I am having great time opening sets around. I went out yesterday with lot of hesitation but once I was on field I ended up opening a lot of sets. It fucking felt natural. :-) no anxiety what so ever. However, no closes. This is mainly because I think I am ejecting much before the magic happens. I need to keep on doing whatever I am doing. Basically, being funny/goofy/charming and stick around unless I am asked to leave the set. If there is interest I got to hang on and run it.
If I there is no interest/attraction I gotta remember Negs/Void/DHVs. :-).
Monday, November 28, 2011
Thursday, November 24, 2011
FR: Whacking Wednesday
Warning : Not so well written post. Bear with me.
It was really long, it almost felt like I had lost my game. And after
all the shit that happened with me in the past one year, life had
served me a hard lesson, practically. Anyways I been trying to find my
game back for quite some time now. But there is this terrible feedback
cycle that is associated with the bad game. You feel bad that you are
not meeting beautiful new people. Then you head to field. Since you
have not exercised your Game Muscle for quite sometime. You feel
jittery. You end up not doing any notable stuff and that indeed leads
to more frustration. Then you head back home feeling even less
confident. Net effect, lesser self confidence. You don't want to head
out in the field again. Two or three days you muster the courage go
out again and the cycle repeats and your self confidence hits a new
low. You try hard get out of this quicksand. The harder you try the
more deeper you sink. The only thing that will help is to go back to
BASICS and to be not afraid as starting as a total beginner.
Well that's what I have been doing for quite a few weeks now. But
success is a bitch it breaks you down before it meets you.
Last few weeks have been especially frustrating. But you determine and
be out there take hits after hits finally you will see the light.
Pretty much all we did for past few weeks was go out, feel anxiety,
Push through it, warm up with a set or two, really stick with basics
and work our ways up. Me and Rachit had been regularly going out these
days. And yesterday it was especially eventful.
We went out to Garuda. Warmed up a bit with two or three sets at west
side and Shopper stop. We usually stick with the indirect openers,
where is this place ? Where do we get nice thing(clothes/food/beer/
footwear....)? After opening a few set in clothing store just to warm
we hit the food court. I immediately notice this HB with really nice
hair and a great sense of dressing. I wanted to go direct but she
takes too long to get her food. I decided to chuck it and come back
sometime later when she has settled down in a table after getting her
plate. So head down stairs, as we are getting down we see this HB lets
say HBRT, a 6.5 - 7 perhaps but with a good sense of dressing. She
stepped onto escalator along with me. I was just a step behind her.
Me : Hey, do you know any shoe shop around here I need to get some
ladies shoes to present to my friend.
She : << Is being very polite and trying to tell me the available
options and brand and whatnot. I observe that Body lang is very
favorable. No IOIs and all>>
as we stepped off the escalator we take a few steps and stand. She is
full into helping me to buy the shoes. After a few lines of exchange
with me busting her bubbles a bit.
She : Anyways, I am not doing anything I can help you.
Now I am in a fix. I didn't really want to buy anything you know. But
then I wanted to stay in it.
Me : Actually you know what, I don't really want buy any stuff. I just
wanted to say you a Hi. I think you have beautiful eyes. What is your
name ?
She is all smiles. And immediately the IOIs starts flowing in.
She : xxxx
I tease her that her name matches to that of 90s bollywood actress. To
which she says that didnt like her. And I turn it by repeatedly
addressing her with the last name of the actress. And more IOIs
including hair flicks.
Me : You should not flick your hair like. You know what they say about
girls flicking their hair right.
She : What ?
Me : That means you are attracted to the guy. Lets go for a coffee.
At the coffee shop she mainly talks about her college and gives me
shit about her classmates speaking in Hindi in bad way. And how she is
grownup in hi-fi boarding schools around India and how she can't cope
up with these new classmates. Frankly its a turn off. I didnt find any
connection, but any which ways I date close her.
Me: What are you doing tomorrow evening ?
She : pretty much nothing.
Me : Let's catch up for a movie. It can't happen in the afternoon as I
have to work however evenings I am free.
She : Sure why not ?
Me : Ok then give me you number I will call you tomorrow and let you
know the plan.
She : OK here it is xxxxxxxxxxxx.
We chat for some more and I realized that I had completely forgotten
about Rachit. I exit saying that I had to meet my friend. And I take
her leave.
When I catch up with Rachit. I find out that this fucker was in a
Insta-date too. It was the same chick whom I had eyed in the
cafeteria. Way to go bro... but I still hate you for not leaving her
for me. you fucker :-).
We went around for some more time didn't find any more open-able sets.
We exit and head back home with feeling of warmth and higher self
confidence.
Meanwhile, I am not sure if I have to follow up on the movie date. I
don't feel like. I might flake :-). :P.
PS: one-itis or no one-itis, work or no work never, don't fucking
loose your game. All keep the Social muscle exercised. Being a guy you
have to keep your skills sharp and believe me being able to seduce
people anytime anywhere is one huge skill that guys ought to have.
It was really long, it almost felt like I had lost my game. And after
all the shit that happened with me in the past one year, life had
served me a hard lesson, practically. Anyways I been trying to find my
game back for quite some time now. But there is this terrible feedback
cycle that is associated with the bad game. You feel bad that you are
not meeting beautiful new people. Then you head to field. Since you
have not exercised your Game Muscle for quite sometime. You feel
jittery. You end up not doing any notable stuff and that indeed leads
to more frustration. Then you head back home feeling even less
confident. Net effect, lesser self confidence. You don't want to head
out in the field again. Two or three days you muster the courage go
out again and the cycle repeats and your self confidence hits a new
low. You try hard get out of this quicksand. The harder you try the
more deeper you sink. The only thing that will help is to go back to
BASICS and to be not afraid as starting as a total beginner.
Well that's what I have been doing for quite a few weeks now. But
success is a bitch it breaks you down before it meets you.
Last few weeks have been especially frustrating. But you determine and
be out there take hits after hits finally you will see the light.
Pretty much all we did for past few weeks was go out, feel anxiety,
Push through it, warm up with a set or two, really stick with basics
and work our ways up. Me and Rachit had been regularly going out these
days. And yesterday it was especially eventful.
We went out to Garuda. Warmed up a bit with two or three sets at west
side and Shopper stop. We usually stick with the indirect openers,
where is this place ? Where do we get nice thing(clothes/food/beer/
footwear....)? After opening a few set in clothing store just to warm
we hit the food court. I immediately notice this HB with really nice
hair and a great sense of dressing. I wanted to go direct but she
takes too long to get her food. I decided to chuck it and come back
sometime later when she has settled down in a table after getting her
plate. So head down stairs, as we are getting down we see this HB lets
say HBRT, a 6.5 - 7 perhaps but with a good sense of dressing. She
stepped onto escalator along with me. I was just a step behind her.
