A funny set

I want to write about a funny set that we did on Friday.

Me and PBR. We both were hanging out on Brigade Road. We saw a Chinki Lonewolf standing all by herself. Not too great just about 6-6.5.

I nudge PBR to open it for Kicks. So we went indirect, with something like "Where is this Place ?". To which she says that she doesn't know.

Its PBRs first set of the day. And he is all set to eject. I sense that and drop a lil Hydrogen Bomb.

"The only reason we approached you is 'coz my friend kinda likes you and wanted a reason to come and talk to you.;-)".

She smiles. Not like "welcome I am all yours, sarge me" kinda smile. But more like a Polite smile. So PBR like continues with a routine. Which she was not into, 'coz she only checked her mobile all thru the routine. We grab her phone saying that its a nice phone and want to check it. We bust on her about how common that model is.

As, soon as I return the phone she calls her friends and asks them to come fast. PBR is all set to eject.. inspite of getting eyecoded for close. I get that PBR is not very much into her and won't go for close. Drake says something like "Gimme your number, we will hang out sometimes". The lonewolf went silent. So I push a bit more. Take my phone out and say something like "So your number is 9.." She gives in and tells me her digits.

As I was punching her number. I notice a Chinki male who peered over my shoulder and walked away and waited in distance. After I get the number, the lone wolf rushes off and joins the Chinki guy. And thus it occurs to us that its her boy friend. In front of whom we number closed his girl. Now, I know for sure that this is not a solid close. But what the heck.. it was at least worth a hearty laugh.

FR: 60 - 0 in 3.5, YAQC

This is big one for me. It shattered one of my limiting beliefs. I am biker dude. Thing is I love the freedom/maneuverability/speed the motor-bike offers me. And I always wanted to do an off-the-bike approach, for which the time was just right today :-). Plus I always wanted to "Sarge while I am Out" rather than "Go out to sarge"... mean to say meet new ppl while doing the day to day activities rather than to have to specifically go out to meet new ones.

Enough of setting the stage... on with the FR.

Its Nine in the morning and I am cruising @ 60 KMPH. Even though it is mid summer I can feel the coooool wind on my face for it had rained heavily the previous day. Clear skies clean streets cool breeze what else does a biker need. As I was riding my 'girl', I was mentally going thru a list of activities that I need to complete @ work. Something in my peripheral vision distracted me.. something in white top and blue jeans. It took me about .5 seconds to realise that it was lone wolf about 8 on my scale. As I rode past her, voices in my head debated whether to approach or not to. I decided to do it anyways and braked hard for about 3.5 seconds until the digital speedometer showed O KMPH.

Parked my 'girl', got off her. Removed my helmet. Brushed off imaginary dust off my shoulders. Set off towards the HB. With my chest out, chin held up and a big smile on my face, approaching her from her side. During the 10 seconds walk to the target, I couldn't help but admire her curves ;P. As approach near to her she got it from her peripheral vision that I was about to approach her. Girls and their intuition..kinda amazes me sometimes.

Drake : Excuse me.
HB : (Turns towards me)
Drake : (Big smile on my face)Hey Hi.
HB : (Confused Smile) Hi.

As she said this she kinda turned to face me. (Saw the face was a bit disappointed as the face value was just of a 7.. but that ain't stopping me from going on.
Drake : I was just passing by.. I saw you. Thought you are kinda cute. Wanted to come and meet you. (Thrusting my hand out) I am Preetham.

There is goes on yet again.... the chirstmas tree light i.e.
HB : I am HBSlp. (Smile)
Drake : Nice meeting you HBSlp.
I barely completed the above sentence.
HBSlp: So you are working somewhere ?
Guess she is in a hurry to jump off to comfort stage :PPP.

Drake : blah blah blah. You working or studying??
HBSlp : I am working as well as Studying. Doing ma MBA.
Drake : Oh no... One more of those HR girls yeah. (Playfully delivered) :-)
HBSlp : :-). Actually I am into Finance.
Drake : And where do you work?
HBSlp : XYZ software firm. blah blah blah.
fluff tease flirt for another minute.
HBSlp : So are u on ur way to work ?
Drake : yeah. You.
HBSlp : Yeah. Waiting for a friend of mine. He is supposed to come and pick me up from.
And right then I hear ring tones from her cellphone. Guess its was her 'pickup and drop' service aka her bodygaurd. As she continued to give directions to her 'pickup drop service' I slowly pulled out my phone. And waited for her to end the call.
HBSlp : (cutting the call) Its m friend whose is picking me up.
Drake : AH OK. .....
HBSlp : :-)....
Drake : Hey I gtg now... getting late for college.
HBSlp : College ???
Drake : Oh did I say college.. I meant office.. I guess I am bit nervous.
HBSlp : :-) :-) :-)
Drake : It was nice meeting you. I would like to keep in touch. Whats your number.
HBSlp : Sure... my number is XXXXXXXXXXX.

I store the number and give her a call so that she has my number.
HBSlp : Gimme a call sometimes.
DRake : Sure. Bye.
HBSlp : Bye.

