I was fast asleep. About 11:45 PM I was disturbed. Without even I
realizing what I was up to I had answered the phone. The half awake me
could recognize that it was a female voice on the other end :-) but
couldn't guess who. I checked the number again... I didn't have it
stored on my phone.
Drake (rubbing eyes): err... hello... ummmhh
bubbling up with energy at midnight and I was all sleepy :P)
Drake : Errrrr.... Who is this ?
It took a while for the sleeping gaint to realize who actually was on
the other end.
Same HBDaccan from the "FR: Bangbros episode 24 @ hint". Earlier, I
had unsuccessfully tried to setup day2s with this babe. I had been
very direct with this girl in asking her out. Mostly used things
like..... "Hey lets have a date on so and so date" or "I have been
trying to setup a day2, but u lil Miss Sunshine is acting very busy. I
am free on so and so date, wazzup with ya ?" (note: these lines were
delivered with an alpha mindset of "I know what I want. And I want to
get it" and not with a "make my life gimme a date " frame). Although
she seemed to liked my approach and talk sweetly with me, she would
never return my call or msgs. She looked busy. I kept msging/calling
her once every 2/3 days till 15 days back when she totally stopped
taking my calls. It looked like another one of the "DEFs - Delayed
Effect Flakes". Before deleting her number I sent her an SMS.
"I been unsuccessfully asking you out for the past few days. Now, I am
confused about your feelings. If you don't like to date me pls feel
free to tell me the same and we can just be friends. That way we can
save a bit of each others precious time"
I expected a reply... I got none. And the available free memory on my
cellphone increased a bit. The last thing I ever expected was to get a
call from her after about 10 or so days.
HBDaccan: Sorry Preetham I was not able to attend your call or msg you
back. Know what my company got merged with other company and I had to
attend a lot of training for 3 to 4 weeks and was very busy. (Felt
that she was being genuine )
All I could do at the point was to mumble up a few ummms, aahhhs and
OK No Problems as I desperately wanted to go back to my sleep again.
Tuesday I share this incident with Hedonist ( oops!!!, pardon me
brother .. "Head on tits" i.e). He advices me to go direct and ask her
out again. But I couldnt call her as I was busy the entire day. The
next day I was having a terrible time at work. My mobile rings .
Drake : Hey hi, HBD wazzzup.
: blah blah blah
HBDaccan : It's my off today. I have come to CMH road for some
shopping. Where are you ?
Drake : I am miles away baby and I am very busy at work.
HBDaccan : So we can't meet right now ??
Drake : It will be very very difficult for me.
HBD : Whats the plan 2moro ? I will be free by 1 PM .
Drake : I will be off from work at about 6PM.
HBD : So, can we meet 2moro.
Drake : Well OK. 6PM Planet M, brigade Road.
HBD : Ok fine.
Drake : Hey, wear something very sexy.
HBD : No, I will come like a beggar.
Drake : Nice, I get to see some nice body parts thru ur phata purana
beggar dress + I get to collect all your alms.
HBD : (Giggles) u r too much
Some more banter before we end the call.
My game plan for the date was to shop for some T-shirts ( I really
needed one ) followed by coffee/walk date. Basically want to keep it
low key date. As far as my verbal game is concerned, these days I am
trying to alternate between A and C. i.e mix up attraction and comfort
material. Basically, bust on her/ pass C&F comments/banter and in
between use some comfort material like deep rapport talk, share your
vulnerabilities and stuff.
I was early at the venue and had opened a set already so was already
in the conversational mood. I had very faint idea as to how she looked
like. Coz we had earlier met in a dark club some 6 weeks back. She
turned out to be a solid 8.5 ( -ve marks on the tummy) in a pair of
blue denims and a girlie girlie top. Open long hairs. Very subtle, but
well made up. Oh boy, she is cute , i mutter to myself.
Drake : Hey hi.
HBD : Hiiii (we shake hands. Kino her on elbow while shaking hands)
Drake : Hey, nice beggar dress. ;-) ( Straight away into banter yeah)
HBD : (Giggles) Thanks
Drake : But sad, I cant really see much of your body parts through
this dress. :-(
HBD : Hey !!! (HBD, playfully punches my tummy)
Drake : ( Smile ) Hey come with me... lets hunt for a funkie tee for
me.
HBD : Ok.
HBD : I thought you were like a real sweet guy. But you are turning
out to be a naughty and flirty guy.
Drake : Yeah sure.
Drake (In a very serious voice tonality) : The last time we met, I
thought you were about 27-28 (years old). But now I think you are
REALLY REALLY Cute. ( Yeah kinda push pull )
HBD : I take it as a compliment. ( May be she thought I was being
sarcastic)
Drake : No, honestly I think you are really cute.
As we jump around a few shops looking for my tee..while doing so we
talk about our mutual taste/liking when it comes to apparels. She even
cold reads me that I am 'into' peacocking and she that likes my watch
and the neck piece. lol
I remember talking to all the shop keepers in the local language. She
notices this..