Me : Hey, do you know any shoe shop around here I need to get some
ladies shoes to present to my friend.
She : << Is being very polite and trying to tell me the available
options and brand and whatnot. I observe that Body lang is very
favorable. No IOIs and all>>
as we stepped off the escalator we take a few steps and stand. She is
full into helping me to buy the shoes. After a few lines of exchange
with me busting her bubbles a bit.
She : Anyways, I am not doing anything I can help you.
Now I am in a fix. I didn't really want to buy anything you know. But
then I wanted to stay in it.
Me : Actually you know what, I don't really want buy any stuff. I just
wanted to say you a Hi. I think you have beautiful eyes. What is your
name ?
She is all smiles. And immediately the IOIs starts flowing in.
She : xxxx
I tease her that her name matches to that of 90s bollywood actress. To
which she says that didnt like her. And I turn it by repeatedly
addressing her with the last name of the actress. And more IOIs
including hair flicks.
Me : You should not flick your hair like. You know what they say about
girls flicking their hair right.
She : What ?
Me : That means you are attracted to the guy. Lets go for a coffee.
At the coffee shop she mainly talks about her college and gives me
shit about her classmates speaking in Hindi in bad way. And how she is
grownup in hi-fi boarding schools around India and how she can't cope
up with these new classmates. Frankly its a turn off. I didnt find any
connection, but any which ways I date close her.
Me: What are you doing tomorrow evening ?
She : pretty much nothing.
Me : Let's catch up for a movie. It can't happen in the afternoon as I
have to work however evenings I am free.
She : Sure why not ?
Me : Ok then give me you number I will call you tomorrow and let you
know the plan.
She : OK here it is xxxxxxxxxxxx.
We chat for some more and I realized that I had completely forgotten
about Rachit. I exit saying that I had to meet my friend. And I take
her leave.
When I catch up with Rachit. I find out that this fucker was in a
Insta-date too. It was the same chick whom I had eyed in the
cafeteria. Way to go bro... but I still hate you for not leaving her
for me. you fucker :-).
We went around for some more time didn't find any more open-able sets.
We exit and head back home with feeling of warmth and higher self
confidence.
Meanwhile, I am not sure if I have to follow up on the movie date. I
don't feel like. I might flake :-). :P.
PS: one-itis or no one-itis, work or no work never, don't fucking
loose your game. All keep the Social muscle exercised. Being a guy you
have to keep your skills sharp and believe me being able to seduce
people anytime anywhere is one huge skill that guys ought to have.
Friday, April 8, 2011
Imma back
As fate would have it, I am back in action. To be honest a life without game is soBORING. It feels so good to be in field. Off late there were a few incidents in my life which rocked a few of my beliefs to the core. I now realize, more than ever, the value of the game that I had. Well my game is my asset and I am glad get back what I thought was lost for ever in the sands of time. And this time I am gonna play it harder and deeper. I am gonna break the limits.
So a few first few days.. wait bring back.. a few weeks were really tough in the field. It just consisted of hanging out at malls and streets working the nerves up to even look at the pretty ones. However, I dealt through it. I made a few approaches which were led me no where and after all that wasted effort there were some good sets yday which has made me confident. I will be posting more stuff in this blog. Keep your heads up folks.
Peace. And Love.
So a few first few days.. wait bring back.. a few weeks were really tough in the field. It just consisted of hanging out at malls and streets working the nerves up to even look at the pretty ones. However, I dealt through it. I made a few approaches which were led me no where and after all that wasted effort there were some good sets yday which has made me confident. I will be posting more stuff in this blog. Keep your heads up folks.
Peace. And Love.
Thursday, December 11, 2008
Old FR.. New Writer
This is how to write FR OR Is it how to write a Romance Novel.
Kudos to MaserCaser for having Romanticized the boring Day2 FR.
Guys u need to check this post out. MCs linguistic skills and humor are amazing... read for yourself.
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Someday, I know, I'll regret having put this down in writing. I'm not even sure why I'm doing this. It was a glorious Saturday morning. Glorious, in terms of clouds forming shapes little kids love to decipher, in terms of the morning shower hitting just the right spots, in terms of the microwave heating last night's dinner to its succulent perfection. Definitely not in terms of the unforgiving Bangalore traffic.
It was already 10 AM and I hated making people wait, especially beautiful women. I vroomed in to the parking lot right next to this petite babe, in a cute blue top and tight black jeans, folded up just enough to reveal her calves. It was her. It was she. I forget the grammar. That's the effect she has on me.
Her cute nose perked up at my sight and her nose-ring raised its head in an enquiring manner - a nose-ring much like that of Sania Mirza's. But, the girl next to me was duskier than that teen heartthrob (I don't even think Sania is that hot. Damn media.). And for some reason, dusky babes just wiggle me right. She was even more beautiful than when I first met her.
It was another of those lazy days – the Wednesday of the same week. I was twiddling my fingers waiting for Ravi and his friend to arrive at the mall. A - how do I put it - flutter caught my eye. You know, the kind of flutter that is so much the signature of a clique of teenage girls. They were at the food court doing what girls do best: having their heads together over the table. I don't know what goes on in that little circle of feminine mystery, but I'd give away a month's salary to find out. Actually, double that.
The queen bee had just shot a dart of intense appraisal at me, and quickly pulled back her gaze down into their huddle, moments after which their table broke into squeals of girly laughter. Music to my ears.
Just then, Ravi slid down beside me as his friend pulled back a chair. He slapped me on my back to bring me out of my reverie and introduced his friend. I nodded my friendliest nod. And then, I don't know what it was - probably the thing that has brought mankind from its inception to its present generation.
I took my little group closer to the girls. We sat down at a table two away from theirs. We ordered and calmed down my nerves on a bowl of boiled sweet corn while Ravi told me about this air-hostess he had met at a party earlier that week. I nodded what I thought was approval to Ravi's heroics while checking out the girls and pepping myself up to do something about this.
Just as Ravi came to the punchline of his little story, I cut him off with a huge sigh of unbridled anxiety and went up to my special bunch of girls. I grabbed a chair from the adjacent table, and dragged it towards theirs. As I was sitting down, I politely asked them if I could join them. Not that I cared what they said. By this time, I was on auto-pilot. Don't ask me where I got the balls. Call of genes, baby.
The group seemed open enough. I should think they were more startled than open, now in hindsight. As I slid down in the most casual way possible, I looked in to the queen bee's eyes. They had a spark of shock and pleasure. Wow.
She turned a little bit towards me and said without missing a beat, "Ya sure!"
All this while, I had noticed a girl, a little on the fringe of the group. I knew she was gonna be a problem. So, I avoided eye contact with her. I, however, shook hands with the whole group.
I said,"You girls aren't tourists, are you?"
One of the girls perked up. "Huh, why do you ask?"
"No, it's just the way you were gawking at me. Most foreigners gawk at me."
