself to do that but then something happened that I had to stop and un-cuddle. Damn.. .the intermission. As the lights in the Kino went on. An imaginary VJ in my head uttered those bugging lines. Those lines which everyone of us absolutely love to hate.
"We will continue the show after this quick break"


During the break. Some more comfort and more fluff talk. She looked relaxed and comfortable. We couldn't wait for the movie to start again. After all the first half was not properly understood and we better concentrate in the second half. :P

After the break we picked it from right where we left. Cuddle up and cheek kisses. I could have escalated straight to lip-to-lip. But I wanted it much more smooth. So, I kino her on cheeks and lips with the back of my palms (using the hand which is wrapped around her shoulders). Run the train till the comfort is built.


When I knew I had enough of comfort with all that kino on the face. Stopped all the kino on face while we still cuddling. Slightly shift my face such that our cheeks touching and so are our noses. My nose seem to like her's, so the noses go for a lil rub. While our lips are almost touching. I move in a lil bit, she does her part its obvious that its gonna happen. But then I pull back and whisper something in her ears.

"This is bad. I think we should slow down a bit."

Then we go back to cuddling. Kissing on cheeks (still the HB didn't kiss me on my cheeks). After a while our, noses decide to rub again. But this time, I lean in, she does her bit and for about 10 seconds it was passionate one. I pull back first. Then the rest of the show we would alternate between kissing on the cheeks and lips. Kissing is great fun ain't guys.

Sometime while we were kissing. I had gripped her upper arm. My thumb was touching something very soft. And I noticed that she was comfortable with it. So I knew base-2 gonna be pretty easy. So I start caressing her neck. First on the side of the neck just below the cheek and then on the front of the neck just below chin. After a while I worked my down and caress her upper chest on top of the t-shirt. I didn't encounter any resistance till now. I could just feel the bra straps on top of the tee. I snap it.. no reaction. OK, Hands inside the Tee and snap the strap from with in. Slightly move down. But now get some resistance. So I go back caressing the neck. And again work my way down this time on the Tee. But then I get some resistance again.. so what to do ? Of course rinse and repeat. After about three to four repeats She just gives in. But then after 10 seconds ASD is back and she starts resisting. I didn't wanted it go any further lest I trigger some major buyers remorse and consequently no second date. So I stop and we go back for kissing and cuddling.

Before I know the movie was over. Neither of us had any idea about the storyline. I drop her on the way back. We indulge in more comfort talks. Overall comfort level was high. I take her leave by telling her that the time we spent together was awesome and that I couldn't wait to see her again. Ya I know second date would be much more interesting. ;-)




Lessons :
1. Be a bad boy gentleman. Ask for permission verbally and continue physically as if the permission is granted.
2. Closing in a group : Ask her friend if u can take targets contact details. This does wonders. They either leave the choice to the target or they agree for being polite. In any case the permission of the group makes it soooo easy for the target to give out her number.
3. Being direct and honest about the fact that u dig her makes for a easy escalation.
4. 2 step forward 1 step back + Rinse and repeat till u achieve your goal.


PS: Just to add to your vocab... KINO also means theater :-)

Eye Contact

Imagine you are on the street going about on your daily business. You see this cute girl coming from the other side of the footpath. At first you don't really notice anything. Then at about 10 meters away you can actually see how beautiful she is. You initiate an eye contact. Within a second or so her gaze fixes on you and held there for a bit longer than required. With in those few moments your heart beats race up to 150. Without your notice your breathing has deepened and you freeze, not knowing what to do.

Have you been in the above situation before. I have been a there a zillion times. Every time, its the same. OK OK I admit a few times I have ran back to her and introduced myself. But for most of the guys its pretty much the same unless if the guy has a severe case of hormonal imbalance. I thought about whats actually happening in this situation. Basically when you see a beautiful girl there is an attraction spike (u know that, "WOW she's gorgeous" thingie) but once she gives you an EC the attraction spike is multiplied by a factor of 5 or 6. All of a sudden you are excited and she appears much more attractive than before. And thats the power of EC when it comes to attraction games. And I bet my dime, its the same story on the other side as well.

I always wondered why in the dance classes (salsa classes) the hottest chick fell for me (its a different thing that I messed up down the line). Even me without bothering to game them. I thought I was a good dancer and girls were charmed by my super sexy movements. But the truth, I was a so so dancer. But, I am very passionate about dancing. And I always looked my partner dead in the eye with a very slight smile (NOT a 32 bit smile). And the smile is very important or the EC would become a STARE. I never knew (until today) that EC would have such a strong effect. I made an EC, because I really felt the passionate while dancing (towards the dance i.e;). And a great EC was a natural thing to do for me on the dance floor. But the EC created such a intense attraction that some girls just gave a shy smile and looked down with uttering the line "hey please don't look at me like that". And even some of the most confident girls have melted down before the EC. And even in the LTR, a great EC is just enough to melt her bitchiness away and create instant attraction.