I had this sense of satisfaction and achievement as I was walking back towards my 'girl'. :-). It feels really good to inculcate the whole 'pickup' thing in ur day 2 day activities.

And I was writing this FR I at least got four calls from HBSlp. It definitely on. But that kinda turns me off a bit.

Lessons:
1. Direct is fucking awesome... no unnecessary beating around the bush.
2. Quick closes are not necessarily the lucky ones.

PS: YAQC :: Yet Another Quick Close.;-)

An apple a day

Going out almost everday for the past two weeks now. Yeah, a few times I invariably have to skip and I cant help it. But other than that I follow this "everyday spend 1/2 an hour meeting ppl" like a cult religion. Results, been encouraging. The game is 'getting back' in ma veins again. :-). Though this time the focus is entirely on direct game. Spot stop show interest.. bam go for close.. as easy as that. Have learnt a trick or two. But the most mind boggling thing about direct game is that it can lead to superfast closes. For example:

Stop a HB with her friends pass by me. PBR nuggles me. And I run back.

Me : Hey excuse me (Huge Smile).
Big ones disarms the set, the bigger the better. Perverts!!! I am talking about the smile. What better way to say that I am the most friendliest kid on the block.

HB : (Smiles back with a puzzled look.. like do I recognise this guy from somewhere)

Me : Hi, I just passed by you. I reckon I kinda like you. Had to come and say a Hi to you. I am Preetham.

HB : (Ya chirstmas tree is lit) I am HBCutie. :-)

Me : (to the HBFriend) And you ?

HBF: Blah blah.

So I decided to get the most fanciest of the tricks from my basket. Yeah Fluff.
Me : So what you guys do?

One is studying in a post college of the city and the other is doing law in another fundu college.

Ok, my basket of tricks is almost empty well with in 2 minutes.
Me : Ok, guys was nice meeting you two. I gotta run now. But I really enjoyed meeting you. Hope we can catch up sometime later. Lets exchange numbers.

HB : I am sorry I dont do numbers.

ME : Email then.

HB : Sure, but before that what do you do ? (he he he)

ME : blah blah blah

HB : OK email id is.......

Well mail close within two minutes of meeting. Never could have done the same with the indirect openers. Thing to note is that I didn't work to build attraction. Either, the direct opening is itself very attractive or ma body lang would have fking good. I feel like I am so in my own skin doing of direct ones. Since, I have conveyed the interest upfront going for a quick close isn't a issue.

But, I see something that missing...
1. Attraction. Build some attraction with banter.
2. Deep EC might help. I will test this out.

This at least a single approach a day is really improving ma game. This is coz the very first approach is the toughest one. So if we can manage 1 every day. AA can be managed to a controllable level.

Tats it for now. But watch out for more post.

Ugly blow outs

Been craving to discuss this with y'all. Its concerning a sticking
point of mine. Handling those Extra special blowouts. Generally there
is nothing much that we can do when set doesn't respond at all to
whatever you throw at them. But handling a blow out where the girl
goes to a great extent to blow you out. Consider this blowout for
instance.

I was out in a mall with my wing Flamin. Spot a cute set of 2.
Target : 8.5 Cutie. As they walk past me. I stood there for a second
before I turn back and walk towards the set covering the gap in brisk
paces. At about an arms length away.

Drake : Hey Guys.

As I utter this, I stop her with a confident soft Kino on her left
shoulder using the face of my palm. The Kino was firm, friendly one
(or thats what I felt :?). Whatever it was, it works and it gets to
stop them.

Drake : I saw you walk past me just now. I couldn't help but walk up
to you and compliment you.

HB : .... (Scowl on the face)

Drake clearly senses the calm before the storm.

HB : (Strong firm voice) First of all why did you touch me ?

As I pictured yet another incarnation of lordess Durga in front of me.
She reloaded her shot gun and aimed for bulls eye (a.k.a Preetham
a.k.a Drake:)

HB : Whenever you want to speak to a person. You should first say
"excuse me". And then you have to maintain a distance of at least 3
feet.

I know for sure there is nothing wrong with the way opener was
delivered. On previous occasions the same compliment + Kino combo has
worked for me. Think, she just had a bad day @ work or may be she was
in the r8 mood to yell @ a hot alpha male dude ;P.

Drake : (Took a step back to maintain the distance) I think this gap
between us should be good enough. ( Had a huge dumb ass smile on the
face ).

My bad shouldn't have bought her frame. Mistake mistake mistake. Let
me say it again. Never buy into her frame, especially if she is being
a bitch to you. Instead of taking a step back, could have taken a step
towards her (to lessen the gap) and say "Is that good enough?". But it
kinda risky in a mall environment.

HB : Now listen here. I don't want any of your compliments.

Drake had enough. Without missing a beat.
Drake : OK GO. (ya reacted emotionally and walked away with a "I don't
give a middle finger" attitude)

I felt good about not being affected by the rejection & my will to
walk away. But, while debriefing me and my wing feel that we could
have handled situation better. May be with a cool head. May be
something on the following lines.