As, there were little spurts of laughter, the bitch dismisses me by saying, "We weren't looking at you. Who are you?"
I'd have gladly gone beyond enemy lines into Waziristan than face this shit.
I recovered, somewhat.
"Oh! My bad, then."
"But, now that I'm here, what else do you like about me?" I ask my queen bee, as I lean back on my chair.
Before she could reply, I turn to the group and tell them they remind me of some girl-band. I pick out a girl in random and tell her that her face and the way she presents herself tells me that she can handle a new experience. This brings a smile to her face.
I look at another girl who is listening very keenly to me and quip that she will help anyone if she gets a chance. As she nods enthusiastically, I look at this girl whose eyes were shining with understanding. Her lips were slithering into a mischievous smile, and I implored by letting her know that she rooted for the underdog. I dearly hoped she got the point. She held me at bay by nodding to herself and looking at the girl sitting next to her: the bitch.
I quickly said that this girl steps up whenever there is a vacuum of leadership and hoped that she wouldn't. I finally turned to my girl and gave her a look of appraisal, trying to imitate the one she gave me. I told her that God uses her to accomplish things without her even knowing about it. This had the whole group laughing.
Ravi was having a ball. He was on his mobile pretending to talk, but was busily clicking away pictures of the girls and myself. He high-fived with his friend to let me know I was doing great.
I can't quite put my finger on what happened next. I do not remember the words. But, I can still feel the energy of that interaction. It was short-circuits galore. I was spewing bullshit but the girls didn't trip me up. Thank you, Cupid.
Eventually, I tell the group that it was great fun meeting them all. Then, I pointed at my girl and let the group know that I liked their friend and would like to meet up with her again and asked if it was ok for me to take their friend's number. As the bitch was about to protest, my ally, the underdog-savior gives me the go-ahead.
And then I returned to my friends with my head held high and chest pumping with pride, like a warrior, a Spartan returning from the battle of the 300. Ravi was beside himself with joy (quite frankly, I think the people around us thought he was having multiple orgasms) and his friend was wonderstruck. I was his hero. I was my own hero.
Later, when my head had stopped buzzing and my nerves had stopped fizzing and more importantly when Ravi had sobered up enough, I took leave and on the way to my bike texted my girl about how cute her nose-ring was.
I called her two days later and talked about the weather and then asked her out in the simplest and most honest way possible:
"Hey, I like you. I want to meet you again. Let me know when we can."
Quite honestly, movie dates are not my style. But, this one just happened.
I apologized for being late.
Me: "I'm very sorry, I'm late by five."
Her: "No, by full ten minutes."
Me: "Oh, sorry madam, forgive me please. I'll get you a bunch of roses to make up for this."
She smiled. And then, the inevitable happened. The conversation ground to a halt. There was this vacuum of silence sucking all the energy. We both were uncomfortable. I knew I had to do something before things went further downhill. So, I started asking some stupid questions like how she got there.
Then, I told her the two things I liked about her: her punctuality and her sweet, refreshing attitude. I patted her shoulder saying that she scored some good points there with me and proceeded to give her a side hug. It was awkward.
It wasn't as if she brushed me off, but there was that slight discomfort. Then, we shook hands for some reason and I held her hand for a little longer than necessary. After about ten seconds, she pulled her hand out. Her hands were as smooth as nights in white satin (I know, I know, bad bad simile, cliché cliché cliché.).
Then, we went up to the cinema. There was a queue. I stand as close to her as possible with our shoulders touching. She doesn't seem to mind. The stewardess there who was checking the tickets was a hottie. She checks our tickets and says, "Enjoy your movie!"
I quip, "Hey, do not tell me what to do!", in a playful tone.
This gets my girl laughing and breaks the tension, a little. I cracked some more jokes and had her laughing and then we would high-five and for some reason my hands would linger on hers.
I remember, as we entered the movie, I made a bold move. Without me realizing it, I had grabbed her palms and locked my fingers with hers. They were a little moist like the condensation on the bathroom mirror after a warm relaxing shower. I could feel her pulse quicken. My heart was racing.
I blurted, "I hope you are comfortable with that." Such a homo thing to say, really.
She just mumbled something. I took it as a Yes.
Ravi, for all his antics, is a star. He had booked us the tickets and they were two corner seats – pure gold. As I perused the tickets and verified the seat numbers and approached the seats, I couldn't help but quip: "Wow! Nice seats, huh? Looks like we are in luck, we can cuddle in privacy." My date couldn't help but smile. I still wonder how come she didn't dump me then and there.
As we settled down in our seats, I asked her questions about her family, her friends, especially that underdog-savior friend. I told her, I liked that friend of hers the best. She smiled.
Then she asked me some questions.
"So, Raghu, are you from Bangalore? You don't seem to be pukka Bangalorean somehow."
My heart had stopped and done a little Irish jig. It was the first time her lips held my name.
I repied, "Oh, really Sonali? What makes a pukka Bangalorean?"
By now, the titles had started, and we had to talk in whispers, which only made it that much more romantic. But, then I was distracted by the movie. The first ten minutes were so hilarious that I forgot I was on a date. I can be such a moron. Thankfully, Sonali too was enjoying the movie.
All that laughter helped. There, somehow was a new dynamic between us. As if we had known each other forever. I may be imagining it now, but I think our breath rose and fell at the same time. She was still watching the movie while I stole glances at her. I looked at her vibrant, black eyes. I could drown in them, I have drowned in them. The light from the screen illuminated her face and I could see her nose had turned a little red with all the laughing. Her nose-ring was glinting in the dark, almost as if it was winking at my furtive appreciation. The Technicolor basked her smooth skin and her hair danced in the harsh gale of the air-conditioner. Her spine twitched a little with the cold.
It was pretty cold outside and the theater in all its Indian-ness had the AC going on in full swing. I held my hand out in front of her, my palm glistening with nervous sweat in the cold corner.
She gave me a puzzled look.
I came up with: "Hey! Give me your hand, I need some warmth.", and smiled sheepishly.
She placed her hand in mine.
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All Credits to MaserCaster.
Kudos to MaserCaser for having Romanticized the boring Day2 FR.
Guys u need to check this post out. MCs linguistic skills and humor are amazing... read for yourself.
=======================
Someday, I know, I'll regret having put this down in writing. I'm not even sure why I'm doing this. It was a glorious Saturday morning. Glorious, in terms of clouds forming shapes little kids love to decipher, in terms of the morning shower hitting just the right spots, in terms of the microwave heating last night's dinner to its succulent perfection. Definitely not in terms of the unforgiving Bangalore traffic.
It was already 10 AM and I hated making people wait, especially beautiful women. I vroomed in to the parking lot right next to this petite babe, in a cute blue top and tight black jeans, folded up just enough to reveal her calves. It was her. It was she. I forget the grammar. That's the effect she has on me.