Probably only the most confident of guys can Hold an intense EC. Just like the alpha of the wolf pack staring every other member of the pack to submission. However its never an easy thing to do. The urge to look away and break the EC is intense at times(Oh yeah.. think back u will find out). However the reward for holding one is immense. Pure attraction guaranteed.

Lose it like a man

Just back from Poland. And the experience was awesome. I was all alone.. So was it took a great deal of energy and effort to keep myself motivated and de-stressed. Nevertheless I enjoyed the beautiful country and of course the beautiful girls. I could not get hold of any Polish guys as wings, though this would have helped a whole deal in skyrocketing my game. I had contacted the Polish lair, but its as good as dead not even a single reply to my messages. I guess with the amount of beautiful women they have and considering the sex ratio, Polish guys need not be players.

Though I wanted to do street game. My AA and lack of wings had a very bad effect on my Mojo. This is bad, I should be able to be in control of my Mojo and it should depend on anything else. Not quite there but slowly getting there. Anyways, but clubs were a different thing. The very atmosphere of club made clubs ease for me. Way to easy than Indian club scene. Even though all alone by myself, I got approached and turned out not so bad for me. But, I wont write about all that 'coz there was nothing I did or learnt from the whole 'girls game me' stuff. But one thing that worked definitely in my favor, I was definitely working the room. Even had a Pivot who encouraged me to approach girls. And I was natural... no canned material at all. Yes thats where I wanted to be.

The last night rocked for me. All I approached was two sets and both of them rocked. Actually I approached three, third set was pointed out by a pivot and it blew up even before I approached. Anyways, on to good set.

As soon as I walk into the club, hit the bar and grab my usual favorite drink. Water on the rocks i.e :P. See a two set on a table by the speaker. I know bad logistics. But approached it without even thinking about it. As I walk towards the set. One of the girls gives me eye contact. I ask them "if I can join them" and join them without even waiting for their permission. Although the girls were hesitant on approach they chilled later. But I learnt a thing "Polite by words, cocky by BL", nice way to project the BadboyGentleMan attitude eh!!
The music is so loud that we cant even talk to each other. Just few HIs cheers and name exchange and I just lay back and enjoy the music. And the girl who is farthest starts giving me IOIs and trying to fluff with me. Before I could take it to anywhere the obstacle finishes her drinks and drags the target to go get another.

I spot another two set. As I get up. The target vanishes to the bar. I walking anyways and introduce my self to the obstacle. Who is not very open. I learn that she doesn't talk that much English. I don't let it bother me and sit there with her not even speaking word, yet sitting there confidently. Right then the target comes-in. Without missing a beat I say a Hi to her and intro myself and lay-back and chill. And Gosh its On IOIs, this one is trying to fluff as well. I was just wonder what laid back attitude can do with seated sets. Its amazing to have them open you. I pull my chair beside that target. We fluff exchange stories. She give me more IOIs. And even ask me if I want any drinks (on her i.e. I love women who offer to buy me things.. I really do with respect). I just get my "Water on the Rocks" refilled. SOI time... "I really like you 'coz, you are the first women in recent past, who has offered to buy me a drink. And that classy behavior. I like it." To which more IOI come from her side. She mentions that she has a boyfriend, I don't let it bother me and even tell that I have a girl friend too. Exchange pics of our partners. But still I can see the IOIs coming. All these while even the target doesn't speak much English. I tried to keep her entertained as well. Cheering the toasts and stuff like that.

All was going well. Until the obstacle says that she really wants to dance but didn't want the table to be gone. And could I "Please" be at the table when they are out there dancing. I knew at that point that I should not agree. But I did agree ... just for sake of being polite. That was end game. I must have got it that its a shit test and replied politely something to the effect of
"This is the first and last time I am keeping tables for you, and thats just 'coz u bought me a drink. You have just 10 minutes at the dance floor ;-)" that would have been so alpha. But lesson, "If you are loosing, lose like a man" was so evident. It happened the other night as well. The HB who approached me and after a while of chatting and dancing, asked me to buy her a drink and I obliged... end game.

Lessons :
"If you are loosing, lose like a man"
Polite by words, cocky by BL", nice way to project the BadBoyGentleMan attitude
"Work the room... always"

As I was writing this article, I came up with a beautiful thought. I will leave you guys for now with the thought.

"A Player is an AFC who doesn't mind being rejected again and again."

Teasing....

Hooked this one from TSB. So All credits to Brad Howard of the TSB. This guys rocks. I used to be a big time teaser and the guy who gave hard time to ladies. I have gone bad with this stuff. I definitely need a re-entry.
Here is the siht.