Drake : ( Being Genuinely nice) Hey relax it was just a friendly
touch. Seems like you are already having a bad day. Its really ok, if
you don't want to be complimented. Have really nice evening guys.
Thanks for talking to me.

Being the nice guy here :
1. Shows that u r in control of your reality
2. Makes her feel like a bitch for being one to you. Who knows she
might bump into you later and apologize.. while you playfully tease
her to set u up with her hot friends and thus be nice to you in
return.;-)

Well, guys what do you think. How else could we handle a ugly blow out
like this ? Key in your thoughts here. I wont assure a surprise gift
for cool thoughts though. :-)

Exam.. will I do well

My sister will be very tense and anxious these days. The anxiety peaks at about 10:00 AM in the morning every 4 days or so. If I talk to her the response I get is far from logical. If at all I get one. The only thing that occupies her mind is exams and the anxiety of "whats gonna happen". But amazingly she tops her class always... well almost ;-).

Did you ask for my commentary ? A Bad case of exam-anxiety is what I can say about my sis. But don't we all suffer from it (except for a few 'cool dudes' of the class who were Marijuanated by the time our exams started). The degree to which an individual gets affected and the symptoms vary. But every one has it and its only natural. Its body's mechanism to keep us alert when something important is gonna happen. If it weren't for that excitement/nervousness/anxiety I would simply doze off just before or during the exams :P.

Well this is how my typical exam anxiety pattern was.
The exam anxiety would peak before 5 minutes the exam actually started. The pen would be slippery. I would even notice the cold sweat that drenched my armpits. Irrational thoughts like "what if the questions are tough?" "What if out of syllabus questions were in the paper?"
Just before I would "Open" the paper the anxiety would be at it max. I would always gasp before 'opening' the paper.
I would size up the paper before proceeding. The very first question would be tough to read .. but almost always turn out to be a easy one and that would ease me very much.

By the time I finished answering the first question if anybody were to ask me "What is exam anxiety ?" I wouldn't know the answer. :-)

When attending academic exams. The stakes were very high. If you flunk, you would lose out a semester or even worse I wouldn't finish the course. Parents might take me to task (at least they used to do when I was in high school). Might loose few friends (coz they would move on the next grade). You can only take the same exam after say about 3 or 6 months. You will have to prepare hard for the exam. A 100 other such terrible things in the list.

Now how would u like an exam in which u can flunk 1000 times and no-body would utter a word about failing. In fact people would only appreciate the fact that you 'approached' the exam. Further, the stakes are all in your favor. If you fail you loose nothing and may be even gain some experience. If you win however.. do the math yourself ;-). This is the kind of a business in which u invest very little, loose almost nothing but the rewards are huge. And this exam can be taken every five minutes and nobody gives a s**t about it. Every time u take up the exam u learn something new. :-)

How we talk ourselves off oppurtunities.

Here is an article that exactly captures my thoughts at the moment of truth.

http://approachanxiety.com/?p=183

Believe me.. there is no next time. Now is the time and today is the day.

Questions... A 1000 of them

Why is that I am finding it soooooo difficult to even approach ?
Have I lost my game ?
Should I get committed to my One-itis ?
Why do I miss my LTR so much ?
Should I quit the game ?
Would I be cool with it later, if I quit the game now ?
Is my game affecting my work ?
Am I gaining anything at all (if not qualified women) by playing the game ?


992 other similar questions are invading my thoughts. And I am damn confused. It feels like I am just a waste of space and resources on this planet. Feel like my 'quest' is taking away too much of my time and energy.


In any quest there will be problems. Probably a million of them. One thing that I have learnt by experience. Whatever is the problem there is a solution. Only thing that I have to ensure is to 'hang on tight' till I get the solution.

But amidst all these questions I know one thing for sure; "I want to be good at whatever I play". And definitely "I won't quit the game, till I get the game". You call it stupidity/stubbornness/being adamant... It doesn't matter to me. I know what I want, I know it clearly and I am going to get it.


i. From my initial days I grew some game. My game took a dip while I was in l.t.r . Then I started this blog and used to updated it regularly and my game started improving. Then for some reason and/or laziness updating the blog didn't happen that regularly... and the game dived into the depths of darkness. Probably its a good idea to script down my thoughts and put it down here. I guess its gives me a much required direction and strengthens my beliefs.
ii. First ten minutes is the most important time in the field if u are in hunter mode it better to open any damn set in first time minutes. Otherwise 3 second rule is good I guess.
iii. Concentrate on the bread-and-butter work. One area of the life certainly has effects on the other. So, if your game isn't going good. Try and be the best at your work. It requires lot of concentration and dedication to be the best. But when @ work no thinking about game or any other distraction. Get the best of the work. And sarging will definitely give the best. Amidst work make some time for sarging regularly.


So things u gotta do.
i. Concentrate on work. Be your best.
ii. Best time to do anything is NOW. Open ASAP.
iii. Update this blog regularly.

PS: If I sound confused in this post, then probably I am.