Her cute nose perked up at my sight and her nose-ring raised its head in an enquiring manner - a nose-ring much like that of Sania Mirza's. But, the girl next to me was duskier than that teen heartthrob (I don't even think Sania is that hot. Damn media.). And for some reason, dusky babes just wiggle me right. She was even more beautiful than when I first met her.
It was another of those lazy days – the Wednesday of the same week. I was twiddling my fingers waiting for Ravi and his friend to arrive at the mall. A - how do I put it - flutter caught my eye. You know, the kind of flutter that is so much the signature of a clique of teenage girls. They were at the food court doing what girls do best: having their heads together over the table. I don't know what goes on in that little circle of feminine mystery, but I'd give away a month's salary to find out. Actually, double that.
The queen bee had just shot a dart of intense appraisal at me, and quickly pulled back her gaze down into their huddle, moments after which their table broke into squeals of girly laughter. Music to my ears.
Just then, Ravi slid down beside me as his friend pulled back a chair. He slapped me on my back to bring me out of my reverie and introduced his friend. I nodded my friendliest nod. And then, I don't know what it was - probably the thing that has brought mankind from its inception to its present generation.
I took my little group closer to the girls. We sat down at a table two away from theirs. We ordered and calmed down my nerves on a bowl of boiled sweet corn while Ravi told me about this air-hostess he had met at a party earlier that week. I nodded what I thought was approval to Ravi's heroics while checking out the girls and pepping myself up to do something about this.
Just as Ravi came to the punchline of his little story, I cut him off with a huge sigh of unbridled anxiety and went up to my special bunch of girls. I grabbed a chair from the adjacent table, and dragged it towards theirs. As I was sitting down, I politely asked them if I could join them. Not that I cared what they said. By this time, I was on auto-pilot. Don't ask me where I got the balls. Call of genes, baby.
The group seemed open enough. I should think they were more startled than open, now in hindsight. As I slid down in the most casual way possible, I looked in to the queen bee's eyes. They had a spark of shock and pleasure. Wow.
She turned a little bit towards me and said without missing a beat, "Ya sure!"
All this while, I had noticed a girl, a little on the fringe of the group. I knew she was gonna be a problem. So, I avoided eye contact with her. I, however, shook hands with the whole group.
I said,"You girls aren't tourists, are you?"
One of the girls perked up. "Huh, why do you ask?"
"No, it's just the way you were gawking at me. Most foreigners gawk at me."
As, there were little spurts of laughter, the bitch dismisses me by saying, "We weren't looking at you. Who are you?"
I'd have gladly gone beyond enemy lines into Waziristan than face this shit.
I recovered, somewhat.
"Oh! My bad, then."
"But, now that I'm here, what else do you like about me?" I ask my queen bee, as I lean back on my chair.
Before she could reply, I turn to the group and tell them they remind me of some girl-band. I pick out a girl in random and tell her that her face and the way she presents herself tells me that she can handle a new experience. This brings a smile to her face.
I look at another girl who is listening very keenly to me and quip that she will help anyone if she gets a chance. As she nods enthusiastically, I look at this girl whose eyes were shining with understanding. Her lips were slithering into a mischievous smile, and I implored by letting her know that she rooted for the underdog. I dearly hoped she got the point. She held me at bay by nodding to herself and looking at the girl sitting next to her: the bitch.
I quickly said that this girl steps up whenever there is a vacuum of leadership and hoped that she wouldn't. I finally turned to my girl and gave her a look of appraisal, trying to imitate the one she gave me. I told her that God uses her to accomplish things without her even knowing about it. This had the whole group laughing.
Ravi was having a ball. He was on his mobile pretending to talk, but was busily clicking away pictures of the girls and myself. He high-fived with his friend to let me know I was doing great.
I can't quite put my finger on what happened next. I do not remember the words. But, I can still feel the energy of that interaction. It was short-circuits galore. I was spewing bullshit but the girls didn't trip me up. Thank you, Cupid.
Eventually, I tell the group that it was great fun meeting them all. Then, I pointed at my girl and let the group know that I liked their friend and would like to meet up with her again and asked if it was ok for me to take their friend's number. As the bitch was about to protest, my ally, the underdog-savior gives me the go-ahead.
And then I returned to my friends with my head held high and chest pumping with pride, like a warrior, a Spartan returning from the battle of the 300. Ravi was beside himself with joy (quite frankly, I think the people around us thought he was having multiple orgasms) and his friend was wonderstruck. I was his hero. I was my own hero.
Later, when my head had stopped buzzing and my nerves had stopped fizzing and more importantly when Ravi had sobered up enough, I took leave and on the way to my bike texted my girl about how cute her nose-ring was.
I called her two days later and talked about the weather and then asked her out in the simplest and most honest way possible:
"Hey, I like you. I want to meet you again. Let me know when we can."
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Quite honestly, movie dates are not my style. But, this one just happened.
I apologized for being late.
Me: "I'm very sorry, I'm late by five."
Her: "No, by full ten minutes."
Me: "Oh, sorry madam, forgive me please. I'll get you a bunch of roses to make up for this."
She smiled. And then, the inevitable happened. The conversation ground to a halt. There was this vacuum of silence sucking all the energy. We both were uncomfortable. I knew I had to do something before things went further downhill. So, I started asking some stupid questions like how she got there.
Then, I told her the two things I liked about her: her punctuality and her sweet, refreshing attitude. I patted her shoulder saying that she scored some good points there with me and proceeded to give her a side hug. It was awkward.
It wasn't as if she brushed me off, but there was that slight discomfort. Then, we shook hands for some reason and I held her hand for a little longer than necessary. After about ten seconds, she pulled her hand out. Her hands were as smooth as nights in white satin (I know, I know, bad bad simile, cliché cliché cliché.).
Then, we went up to the cinema. There was a queue. I stand as close to her as possible with our shoulders touching. She doesn't seem to mind. The stewardess there who was checking the tickets was a hottie. She checks our tickets and says, "Enjoy your movie!"
I quip, "Hey, do not tell me what to do!", in a playful tone.
This gets my girl laughing and breaks the tension, a little. I cracked some more jokes and had her laughing and then we would high-five and for some reason my hands would linger on hers.
I remember, as we entered the movie, I made a bold move. Without me realizing it, I had grabbed her palms and locked my fingers with hers. They were a little moist like the condensation on the bathroom mirror after a warm relaxing shower. I could feel her pulse quicken. My heart was racing.
I blurted, "I hope you are comfortable with that." Such a homo thing to say, really.
She just mumbled something. I took it as a Yes.
Ravi, for all his antics, is a star. He had booked us the tickets and they were two corner seats – pure gold. As I perused the tickets and verified the seat numbers and approached the seats, I couldn't help but quip: "Wow! Nice seats, huh? Looks like we are in luck, we can cuddle in privacy." My date couldn't help but smile. I still wonder how come she didn't dump me then and there.