Teasing works BEST with women that you already know… or that you’ve just met through a circle of friends (especially if you have a bit of notoriety amongst the group for being a fun guy).

Here’s the thing about teasing though, that I DON’T condone.

It might work for some, but I don’t usually use it.

Don’t use teasing to “knock” a woman down.

For instance, you might hear tell you to say, “You know, everything is working for you tonight EXCEPT those shoes… where did you get those?”

Is there a way to say this so that it works? Absolutely.

Would I RECOMMEND that you try it if you’re a rookie at the whole “teasing” game?

Um… HELL NO!

And here’s why.

A woman’s ego is like a glass house and teasing in this way COULD be like throwing a ROCK into it.

She feels uncomfortable now… and the conversation takes a negative tone.

The WHOLE POINT of teasing is to make the woman FEEL GOOD by being around you.

It’s meant to be fun.

“Setting up TEASE BAIT”

Teasing is no fun if only one person is doing it. So, many times, I’ll throw out some self-depreciating humor as BAIT to get the ball rolling.

(The KEY to self-depreciating humor is that although you’re a strong, confident guy… you don’t take yourself so seriously)

So maybe I’ll tell a fun story that people can laugh at (like the time I locked myself out of my hotel room NAKED and had to walk down to the desk NAKED to get another key) and then ACCUSE people of having similar stories, but they are just to scaredto tell anyone about them.

This works REALLY well. On closer look, the reason this works is because people (women) can see how SECURE you are with yourself because MOST men would NEVER tell a story in which THEY were the one being made fun of.

Again, POWERFUL STUFF here. I use this ALL the time.

“The Accusational Tease”

This one is FUN.

Basically, all you’re doing is ACCUSING the other person of trying to do something that YOU want to happen.

Let’s say that you want to ask a person out on a date (bland, yeah I know… haha).

So you say:

“Yeah, yeah, I get it… Look, if you wanna ask me out, just say so. You don’t have to keep beating around the bush. Who knows, if you get on one knee and smile really pretty… I MIGHT even say yes…”

Her: “I AM NOT!”

You: “It’s okay, really… it won’t make you a lesser person (smile).

Her: “(maybe changing subject)”

You: (laughing) “You can change the subject if you want, butjust remember that I KNOW (point to head), what you’re up to…You may continue… (smile, wink)

This also works well if you want to take it to a sexual level.

You: “Whoa, Nelly… I know you’re just trying to get me drunk so you can take me home and do dirty things to me. (smile)

Her: “Whatever, I am not”

You: “Man, why is it that every woman thinks that she can buy you a drink and then try to get in your pants. Here’s a hint, Missy… (whisper) it’s gonna take more than one (smile)

Guys, keep in mind that these ARE NOT serious conversations. They are tongue in check and playful.

Using the accusational tease is a SURE way to get her to give you a “love tap”… or punch on the arm… or a light shove.

To which you can reply:

“Dang, feeling me up already and we just got here… geez…”

“The Frame-Banging Tease”

Okay, I couldn’t think of a better term for this but here’s the gist of it.

Say your woman, or even a woman that you just met has had a really rotten day… but you want some sex… because, well, you’re a guy and that’s what guys want.

Here’s what you do:

Her: “Man, I’ve had such a shitty day… (blah, blah, this is what happened)”

You: (Smiling) “Wow, I never expected YOU to let (someone/something) get under your sking like this. What would you do if I lost my hair all of the sudden, would that mean you wouldn’t hang out any more. I TOTALLY expected more out of you”

(You’re doing this to show her that it’s CRAZINESS for her to feel like she’s feeling… naturally, we can go on and on with this but I hope you get my drift.)

If she doesn’t snap out of her funk with this, we now have to employ our most SECRET WEAPON…

“The Tickle Tease”

NOTHING changes the tone of a conversation faster than some “good ole” tickling.

Start slow at first. Like a little bit.

You: (Smiling) “Are you going to get in a better mood… huh… are you?

Her: “Stop it!”

You: (tickling) “Are you in a better mood yet? Tell me I’m the greatest ever… who’s your buddy… who’s your pal… (okay, so I stole that from “Stripes”… shoot me)

Then you just start kissing and BLAMMO!

Bumming Monkeys Time.

Wow, I can’t believe I just said BLAMMO… haha

(The above statement is a great example of self depreciating humor, by the way)

“Physical Teasing”

Before I end this, because I could literally go on for ever on this topic… physical humor and teasing ROCKS.

For example, bring back the old school “You’ve Got Something On Your Shirt” gag… where you point at a spot on her shirt and when she looks down, you bonk her nose with your finger.

That always works great.

Or… and this is always fun.