HBD: Hey, I like to learn Kannada. Can you teach me?
Drake : Sure.
( Teach her a few basic sentences and lingo )
Drake : OK, 125Rs 32 Paise pls. That my language training fees.
HBD : I will pay you in some other way (don't really know what was
that supposed to mean ? I leave the thread there :-)
We finish my mini-shopping. We head towards CCD on Brigade Road. At
the signal she is trying to cross the road while light is still red. I
hold her back by her hand.
Drake : Ezzzz lil Miss Sunshine. Think of what would happen if you
collide with the bus. POOR BUS.
HBD (with a straight face): Ok Mr. Handsome :-|
Drake : And stop playing with your hairs. It means something totally
different.
She starts yapping about how she is not allowed to touch her hairs in
her line of work.
Drake : You know what... girls in your line of work have this 'air'
around themselves. You know all that Nakhra and stuff. I was
pleasantly surprised that you are not like them all and I find that
very SEXY about you. :-).
HBD : :-) Oh so many compliments.
Drake : Hey you are bad girl ;-) :-). You have not even returned a
single compliment. :-). You will go to hell for sure. lol (Banter
saves the day again)
HBD : :-)
We settle down at CCD, order for some coffee.
Drake : So where did ya finish your schooling ? ( Oh yeah I am the
interviewer lol )
HBD : Ohhhhhhhhh interview... interview :-).
Drake sits there with a straight face expecting an answer. After about
three seconds she gives in and tells me about her school days. I share
a lil story about how we would break all the rules at residential
school that I studied. We both connect well on the feeling of missing
those childhood days. Guys try this out, any person would miss his
school/college days. Find an interesting story or two from your school
or college days and share it with your dates, superb rapport material.
I even ask her about what she wanted to be when she was like 7 years
old. She tells me that she wanted to doctor but could get good marks
for AIIMS. And how she was all heart-broke,depressed and feeling
suicidal for not making it. I share my views on why I didn't take up
medical even though I had a good score. We further talked on about our
families/siblings/work/friends/love life and lot of other topics. By
the end of coffee session I feel like we are very well connected. On
the kino front... she was the one who's chasing me. Through out coffee
session she was the one kinoing me for petty reasons like, socking me
in the arm for teasing her, "hey there is something on you hair... let
me take it off for you" and stuff like that.
We go for a lil walk down the street towards Garuda Mall. On road more
kino from my side. Things like holding her by shoulders and directing
her towards the my left hand side so that I am walking on the curb.
Some protective kino like holding her by shoulders whenever there is a
group of guys coming from the opposite side. Leading her by holding
hands whenever there is not much room for both of us to walk
together.
We come near to Garuda mall and she suggest me that we sit near Garuda
for sometime. Basically there is this place outside the mall where
usually couples sit and chill. We end up sitting there. She is
comfortable enough to sit very close by me. Our legs and shoulders are
touching. I know now that I can go in for an explicit kino. At high
points in the interaction (when we crack up on joke, or any
emotionally charged moment) I would give her a explicit kino. Taking
her hand when laughing it off and placing it on my knees (yeah its
stays there .. kino compliance). Reaffirming hug from sideways when
she told me some emotionally involved things about her parents. And
later even on low points I would hold out my hand (as if asking her
for placing her hand in) she would just place her hand into mine.
Followed it up by a palm lock (basically your palm on her palm and
your fingers just lock on to the back of her palm), she complies. I
have found that if there is compliance for palm lock ..
congratulations you got the girl under your spell ;-) you can escalate
with some major kino from then on. Went for hand on her shoulders and
she complied by putting her hands around my waist.
It was times up by 8:30. Didn't even realize how 2 hours just flew by.
She had to go back home. Damn, I was missing my Unicorn ( I had left
my ride at home) coz a motorbike is helluva thing for kino. Cursing
myself I just catch her a Rik and leave her with a good bye hug.
At 10:00 she buzzes me. Tells me that she had a wonderful time.
Without being much of an ass, I told that drake had a great time too
and he can't wait to see her again.
To sum it up it was great day2. Lot of things learnt. At the end of it
I think that HBD is a very sweet girl not one those bitchy kinds. I
can see that this is heading towards a Romantic relationship rather
than "Friends with benefits" kind. I think my game is not of the FWB
type. I really think that relationships are great, but has to be
handled very carefully. Coz I feel very bad when other person is hurt
or heartbroke cuz of me. I know I can be honest and tell her about my
multiple dating lifestyle. Any other tips that you guys have to help
me outta this mindset/sticking point would be greatly appreciated.
Oh, BTW if you have read it all, thanks I know its fucking long.
Lessons:
1. Persistence and being direct/honest can work wonders
2. Show that you are willing to risk it. And you don't care if you she
is playing you.
3. Alternate between comforting and attraction material. Comfort
material can be boring sometimes. So, sprinkling it with some banter
and playful teasing can spice up things.
4. Palm lock test for seeing kino compliance. If palm lock is complied
some major kino escalation can be done.
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