As we settled down in our seats, I asked her questions about her family, her friends, especially that underdog-savior friend. I told her, I liked that friend of hers the best. She smiled.
Then she asked me some questions.
"So, Raghu, are you from Bangalore? You don't seem to be pukka Bangalorean somehow."
My heart had stopped and done a little Irish jig. It was the first time her lips held my name.
I repied, "Oh, really Sonali? What makes a pukka Bangalorean?"
By now, the titles had started, and we had to talk in whispers, which only made it that much more romantic. But, then I was distracted by the movie. The first ten minutes were so hilarious that I forgot I was on a date. I can be such a moron. Thankfully, Sonali too was enjoying the movie.
All that laughter helped. There, somehow was a new dynamic between us. As if we had known each other forever. I may be imagining it now, but I think our breath rose and fell at the same time. She was still watching the movie while I stole glances at her. I looked at her vibrant, black eyes. I could drown in them, I have drowned in them. The light from the screen illuminated her face and I could see her nose had turned a little red with all the laughing. Her nose-ring was glinting in the dark, almost as if it was winking at my furtive appreciation. The Technicolor basked her smooth skin and her hair danced in the harsh gale of the air-conditioner. Her spine twitched a little with the cold.
It was pretty cold outside and the theater in all its Indian-ness had the AC going on in full swing. I held my hand out in front of her, my palm glistening with nervous sweat in the cold corner.
She gave me a puzzled look.
I came up with: "Hey! Give me your hand, I need some warmth.", and smiled sheepishly.
She placed her hand in mine.
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All Credits to MaserCaster.
Sunday, September 14, 2008
Your tools for running the set.
You open the set. And set takes the opening well. After the initial introduction and fluff at times you might not find anything to tell. What will you do. Of course being silent itself is an option. But there are couple of things that we can try out. Or at times even when you close, you might have this feeling if the close is a real close.The list below might come in handy as a nitro boost to ur game.
1. Cold Read.
I have strange feeling about u guys. You guys look like best friends ?
2. Banter.
1. Future adventure projection.
2. Setting the "u leader and she follower" frame.
3. Push pull.
Ex: You are like the cutest women I have seen... all day long that is.
4. Teasing.
5. Qualifications.
I am kinda person who lives and die by Adrenalin. Being adventurous is impressive for me. Whats the best adventure u have had recently ?
6. SOIing.
Ex : The way you said that particular thing about dressing, totally impressed me. I find that way u talk sexy about you.
7. Forcing IOIs.
Ask her to give you the IOIs that you want. Ex: Hey you look so cute when u brush trough ur hair. Do it for me again pls.
8. Active disinterest.
a. Neg - Careful
b. Jealousy plots. Ignoring her for a while and diverting attention to her friends.
c. You not gonna have me frame.
9. Sexual tension
Sxl barriers
10. Kino
11. Fluff
12. Connection, Deep rapport
13. Challenging
14. Breaking Rapport
Oh you like that Stuff. I dont like that at all. Its already not working between us.
15. Compliments
Sincere ones... Dont try to fake the compliments.
16. Relate and reward.
You know the way you feel when u listen to the music. I can totally understand and relate to that. You know I am passionate about dancing and I feel the same when I see a good dance performance.
17. Warm Read.
You know even before u told that u were an Airhostess.. I somehow felt that u work in a service/hospatility industry. Otherwise its difficult to get this kinda class and standards.
PS: I know the post is not so well written. But WTH if u get the concept thats my goal acheived.
1. Cold Read.
I have strange feeling about u guys. You guys look like best friends ?
2. Banter.
1. Future adventure projection.
2. Setting the "u leader and she follower" frame.
3. Push pull.
Ex: You are like the cutest women I have seen... all day long that is.
4. Teasing.
5. Qualifications.
I am kinda person who lives and die by Adrenalin. Being adventurous is impressive for me. Whats the best adventure u have had recently ?
6. SOIing.
Ex : The way you said that particular thing about dressing, totally impressed me. I find that way u talk sexy about you.
7. Forcing IOIs.
Ask her to give you the IOIs that you want. Ex: Hey you look so cute when u brush trough ur hair. Do it for me again pls.
8. Active disinterest.
a. Neg - Careful
b. Jealousy plots. Ignoring her for a while and diverting attention to her friends.
c. You not gonna have me frame.
9. Sexual tension
Sxl barriers
10. Kino
11. Fluff
12. Connection, Deep rapport
13. Challenging
14. Breaking Rapport
Oh you like that Stuff. I dont like that at all. Its already not working between us.
15. Compliments
Sincere ones... Dont try to fake the compliments.
16. Relate and reward.
You know the way you feel when u listen to the music. I can totally understand and relate to that. You know I am passionate about dancing and I feel the same when I see a good dance performance.
17. Warm Read.
You know even before u told that u were an Airhostess.. I somehow felt that u work in a service/hospatility industry. Otherwise its difficult to get this kinda class and standards.
PS: I know the post is not so well written. But WTH if u get the concept thats my goal acheived.
Sunday, September 7, 2008
Day2 : Kino in Kino
Kino in Kino
Disclaimer : Incredibly long and detailed post. You would rather be reading a romance novel.
OOPS.. Bangalore traffic. It unforgiving even on a Saturday morning. Its already 10 AM. Shit I am gonna be late, I hate making ppl wait for me. :-(
As I was pulling my girl into the parking lot. There she sits right next to me on her already parked scooterette. Short babe dressed in cute blue top and a black tight jeans folded up just enough to reveal her calves. That cute nose ring cuteness even more, which reminded me of Sania Mirza. But unlike that 18 YO. This one is bit dusky, and for some reason I love dusky babes. This time she looks even better than the first time I had met her up.
Was hanging out with Raj on a Wednesday evening @ Garuda along with PBR and a buddy of PBR. As I was waiting for PBR. I notice this group of 5 college girls checking me out from their table @ food court. As Raj arrives, I drag him along to sit @ a table near the set. We warmup on a bowl of hot Boiled Sweet Corn, while PBR told about her Airhottie sarge. While I was semi listening to Raj and full checking out the set and planning up the approach. After about 5 minutes I get up, walk towards them, Grab a chair from their next table and drag it towards their table.
Drake : (As I am sitting down beside them) Hey Guys, Can I join u for a while.
Pls note : ask permission verbally and carry on as if u have been permitted. This is like being a Gentleman verbally and badboy physically.
Now there was one girl (obstacle) who hadn't noticed me. I knew she would be a problem. So while I was asking.. I deliberately avoided any EC with her. I ECed HBZ who was giving me IOI.
HBZ: (Without missing a beat) Ya sure!!!
Drake : I am Drake .. (shake hands with all of the 5 girls beginning with the target)
Next things I don't remember word by word but it was pretty much a mix of Banter, fluff, teasing and comfort talk.