If you’re walking side by side and there is a physical object on her side… slowly start walking her into it. That’s fun too.

I also like walking up behind my woman and “shanking” her if she has on sweats or loose shorts in the house… and then ACT like I’m gonna do it when we’re out in public. Fun Stuff.

Teasing is a fun way to build attraction and BOOKS have been written on the subject.

It’s the ULTIMATE way of flirting and getting her to chase you, all while showing your strength as a man.

Here’s my final tip on teasing… and pay attention because this is important.

When you are teasing a woman, maybe sure that it’s fun for HER… but that you are ALSO AMUSING YOURSELF at the SAME TIME.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had people ask me:

“You just trip yourself out don’t you”

Me: “Absolutely, I can’t help the fact that almost everyone else in life is lame. I like to think of it as “playing with myself” without all the mess. You should try it sometime instead of living in “lame-o land”. (smiling, laughing… Note: Having fun, with a touch of self depreciation as well)

That’s it. I’m done.

Warzawa experiencza.

Jin Dobre Guys,

Jak Sie Masz (Typical Borat Style huhhnn!!! ;-) ?

This is my first visit to a country which is almost eastern Europe. Poland. Nice country....No wait.. make it 'Beaaaaauuuuutifuuuul country'. Really helpful people. Not like the 'developed european people' who have this false superiority complex. And chicks... WTF guys its for god sake eastern part of europe :P. I had no option but to really like this country. Muuaaaaahhhh... I love this place already.

But getting her was a bit of trouble. I missed my connecting flight.. mummmmmeeeeee.. sob sob :'-(. Nevertheless the journey was adventurous. I leave Blore by 10 PM. My Parents saw me off at the new international airport. Really nice airport. And when they say international it really has the international look and feel :-).

I was in line to pay my 'User development fee' (have no idea what its for). And I have this chick walk up and join the Q behind me. She is quite nice looking. Dressed up in bull jeans, black top, black 'jag-mag' footware and had this white jacket which was absolutely incredible. How can I not talk to her :-). So I open.

Me : (Turn back. Look at her for a second) Hey, Do you know how much is the UDF?(Not that I didnt know how much was the UDF ;-):-)
Her: Its about 1000 bucks or so.
Me : One way or both the way ? (Ya this is ridiculous)
Her : :-) One way of course.
Me : :-).
Her: So u r flying by Lufthansa ?
Me : Ya how do you guess ?
Her: Most of the ppl here are ( We are close to Lufthansa checkin counters).
Me : Oh :-).... I am Preetham btw.
HBN: I am HBN.
Me : Nice meeting u HBN.
HBN: Nice meeting you too.
We chat up a bit abou where we are travelling. And where we are from. No attraction stuff only fluff and comfort talk. Then it was my turn to pay. I tell her I will catch her in the lounge and eject.

I go for checkin. OMG. It looks like Lufthansa has contract with some kinda modelling firm or something. What cute girls at the checkin counter eh? Literally 9's and 10's. I just hoped that my turn would never come. I just want to enjoy seeing all the beautiful girl.. for ever. But, the inevitable happened and I moved on. Sob, Sob.

At the boarding lounge. There was this beautiful chinki I wanted to open. But I kept giving myself excuses not to open her. I see HBN talking over the phone.. I made an excuse not to go and sit beside her 'coz I thought I would talk to her later (Which never happened 'coz later when I saw her the place beside her was occupied by somebody.. Lesson : Spontanity is the name of the game). There was yet another beauty, but was with her mother which was the reason why I didnt approach. But in the aircraft I had a few IOIs from her (Fuck me.. I shud have opened them).

Arrived at the Frankfurt airport at about 8AM. Had my flight scheduled at 11:25 AM. I freshned up and waited waited waited .. But the sad part was that I was waiting at a wrong GATE. (No wonder there werent so man babes there). I missed my flight sob sob sob. I thought I was having a bad day. But you never know what adventure u will have ahead. I get myself transfered to the next flight at 5:20 PM(which took off only by 6:20 PM :-( talk of a bad day huhn!!). I was waiting in the boarding area. Either there were no chicks. Or I made excuses. I did all kinds of things to ward off my boredom, untill I saw this cute Vietnamese chick sitting all by herself. After few minutes of pumping myself up. I walk up to her.

