Its often the case that I am like literally overcome by AA. I really wanted to find way around it. Yesterday I tried out a new approach for approaching which resulted in less approach anxiety.
I realized that its important to approach even the UGs continually if not anything this will keep you in top form and help you with the next Hottie that you might encountered.
It also made a lot of sense when I started small and ramped up slowly step by step. And above all its imperative that you just do the first five sets you see when you are in the field. If you avoid these five sets it would set up a very bad (negative) start for your evening. If you miss any of the first five sets you might as well go back home just then as save yourself some time.
Anyway this is how I ramped up yesterday.
Set 1:
Opener : What a good shop around here to buy some ladies footwear.
Set2:
Opener : What a good shop around here to buy some ladies footwear.
Opener2 : Get the answer to the question and followup with 2nd question which transitions into Tom Boy opener.
Set3:
Opener : What a good shop around here to buy some ladies footwear.
Opener2 : Get the answer to the question and followup with 2nd question which transitions into Tom Boy opener.
Opener3 : Try to transition into personal
Set4:
Opener : What a good shop around here to buy some ladies footwear.
Opener2 : Get the answer to the question and followup with 2nd question which transitions into Tom Boy opener.
Opener3 : Cut the stupid indirect opener and transition into a direct.
Set5 :
Opener : Direct.
This way I am slowly and continuously ramping up the approach ladder busting the approach anxiety little by little. If you are total beginner you might consider something as basic as asking time or direction and slowly working you way up-to transition phase over a course of some 10-15 sets.
One more stuff that really helped me (not just in PU but my Day to Day life as well). Don't be a slave to micro avoidance. When you want to do something that you wanna do but avoid or procrastinate (even smallest of things like tidying up your desk which would take like a minute or so) you take a hit on your self esteem. You think less of yourself. Over the course of the day the micro-avoidance will degrade your self esteem. So say NO to avoiding stuff and set yourself up for success. (For more on Micro-avoidance refer to Sixty Years of challenge)
I realized that its important to approach even the UGs continually if not anything this will keep you in top form and help you with the next Hottie that you might encountered.
It also made a lot of sense when I started small and ramped up slowly step by step. And above all its imperative that you just do the first five sets you see when you are in the field. If you avoid these five sets it would set up a very bad (negative) start for your evening. If you miss any of the first five sets you might as well go back home just then as save yourself some time.
Anyway this is how I ramped up yesterday.
Set 1:
Opener : What a good shop around here to buy some ladies footwear.
Set2:
Opener : What a good shop around here to buy some ladies footwear.
Opener2 : Get the answer to the question and followup with 2nd question which transitions into Tom Boy opener.
Set3:
Opener : What a good shop around here to buy some ladies footwear.
Opener2 : Get the answer to the question and followup with 2nd question which transitions into Tom Boy opener.
Opener3 : Try to transition into personal
Set4:
Opener : What a good shop around here to buy some ladies footwear.
Opener2 : Get the answer to the question and followup with 2nd question which transitions into Tom Boy opener.
Opener3 : Cut the stupid indirect opener and transition into a direct.
Set5 :
Opener : Direct.
This way I am slowly and continuously ramping up the approach ladder busting the approach anxiety little by little. If you are total beginner you might consider something as basic as asking time or direction and slowly working you way up-to transition phase over a course of some 10-15 sets.
One more stuff that really helped me (not just in PU but my Day to Day life as well). Don't be a slave to micro avoidance. When you want to do something that you wanna do but avoid or procrastinate (even smallest of things like tidying up your desk which would take like a minute or so) you take a hit on your self esteem. You think less of yourself. Over the course of the day the micro-avoidance will degrade your self esteem. So say NO to avoiding stuff and set yourself up for success. (For more on Micro-avoidance refer to Sixty Years of challenge)
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