Drake : Hey guys it was a gr8 fun meeting you all. I enjoyed it thoroughly. But I like your friend(pointing to HBZ). Would you guys mind if I have her number and meet her up again sometime later this week.
Close her, 20 minutes later send her a message about how cute her nose ring is. Call her two days later. Fluff for a while and set up a day two with a direct line... something to the effect of.
"Hey I like u, I want to meet you again. Let me know when can we meet".
Typically never go for movie dates... but this time it just happened. Somehow had this feeling that I could escalate easy with this date.
Drake : Very Sorry I am late by 5.
HBZ: No a full 10 minute.
Drake : Oh forgive me pls. For this blunder, I would buy you a bunch of roses :P
HBZ: :-)
Then.. convo went flat.. void ... null... nilch. Felt the discomfort, I knew I had to quickly build some comfort.. or it could get worse. Some of the comfort questions/ that came to my aid were.
1. How did ya get here ?
2. Two things I like about u?
a. Her punctuality - was there at venue at the exact time.
b. Non-Nakhra, sweet attitude.
Tell her that above two things score her lot of marks from me. And then proceed to give her a side hug. There was no warm reception for the side hug. But nevertheless there was no rejection as well.. just a hint of slight discomfort. Shake hands for some reason and let the hand linger in mine for a duration longer than required. It stayed there for about 10 seconds and she pulled it out.
We were waiting at the theater door. I made sure that I sit very next to her such that our shoulders are touching. She is quite comfortable with this. While chatting up. I would crack a joke and give a Hi5 and let my fingers linger on her hand... Wicked eh!! :P. As we entered the movie theater, made a bold move. I grabbed her palms and went for finger lock again. She is a bit hesitant. Neutralize it with "I hope you are comfortable with that". The only sound I could hear for that was a ummmm..hmm, which I took as "Yes".
Thanks to PBR for booking a corner two seat for us. Its just two seat towards the end, I know that's pure gold. As we approach the seats. I couldn't help but comment on the corner seat placement
"Wow nice seats huhn!!! Looks like we are lucky today. We can cuddle in without compromising on privacy.". My date couldn't help but smile.
As we settled in our seats, build more comfort with question about family, friends, cousins etc.
The comedy movie starts up. The first 10 minutes was so hilarious that I forgot I have to escalate. 10 mins into the movie I extend my hand (palm up)in front of her (like I am asking for her hand).
HBZ: :? (Puzzled look on her face)
Drake : Hey!!! Give me ur hand. I want some warmth :-).
HBZ : (Places her hand in mine)
Went for finger lock. Got very lil compliance. Held it for 5 mins... I started playing around with her fingers. Its like when you twine up your fingers together and have thumbs together. Fiddle her thumb with yours as if you are upto thumb war. Initially there was very lil response. But then slowly but surely the response became stronger and obvious. Which means I can proceed a step further. But before taking further steps, u have to take a step backwards ;-). Stopped fiddling for a while, and got on with my next step.
Whats next step ?? Kino on back of palm, forearms and shoulders. As if I am caressing. No objections from the HB. So I had her palm in mine and kino back of her palm on my cheeks and lips. I have learnt by my experience and experience of others, that a big step towards (French) kissing is to kiss on hands and cheeks first. So, I kiss her palms and fingers. Sure the HB seemed comfortable. And that meant time for some more escalation. But before further escalation I don't know why I asked but I did.
Drake : I wanna kiss you r8 now.
HBZ: No. (Of course I knew it was only a verbal 'no')
Drake: (Without loosing composure) OK.
Cuddling time : :-). Just pulled her in with something like "Hey lets cuddle up". I am gently pulled her in towards me and made her to lean against my shoulder while my arm is thrown over her shoulders. The way to pull in "Gentle But Firm".. .re-read that again. I lean my head on her head, such that my lips are just inches away from her temple. But something about cuddling is to good and romantic. The warmth and the closeness u feel towards the other person is simply amazing. As we cuddled up our fingers locked up again and I knew I can peck on her temple. Peck I did and it was amazing. I could hear the depth in her breath. Slowly somehow the posture went from head to head to cheek to cheek. The only natural thing for me to do was to peck her cheeks. Which she seemed to enjoy. I continued kissing on cheeks for a while . I was expecting her to peck me as well... But sadly it didn't happen ASD ?? I don't know. But I decided escalate anyways. I had this burning desire to kiss the HB on her lips. I was preparing myself to do that but then something happened that I had to stop and un-cuddle. Damn.. .the intermission. As the lights in the Kino went on. An imaginary VJ in my head uttered those bugging lines. Those lines which everyone of us absolutely love to hate.
"We will continue the show after this quick break"
During the break. Some more comfort and more fluff talk. She looked relaxed and comfortable. We couldn't wait for the movie to start again. After all the first half was not properly understood and we better concentrate in the second half. :P
After the break we picked it from right where we left. Cuddle up and cheek kisses. I could have escalated straight to lip-to-lip. But I wanted it much more smooth. So, I kino her on cheeks and lips with the back of my palms (using the hand which is wrapped around her shoulders). Run the train till the comfort is built.
When I knew I had enough of comfort with all that kino on the face. Stopped all the kino on face while we still cuddling. Slightly shift my face such that our cheeks touching and so are our noses. My nose seem to like her's, so the noses go for a lil rub. While our lips are almost touching. I move in a lil bit, she does her part its obvious that its gonna happen. But then I pull back and whisper something in her ears.
"This is bad. I think we should slow down a bit."
Then we go back to cuddling. Kissing on cheeks (still the HB didn't kiss me on my cheeks). After a while our, noses decide to rub again. But this time, I lean in, she does her bit and for about 10 seconds it was passionate one. I pull back first. Then the rest of the show we would alternate between kissing on the cheeks and lips. Kissing is great fun ain't guys.
Sometime while we were kissing. I had gripped her upper arm. My thumb was touching something very soft. And I noticed that she was comfortable with it. So I knew base-2 gonna be pretty easy. So I start caressing her neck. First on the side of the neck just below the cheek and then on the front of the neck just below chin. After a while I worked my down and caress her upper chest on top of the t-shirt. I didn't encounter any resistance till now. I could just feel the bra straps on top of the tee. I snap it.. no reaction. OK, Hands inside the Tee and snap the strap from with in. Slightly move down. But now get some resistance. So I go back caressing the neck. And again work my way down this time on the Tee. But then I get some resistance again.. so what to do ? Of course rinse and repeat. After about three to four repeats She just gives in. But then after 10 seconds ASD is back and she starts resisting. I didn't wanted it go any further lest I trigger some major buyers remorse and consequently no second date. So I stop and we go back for kissing and cuddling.