Me : Hey, are you a German. (Wasnt that confindent, and am fiddling my pen)
She : No. I am not.
Me : U look like u kno German. Do you?
She : No, I know only a lil bit.
Me : ( Parking my ass just on a seat beside her) Oh!! pity. I had to get the meaning of this word 'Lufthansa'. And u sure looked like u know german I could ask you. I know for sure 'Luft' means Air. Do you kno what 'Hansa' means.
She : I have no Idea. It just looks like some meaning less name to me.
Me : Oh Ok. I am Preetham BTW.
MyHB: U can call me MyHB.
Me : Nice meeting you
MyHb: Nice meeting you too.
Me : Where are you from ?
MyHb: Guess ?
Me : ummm.... China.
MyHB: Close But I am from Viet. And what about you.
Me : Guess ?
MyHB: India.
Me : Bang on.
MyHB : I have lot of Indian friends. We have this bollywood club in Warsaw that my friend own.
Me : Cool. I definitely want to go there. Do you kno the address of the place.
MyHB: I dont have the address of the place. Right now.
Me : Ok no problem. Gimme your number and I will call you up when I am in Warsaw and take the address later during the week.
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We fluff fluff fluff. Lil bit of tease and banter. She is kinda interest. She even waits for me after the boarding check. In her own banter words "Its too bad we don't have seats next each other". In flight I was making plans to reel her for a instant date after alightning. However, at Warsaw a Bangladeshi guy greets her definitely vibes like her BF. I meet him. On my way to taxi stand. I loudly utter the PUA's magic word "NEXT".

Quickly check-in to Hotel at about 8. Freshenup inspite of tiring day of travel. And go out. I opened up this not so good looking Iraqi student.
Me : Hey, do u know any foreign exchange near by. (Really needed some local currency).
She : (Taken aback for a moment, but then realizes that I am some foreign guy asking directions)
She : One's there on this street. Just 20 m ahead.
Me : I will walk with u till there.
She : Oh, looks like its closed. But there shud be one more upahead come with me.
Me : Oh so nice of u. I am Preetham and You.
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Fluff, Banter.
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Walk around with her for the next 20 mins. She shows the way around the city. I could feel that she was definitely interested. But what the I wasn't :P. So I take her leave to head to hotel, I was really tired. As we part I could see the disappointment on her face. I number close her (just being polite :P) and move on.

Definitely is good start to my trip. I definitely didnt expect Polish ppl to know this good english. Its not bad at all. Ok, so I am all set to rock up this city in coming days. I already have a french wing who is travelling poland (Polish lair is as good as dead). Expect few more amazing reports from Warsaw.

Direct revelations

Its altogether a different feeling when you are meeting (at least trying to :-) new people amidst your day to day activities. I feel that finally (after so much of struggle, and practice) meeting new ppl is becoming so much so like a second nature to me. I am opening in all sorts of places. Street while on the way to work. Coffee shops while I am out with my cousins. While with friends. I want to be at a stage where I do not specifically want to go out to meet new ppl.

The other day me and my cousin were hanging out at this JPNagar CCD. My cousin is kinda natural guy (but unfortunately doesn't do cold calls.) He points out to me that a lonewolf 9 just walked in and is sitting "over there". It takes a while for me to pump myself before I get myself to approach her.

I walk up as she finished her sandwich. I pulled a chair in front of her with a big smile. And park my ass right next to her. I extend my arm towards her.

Me : Hi, I am Preetham.
HB : ( 90% Neutral 10% Pissed ) I don't know you!!!
Me :(Still the hand stretched out and still smiling) Thats why I am introducing my self. I am Preetham.
HB : (80%:20%:P) So!!!
I let my hand stay there in front of her. Hoping at least that leaving it there would make the moment so uncomfortable that she would have to eventually shake hands with me. But she is a tough nut to crack. I leave the palm in front of her for about 7-8seconds. But no luck.
Me : (Pointing to myself) Me and my cousin (Pointing to my cousin) over there were just about to leave the cafe. I saw you.. just want to come and say you a Hi.
HB : (Perfect blank.. no expression) (Starts sorting out her bill)

I sit there for about 5 more seconds before realizing that it is going anywhere but down.

Me : (Smile wide) It was pleasure meeting you (no not the sarcastic vibe but sincere vibe). Have a nice evening miss.

As I walk back to my cousin. I punch the air with my fist. And re-iterate to myself "Congrats you did your approach of the day".

Just as we came out side CCD. I had to attend a call. My cousin notices that the same HB is coming out of the CCD and is kinda staring at me while she ejects the place. (Girls.. aren't they crazy!!!). I couldn't notice her 'coz I am facing away from the exit of the CCD.

I thought about the approach later. I would have preferred pacing the approach before actually going for the introduction. If we notice above that I introduce myself first and then pace it (may be I was nervous.. quite possible). Thus it occurred to me that its time to structure/refine my approach.

Elements that I would like to incorporate in my approach.

1. Politeness (even at the expense of alphaness)
2. Outcome independent.
3. Coolness and composedness.
4. Mix of laid back and being interested.

Structure :
1. Have a big smile even before you approach:
You are already having fun. Plus the smile increases the attractiveness of your face by at least 10 times.