Before I know the movie was over. Neither of us had any idea about the storyline. I drop her on the way back. We indulge in more comfort talks. Overall comfort level was high. I take her leave by telling her that the time we spent together was awesome and that I couldn't wait to see her again. Ya I know second date would be much more interesting. ;-)
Lessons :
1. Be a bad boy gentleman. Ask for permission verbally and continue physically as if the permission is granted.
2. Closing in a group : Ask her friend if u can take targets contact details. This does wonders. They either leave the choice to the target or they agree for being polite. In any case the permission of the group makes it soooo easy for the target to give out her number.
3. Being direct and honest about the fact that u dig her makes for a easy escalation.
4. 2 step forward 1 step back + Rinse and repeat till u achieve your goal.
PS: Just to add to your vocab... KINO also means theater :-)
Disclaimer : Incredibly long and detailed post. You would rather be reading a romance novel.
OOPS.. Bangalore traffic. It unforgiving even on a Saturday morning. Its already 10 AM. Shit I am gonna be late, I hate making ppl wait for me. :-(
As I was pulling my girl into the parking lot. There she sits right next to me on her already parked scooterette. Short babe dressed in cute blue top and a black tight jeans folded up just enough to reveal her calves. That cute nose ring cuteness even more, which reminded me of Sania Mirza. But unlike that 18 YO. This one is bit dusky, and for some reason I love dusky babes. This time she looks even better than the first time I had met her up.
Was hanging out with Raj on a Wednesday evening @ Garuda along with PBR and a buddy of PBR. As I was waiting for PBR. I notice this group of 5 college girls checking me out from their table @ food court. As Raj arrives, I drag him along to sit @ a table near the set. We warmup on a bowl of hot Boiled Sweet Corn, while PBR told about her Airhottie sarge. While I was semi listening to Raj and full checking out the set and planning up the approach. After about 5 minutes I get up, walk towards them, Grab a chair from their next table and drag it towards their table.
Drake : (As I am sitting down beside them) Hey Guys, Can I join u for a while.
Pls note : ask permission verbally and carry on as if u have been permitted. This is like being a Gentleman verbally and badboy physically.
Now there was one girl (obstacle) who hadn't noticed me. I knew she would be a problem. So while I was asking.. I deliberately avoided any EC with her. I ECed HBZ who was giving me IOI.
HBZ: (Without missing a beat) Ya sure!!!
Drake : I am Drake .. (shake hands with all of the 5 girls beginning with the target)
Next things I don't remember word by word but it was pretty much a mix of Banter, fluff, teasing and comfort talk.
Drake : Hey guys it was a gr8 fun meeting you all. I enjoyed it thoroughly. But I like your friend(pointing to HBZ). Would you guys mind if I have her number and meet her up again sometime later this week.
Close her, 20 minutes later send her a message about how cute her nose ring is. Call her two days later. Fluff for a while and set up a day two with a direct line... something to the effect of.
"Hey I like u, I want to meet you again. Let me know when can we meet".
Typically never go for movie dates... but this time it just happened. Somehow had this feeling that I could escalate easy with this date.
Drake : Very Sorry I am late by 5.
HBZ: No a full 10 minute.
Drake : Oh forgive me pls. For this blunder, I would buy you a bunch of roses :P
HBZ: :-)
Then.. convo went flat.. void ... null... nilch. Felt the discomfort, I knew I had to quickly build some comfort.. or it could get worse. Some of the comfort questions/ that came to my aid were.
1. How did ya get here ?
2. Two things I like about u?
a. Her punctuality - was there at venue at the exact time.
b. Non-Nakhra, sweet attitude.
Tell her that above two things score her lot of marks from me. And then proceed to give her a side hug. There was no warm reception for the side hug. But nevertheless there was no rejection as well.. just a hint of slight discomfort. Shake hands for some reason and let the hand linger in mine for a duration longer than required. It stayed there for about 10 seconds and she pulled it out.
We were waiting at the theater door. I made sure that I sit very next to her such that our shoulders are touching. She is quite comfortable with this. While chatting up. I would crack a joke and give a Hi5 and let my fingers linger on her hand... Wicked eh!! :P. As we entered the movie theater, made a bold move. I grabbed her palms and went for finger lock again. She is a bit hesitant. Neutralize it with "I hope you are comfortable with that". The only sound I could hear for that was a ummmm..hmm, which I took as "Yes".
Thanks to PBR for booking a corner two seat for us. Its just two seat towards the end, I know that's pure gold. As we approach the seats. I couldn't help but comment on the corner seat placement
"Wow nice seats huhn!!! Looks like we are lucky today. We can cuddle in without compromising on privacy.". My date couldn't help but smile.
As we settled in our seats, build more comfort with question about family, friends, cousins etc.
The comedy movie starts up. The first 10 minutes was so hilarious that I forgot I have to escalate. 10 mins into the movie I extend my hand (palm up)in front of her (like I am asking for her hand).
HBZ: :? (Puzzled look on her face)
Drake : Hey!!! Give me ur hand. I want some warmth :-).
HBZ : (Places her hand in mine)
Went for finger lock. Got very lil compliance. Held it for 5 mins... I started playing around with her fingers. Its like when you twine up your fingers together and have thumbs together. Fiddle her thumb with yours as if you are upto thumb war. Initially there was very lil response. But then slowly but surely the response became stronger and obvious. Which means I can proceed a step further. But before taking further steps, u have to take a step backwards ;-). Stopped fiddling for a while, and got on with my next step.
Whats next step ?? Kino on back of palm, forearms and shoulders. As if I am caressing. No objections from the HB. So I had her palm in mine and kino back of her palm on my cheeks and lips. I have learnt by my experience and experience of others, that a big step towards (French) kissing is to kiss on hands and cheeks first. So, I kiss her palms and fingers. Sure the HB seemed comfortable. And that meant time for some more escalation. But before further escalation I don't know why I asked but I did.
Drake : I wanna kiss you r8 now.
HBZ: No. (Of course I knew it was only a verbal 'no')
Drake: (Without loosing composure) OK.
Cuddling time : :-). Just pulled her in with something like "Hey lets cuddle up". I am gently pulled her in towards me and made her to lean against my shoulder while my arm is thrown over her shoulders. The way to pull in "Gentle But Firm".. .re-read that again. I lean my head on her head, such that my lips are just inches away from her temple. But something about cuddling is to good and romantic. The warmth and the closeness u feel towards the other person is simply amazing. As we cuddled up our fingers locked up again and I knew I can peck on her temple. Peck I did and it was amazing. I could hear the depth in her breath. Slowly somehow the posture went from head to head to cheek to cheek. The only natural thing for me to do was to peck her cheeks. Which she seemed to enjoy. I continued kissing on cheeks for a while . I was expecting her to peck me as well... But sadly it didn't happen ASD ?? I don't know. But I decided escalate anyways. I had this burning desire to kiss the HB on her lips. I was preparing myself to do that but then something happened that I had to stop and un-cuddle. Damn.. .the intermission. As the lights in the Kino went on. An imaginary VJ in my head uttered those bugging lines. Those lines which everyone of us absolutely love to hate.
"We will continue the show after this quick break"
During the break. Some more comfort and more fluff talk. She looked relaxed and comfortable. We couldn't wait for the movie to start again. After all the first half was not properly understood and we better concentrate in the second half. :P
After the break we picked it from right where we left. Cuddle up and cheek kisses. I could have escalated straight to lip-to-lip. But I wanted it much more smooth. So, I kino her on cheeks and lips with the back of my palms (using the hand which is wrapped around her shoulders). Run the train till the comfort is built.
When I knew I had enough of comfort with all that kino on the face. Stopped all the kino on face while we still cuddling. Slightly shift my face such that our cheeks touching and so are our noses. My nose seem to like her's, so the noses go for a lil rub. While our lips are almost touching. I move in a lil bit, she does her part its obvious that its gonna happen. But then I pull back and whisper something in her ears.
"This is bad. I think we should slow down a bit."
Then we go back to cuddling. Kissing on cheeks (still the HB didn't kiss me on my cheeks). After a while our, noses decide to rub again. But this time, I lean in, she does her bit and for about 10 seconds it was passionate one. I pull back first. Then the rest of the show we would alternate between kissing on the cheeks and lips. Kissing is great fun ain't guys.
Sometime while we were kissing. I had gripped her upper arm. My thumb was touching something very soft. And I noticed that she was comfortable with it. So I knew base-2 gonna be pretty easy. So I start caressing her neck. First on the side of the neck just below the cheek and then on the front of the neck just below chin. After a while I worked my down and caress her upper chest on top of the t-shirt. I didn't encounter any resistance till now. I could just feel the bra straps on top of the tee. I snap it.. no reaction. OK, Hands inside the Tee and snap the strap from with in. Slightly move down. But now get some resistance. So I go back caressing the neck. And again work my way down this time on the Tee. But then I get some resistance again.. so what to do ? Of course rinse and repeat. After about three to four repeats She just gives in. But then after 10 seconds ASD is back and she starts resisting. I didn't wanted it go any further lest I trigger some major buyers remorse and consequently no second date. So I stop and we go back for kissing and cuddling.
Before I know the movie was over. Neither of us had any idea about the storyline. I drop her on the way back. We indulge in more comfort talks. Overall comfort level was high. I take her leave by telling her that the time we spent together was awesome and that I couldn't wait to see her again. Ya I know second date would be much more interesting. ;-)
Lessons :
1. Be a bad boy gentleman. Ask for permission verbally and continue physically as if the permission is granted.
2. Closing in a group : Ask her friend if u can take targets contact details. This does wonders. They either leave the choice to the target or they agree for being polite. In any case the permission of the group makes it soooo easy for the target to give out her number.
3. Being direct and honest about the fact that u dig her makes for a easy escalation.
4. 2 step forward 1 step back + Rinse and repeat till u achieve your goal.
PS: Just to add to your vocab... KINO also means theater :-)
Friday, July 11, 2008
Eye Contact
Imagine you are on the street going about on your daily business. You see this cute girl coming from the other side of the footpath. At first you don't really notice anything. Then at about 10 meters away you can actually see how beautiful she is. You initiate an eye contact. Within a second or so her gaze fixes on you and held there for a bit longer than required. With in those few moments your heart beats race up to 150. Without your notice your breathing has deepened and you freeze, not knowing what to do.
Have you been in the above situation before. I have been a there a zillion times. Every time, its the same. OK OK I admit a few times I have ran back to her and introduced myself. But for most of the guys its pretty much the same unless if the guy has a severe case of hormonal imbalance. I thought about whats actually happening in this situation. Basically when you see a beautiful girl there is an attraction spike (u know that, "WOW she's gorgeous" thingie) but once she gives you an EC the attraction spike is multiplied by a factor of 5 or 6. All of a sudden you are excited and she appears much more attractive than before. And thats the power of EC when it comes to attraction games. And I bet my dime, its the same story on the other side as well.
I always wondered why in the dance classes (salsa classes) the hottest chick fell for me (its a different thing that I messed up down the line). Even me without bothering to game them. I thought I was a good dancer and girls were charmed by my super sexy movements. But the truth, I was a so so dancer. But, I am very passionate about dancing. And I always looked my partner dead in the eye with a very slight smile (NOT a 32 bit smile). And the smile is very important or the EC would become a STARE. I never knew (until today) that EC would have such a strong effect. I made an EC, because I really felt the passionate while dancing (towards the dance i.e;). And a great EC was a natural thing to do for me on the dance floor. But the EC created such a intense attraction that some girls just gave a shy smile and looked down with uttering the line "hey please don't look at me like that". And even some of the most confident girls have melted down before the EC. And even in the LTR, a great EC is just enough to melt her bitchiness away and create instant attraction.
Probably only the most confident of guys can Hold an intense EC. Just like the alpha of the wolf pack staring every other member of the pack to submission. However its never an easy thing to do. The urge to look away and break the EC is intense at times(Oh yeah.. think back u will find out). However the reward for holding one is immense. Pure attraction guaranteed.
Have you been in the above situation before. I have been a there a zillion times. Every time, its the same. OK OK I admit a few times I have ran back to her and introduced myself. But for most of the guys its pretty much the same unless if the guy has a severe case of hormonal imbalance. I thought about whats actually happening in this situation. Basically when you see a beautiful girl there is an attraction spike (u know that, "WOW she's gorgeous" thingie) but once she gives you an EC the attraction spike is multiplied by a factor of 5 or 6. All of a sudden you are excited and she appears much more attractive than before. And thats the power of EC when it comes to attraction games. And I bet my dime, its the same story on the other side as well.
I always wondered why in the dance classes (salsa classes) the hottest chick fell for me (its a different thing that I messed up down the line). Even me without bothering to game them. I thought I was a good dancer and girls were charmed by my super sexy movements. But the truth, I was a so so dancer. But, I am very passionate about dancing. And I always looked my partner dead in the eye with a very slight smile (NOT a 32 bit smile). And the smile is very important or the EC would become a STARE. I never knew (until today) that EC would have such a strong effect. I made an EC, because I really felt the passionate while dancing (towards the dance i.e;). And a great EC was a natural thing to do for me on the dance floor. But the EC created such a intense attraction that some girls just gave a shy smile and looked down with uttering the line "hey please don't look at me like that". And even some of the most confident girls have melted down before the EC. And even in the LTR, a great EC is just enough to melt her bitchiness away and create instant attraction.
Probably only the most confident of guys can Hold an intense EC. Just like the alpha of the wolf pack staring every other member of the pack to submission. However its never an easy thing to do. The urge to look away and break the EC is intense at times(Oh yeah.. think back u will find out). However the reward for holding one is immense. Pure attraction guaranteed.
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