2. Begin with a "Excuse me":
This might come across as less alpha. But makes approach more polite and decent. You come across as less player like.

3. Get them to answer your first question with a yes:
Yes -> Acceptance. Once they accept you its kinda difficult to reject you. More often than not.. the Yes train continues.

Ex:
Me : Excuse me. If I ain't disturbing you can I sit by you for a minute.
She : Yes.
(Note the (false) time constraint as well)

4. Pace the intro. Genuine Compliment and introduce.
Ex : Me and my cousin were just about to leave the CCD I happen to notice you. I had to to come and meet you. 'Coz I think you have a great sense of dressing. I am Preetham.

5. Shake hands and get to know her name. If she has company, pay equal attention to her friends.

6. Banter, flirt and make their day.

7. Pace the close.
Example :- Lack of time have to run now. But definitely would like to hangout again. Lets swap numbers.

8. Ejecting (even if you are blown out) Smile at her. Sincerely thank her for talking and eject blissfully. Just make sure you convey using your body lang that u aren't affected by the outcome.

Ex : Blow out
She : Get the fuck off from here dude.
Me : Oh !!! Pardon me. didn't mean to offend you or something. It really was my pleasure meeting you. Have a wonderful day ahead. (smile and eject).


Now I have to get myself in the field and practice this. Check this space for updates on the results.

A funny set

I want to write about a funny set that we did on Friday.

Me and PBR. We both were hanging out on Brigade Road. We saw a Chinki Lonewolf standing all by herself. Not too great just about 6-6.5.

I nudge PBR to open it for Kicks. So we went indirect, with something like "Where is this Place ?". To which she says that she doesn't know.

Its PBRs first set of the day. And he is all set to eject. I sense that and drop a lil Hydrogen Bomb.

"The only reason we approached you is 'coz my friend kinda likes you and wanted a reason to come and talk to you.;-)".

She smiles. Not like "welcome I am all yours, sarge me" kinda smile. But more like a Polite smile. So PBR like continues with a routine. Which she was not into, 'coz she only checked her mobile all thru the routine. We grab her phone saying that its a nice phone and want to check it. We bust on her about how common that model is.

As, soon as I return the phone she calls her friends and asks them to come fast. PBR is all set to eject.. inspite of getting eyecoded for close. I get that PBR is not very much into her and won't go for close. Drake says something like "Gimme your number, we will hang out sometimes". The lonewolf went silent. So I push a bit more. Take my phone out and say something like "So your number is 9.." She gives in and tells me her digits.

As I was punching her number. I notice a Chinki male who peered over my shoulder and walked away and waited in distance. After I get the number, the lone wolf rushes off and joins the Chinki guy. And thus it occurs to us that its her boy friend. In front of whom we number closed his girl. Now, I know for sure that this is not a solid close. But what the heck.. it was at least worth a hearty laugh.

FR: 60 - 0 in 3.5, YAQC

This is big one for me. It shattered one of my limiting beliefs. I am biker dude. Thing is I love the freedom/maneuverability/speed the motor-bike offers me. And I always wanted to do an off-the-bike approach, for which the time was just right today :-). Plus I always wanted to "Sarge while I am Out" rather than "Go out to sarge"... mean to say meet new ppl while doing the day to day activities rather than to have to specifically go out to meet new ones.

Enough of setting the stage... on with the FR.

Its Nine in the morning and I am cruising @ 60 KMPH. Even though it is mid summer I can feel the coooool wind on my face for it had rained heavily the previous day. Clear skies clean streets cool breeze what else does a biker need. As I was riding my 'girl', I was mentally going thru a list of activities that I need to complete @ work. Something in my peripheral vision distracted me.. something in white top and blue jeans. It took me about .5 seconds to realise that it was lone wolf about 8 on my scale. As I rode past her, voices in my head debated whether to approach or not to. I decided to do it anyways and braked hard for about 3.5 seconds until the digital speedometer showed O KMPH.

Parked my 'girl', got off her. Removed my helmet. Brushed off imaginary dust off my shoulders. Set off towards the HB. With my chest out, chin held up and a big smile on my face, approaching her from her side. During the 10 seconds walk to the target, I couldn't help but admire her curves ;P. As approach near to her she got it from her peripheral vision that I was about to approach her. Girls and their intuition..kinda amazes me sometimes.

Drake : Excuse me.
HB : (Turns towards me)
Drake : (Big smile on my face)Hey Hi.
HB : (Confused Smile) Hi.

As she said this she kinda turned to face me. (Saw the face was a bit disappointed as the face value was just of a 7.. but that ain't stopping me from going on.
Drake : I was just passing by.. I saw you. Thought you are kinda cute. Wanted to come and meet you. (Thrusting my hand out) I am Preetham.

There is goes on yet again.... the chirstmas tree light i.e.
HB : I am HBSlp. (Smile)
Drake : Nice meeting you HBSlp.
I barely completed the above sentence.
HBSlp: So you are working somewhere ?
Guess she is in a hurry to jump off to comfort stage :PPP.

Drake : blah blah blah. You working or studying??
HBSlp : I am working as well as Studying. Doing ma MBA.
Drake : Oh no... One more of those HR girls yeah. (Playfully delivered) :-)
HBSlp : :-). Actually I am into Finance.
Drake : And where do you work?
HBSlp : XYZ software firm. blah blah blah.
fluff tease flirt for another minute.
HBSlp : So are u on ur way to work ?
Drake : yeah. You.
HBSlp : Yeah. Waiting for a friend of mine. He is supposed to come and pick me up from.
And right then I hear ring tones from her cellphone. Guess its was her 'pickup and drop' service aka her bodygaurd. As she continued to give directions to her 'pickup drop service' I slowly pulled out my phone. And waited for her to end the call.
HBSlp : (cutting the call) Its m friend whose is picking me up.
Drake : AH OK. .....
HBSlp : :-)....
Drake : Hey I gtg now... getting late for college.
HBSlp : College ???
Drake : Oh did I say college.. I meant office.. I guess I am bit nervous.
HBSlp : :-) :-) :-)
Drake : It was nice meeting you. I would like to keep in touch. Whats your number.
HBSlp : Sure... my number is XXXXXXXXXXX.

I store the number and give her a call so that she has my number.
HBSlp : Gimme a call sometimes.
DRake : Sure. Bye.
HBSlp : Bye.

I had this sense of satisfaction and achievement as I was walking back towards my 'girl'. :-). It feels really good to inculcate the whole 'pickup' thing in ur day 2 day activities.

And I was writing this FR I at least got four calls from HBSlp. It definitely on. But that kinda turns me off a bit.

Lessons:
1. Direct is fucking awesome... no unnecessary beating around the bush.
2. Quick closes are not necessarily the lucky ones.

PS: YAQC :: Yet Another Quick Close.;-)

An apple a day

Going out almost everday for the past two weeks now. Yeah, a few times I invariably have to skip and I cant help it. But other than that I follow this "everyday spend 1/2 an hour meeting ppl" like a cult religion. Results, been encouraging. The game is 'getting back' in ma veins again. :-). Though this time the focus is entirely on direct game. Spot stop show interest.. bam go for close.. as easy as that. Have learnt a trick or two. But the most mind boggling thing about direct game is that it can lead to superfast closes. For example:

Stop a HB with her friends pass by me. PBR nuggles me. And I run back.

Me : Hey excuse me (Huge Smile).
Big ones disarms the set, the bigger the better. Perverts!!! I am talking about the smile. What better way to say that I am the most friendliest kid on the block.

HB : (Smiles back with a puzzled look.. like do I recognise this guy from somewhere)

Me : Hi, I just passed by you. I reckon I kinda like you. Had to come and say a Hi to you. I am Preetham.

HB : (Ya chirstmas tree is lit) I am HBCutie. :-)

Me : (to the HBFriend) And you ?

HBF: Blah blah.

So I decided to get the most fanciest of the tricks from my basket. Yeah Fluff.
Me : So what you guys do?

One is studying in a post college of the city and the other is doing law in another fundu college.

Ok, my basket of tricks is almost empty well with in 2 minutes.
Me : Ok, guys was nice meeting you two. I gotta run now. But I really enjoyed meeting you. Hope we can catch up sometime later. Lets exchange numbers.

HB : I am sorry I dont do numbers.

ME : Email then.

HB : Sure, but before that what do you do ? (he he he)

ME : blah blah blah

HB : OK email id is.......

Well mail close within two minutes of meeting. Never could have done the same with the indirect openers. Thing to note is that I didn't work to build attraction. Either, the direct opening is itself very attractive or ma body lang would have fking good. I feel like I am so in my own skin doing of direct ones. Since, I have conveyed the interest upfront going for a quick close isn't a issue.

But, I see something that missing...
1. Attraction. Build some attraction with banter.
2. Deep EC might help. I will test this out.

This at least a single approach a day is really improving ma game. This is coz the very first approach is the toughest one. So if we can manage 1 every day. AA can be managed to a controllable level.

Tats it for now. But watch out for more post.

Ugly blow outs

Been craving to discuss this with y'all. Its concerning a sticking
point of mine. Handling those Extra special blowouts. Generally there
is nothing much that we can do when set doesn't respond at all to
whatever you throw at them. But handling a blow out where the girl
goes to a great extent to blow you out. Consider this blowout for
instance.

I was out in a mall with my wing Flamin. Spot a cute set of 2.
Target : 8.5 Cutie. As they walk past me. I stood there for a second
before I turn back and walk towards the set covering the gap in brisk
paces. At about an arms length away.

Drake : Hey Guys.

As I utter this, I stop her with a confident soft Kino on her left
shoulder using the face of my palm. The Kino was firm, friendly one
(or thats what I felt :?). Whatever it was, it works and it gets to
stop them.

Drake : I saw you walk past me just now. I couldn't help but walk up
to you and compliment you.

HB : .... (Scowl on the face)

Drake clearly senses the calm before the storm.

HB : (Strong firm voice) First of all why did you touch me ?

As I pictured yet another incarnation of lordess Durga in front of me.
She reloaded her shot gun and aimed for bulls eye (a.k.a Preetham
a.k.a Drake:)

HB : Whenever you want to speak to a person. You should first say
"excuse me". And then you have to maintain a distance of at least 3
feet.

I know for sure there is nothing wrong with the way opener was
delivered. On previous occasions the same compliment + Kino combo has
worked for me. Think, she just had a bad day @ work or may be she was
in the r8 mood to yell @ a hot alpha male dude ;P.

Drake : (Took a step back to maintain the distance) I think this gap
between us should be good enough. ( Had a huge dumb ass smile on the
face ).

My bad shouldn't have bought her frame. Mistake mistake mistake. Let
me say it again. Never buy into her frame, especially if she is being
a bitch to you. Instead of taking a step back, could have taken a step
towards her (to lessen the gap) and say "Is that good enough?". But it
kinda risky in a mall environment.

HB : Now listen here. I don't want any of your compliments.

Drake had enough. Without missing a beat.
Drake : OK GO. (ya reacted emotionally and walked away with a "I don't
give a middle finger" attitude)

I felt good about not being affected by the rejection & my will to
walk away. But, while debriefing me and my wing feel that we could
have handled situation better. May be with a cool head. May be
something on the following lines.

Drake : ( Being Genuinely nice) Hey relax it was just a friendly
touch. Seems like you are already having a bad day. Its really ok, if
you don't want to be complimented. Have really nice evening guys.
Thanks for talking to me.

Being the nice guy here :
1. Shows that u r in control of your reality
2. Makes her feel like a bitch for being one to you. Who knows she
might bump into you later and apologize.. while you playfully tease
her to set u up with her hot friends and thus be nice to you in
return.;-)

Well, guys what do you think. How else could we handle a ugly blow out
like this ? Key in your thoughts here. I wont assure a surprise gift
for cool thoughts though. :-)

Exam.. will I do well

My sister will be very tense and anxious these days. The anxiety peaks at about 10:00 AM in the morning every 4 days or so. If I talk to her the response I get is far from logical. If at all I get one. The only thing that occupies her mind is exams and the anxiety of "whats gonna happen". But amazingly she tops her class always... well almost ;-).

Did you ask for my commentary ? A Bad case of exam-anxiety is what I can say about my sis. But don't we all suffer from it (except for a few 'cool dudes' of the class who were Marijuanated by the time our exams started). The degree to which an individual gets affected and the symptoms vary. But every one has it and its only natural. Its body's mechanism to keep us alert when something important is gonna happen. If it weren't for that excitement/nervousness/anxiety I would simply doze off just before or during the exams :P.

Well this is how my typical exam anxiety pattern was.
The exam anxiety would peak before 5 minutes the exam actually started. The pen would be slippery. I would even notice the cold sweat that drenched my armpits. Irrational thoughts like "what if the questions are tough?" "What if out of syllabus questions were in the paper?"
Just before I would "Open" the paper the anxiety would be at it max. I would always gasp before 'opening' the paper.
I would size up the paper before proceeding. The very first question would be tough to read .. but almost always turn out to be a easy one and that would ease me very much.

By the time I finished answering the first question if anybody were to ask me "What is exam anxiety ?" I wouldn't know the answer. :-)

When attending academic exams. The stakes were very high. If you flunk, you would lose out a semester or even worse I wouldn't finish the course. Parents might take me to task (at least they used to do when I was in high school). Might loose few friends (coz they would move on the next grade). You can only take the same exam after say about 3 or 6 months. You will have to prepare hard for the exam. A 100 other such terrible things in the list.

Now how would u like an exam in which u can flunk 1000 times and no-body would utter a word about failing. In fact people would only appreciate the fact that you 'approached' the exam. Further, the stakes are all in your favor. If you fail you loose nothing and may be even gain some experience. If you win however.. do the math yourself ;-). This is the kind of a business in which u invest very little, loose almost nothing but the rewards are huge. And this exam can be taken every five minutes and nobody gives a s**t about it. Every time u take up the exam u learn something new. :-)