Concise guide to C Q C Method.

This method was developed by the LV based PUA Matt Artisan. I picked it up from his lead instructor Josiah.

CQC stands for Complement -> Qualify -> Close.

And at before each stage we do a Time constraint.
So on expanding it becomes :

TimeConstraint -> Complement -> TimeConstraint -> Qualify -> Timeconstraint -> Close

And this method would work out even better if we "Pace" each stage.

Timeconstraint -> Pace -> Complement -> Timeconstraint -> Pace -> Qualify -> Timeconstraint -> Pace -> Close.


Complement Statement
    A statement which complements the person.

Examples:
    - I really think you are cool. I had to come say a Hi to you atleast
    - I think you are attractive. I had to come meet you.
    - I really love your sense of style. I had to come say hi and pick your fashion brain.
    - I saw you laughing and I had come say to you that you have a million dollar smile. Hi my name is XXXX


Qualifying line.
    A statment that make the person qualify herself/himself to you. You are trying to find if the person you are interacting matches up to your statndards. If you are to hang out with the person again you have to see that she/he is cool enough. Only if you find them cool enough you are going to close them.

Examples:
    - Are you fun ? What do you do around here for fun.. coz I can only hang out with fun people.
    - Tell me a cool thing about yourself ?
    - What are you really passionate about ?
    - Whats the most spontaneous thing you have done so far in your life?

Qualfication shows that
    You have standards.
    You are trying to see if she is interesting enough for you.
    You want something more than what just her beauty.
    YOu are different than average joe.


Close.
    A way to formally end the interaction. With/without way of meeting up in the future.

Examples:
    - It was really cool meeting you. Have a nice day. (Not setting up a future meetup )
    - I would love to talk to you again. We should exchange numbers.
    - I loved meeting you ... what are doing during this weekend ? (make plans to meet her again)


Time Constraint Statement

    A statement  which represents a time crunch that you cannot interact with the person forever. And the interaction should proceed very quickly.

Examples :
   
    Complement stage:
    - Hey real quick.
    - One second
    - Just a moment
    - I don't have much time but..
    - Quickly

    Qualify stage:
    - Before I go ...
    - I gotta go now but..

    Close Stage:
    - I gotta really catch up with my friend now.   
    - I have really run now.
    - I wish I had all day to chat u up but I have to go now

Time constraints are designed to
    Make you appear non-threatening (as you are about to leave all the time ;P).
    Make you look busy.
    Make for a quick set. 
    Reverse Psychology : People want something that is in shortage (like in this case your time.)


Pacing Statement:
    A statment which acknowledges the reality of the situation and tells the set that you quite understand their situation. And show your situation awareness.

Examples:
    Complement stage:
    - I don't intend disturb/interrupt you but...
    - This might sound a bit random...
    - I know you are shopping here but..
    - I saw you walking by and ...
    - I noticed that you are waiting for your friends..

    Qualification stage :
    - You seem like a person who is into several cool stuff.
    - It appears to me that you are an avid reader/bookworm
    - I noticed that you have a good sense of style...
    - I can hang out with only cool people.

   Close :
    - This might seems a bit forward of me.
    - You know in a big city the chances of meeting an interesting person again is virtually null. We should keep in touch.
    - I usually don't do this...

Pacing statements are designed to
    Ease your way into the set.
    Smoothly transition into next phase of the set
    Bring up a new topic into conversation.
    Show you situational awareness and ease the awkward tension in the set.

SNL : One K-Night Stands

OK before I begin, give me a Big Hi-Five y'all.

It all happened on Friday last weekend. I called in sick at work as I was having a mild throat infection. But after being the whole day at home, I started feeling better and at the same time I was bored out of my wits. In the evening I decided go to Matteo Cafe and read Sherlock Holmes on my Kindle. As luck would have it I had lot of trouble finding any parking anywhere near Matteo. I had park it all the way near Garuda Mall and I had to walk back to Matteo.

On the way back to Matteo I decided to stop over at Garuda (as it was on the way) and have some fun. To get myself in mood I started giving Hi-5s to random strangers (credits : SimplePickup) which included guys, girls and everything in between. Some took to return the Hi-5 with open heart. Some were neutral and yet other made weird faces like they were telling me "Get the fuck out weirdo". Anyway after about 5 to 6 Hi-5 attempts, the reactions didn't even matter and I was having so much fun. My aim was do it about 15 times. And my fifteenth Hi-5 was a girl who returned the Hi-5 with a big as smile.

Me : Hey, Hi-5. (Raise my palm up in the air)
Her: (With a smile Hi-5ing me) But why ?
Me : For good luck. Catch you later. Bye.

Probably I left her wondering, what the fuck was that all about. :P

Anyway I get inside the West-side in Garuda and was browsing aimlessly through some condiments. And then I felt somebody tap on my shoulders. To my surprise it was the same girl that I Hi-5ed about 10 minutes earlier. She was in her workout clothes track-pant and tshirt. Had very good skin, dusky complexion (which is a huge turn on for me) lovely hair, decent body, cute face. A 7 on my scale. Probably a 7.5/8 had she dress up. She had a very attractive smile, a friendly vibe and a hint of curiosity on her face. As she spoke I noticed a fair bit of American accent.

HB-D : Aren't you the guy who gave me a Hi-5 ?
Me : Yes I'm The Guy
HB-D : Why did you Hi-5 me ?
Me : I was Hi-5ing everybody. Its like an experiment to get rid of my shyness.
HB-D : Really, you don't seem like a shy person.

Now, I don't exactly remember the next 2 mins of conversation. But it was more on the lines of what I am doing there, some light banter and fluff.

HB-D : Hey!!! I have ordered for a Pan Cake at the food court. Would you like to join me.
Me : Why the Fuck not ?

I Can't believe this chick Insta-Date closed me. :-D

On the way to cafeteria, I put my arm her shoulders on the pretense of dodging/leading through the crowd. And immediately I get the confirmation that she doesn't mind the kino. So, I let my arm rest on her shoulder. As we are walking with my hand on her shoulder she wraps her arm around my waist.

We end up in cafeteria and we fluff and talk about some random stuff about her while we had her Pan-Cakes. Basically lot of comfort talk and random banter throw in once in a while. And little bit of connection/rapport material. I found out that she is a very cool chick. She has traveled several parts of Europe. Is into couch surfing. Has established her own firm. Passionate about her work. Spontaneous, very artistic person who is one of those free-soul types.

As we were finishing up the pan cake.
ME : Hey what are you doing after this ?
HB-D : I am going to watch this zombie movie.
ME : All alone ?
HB-D : Yupp... I was so bored sitting at home.
Me : Want some company ?
HB-D : Why the fuck not ?
Me : Lets go buy tickets then.

As we were walking upto the multiplex the same Mall to buy tickets. I went for Palm hold and finger lock (like "Its On Moment" from Sixty Years of Challenge). She wraps her fingers around mine while we are holding hands. Compliance.


We bought the tickets and enter the movie hall. Fortunately the movie hall had very few ppl. And we had almost had the entire row of seats for ourselves. Bingo. We made ourselves comfortable in the seats. And as the movie begins and they dim the light.

Me : (Putting my arm around her and Pulling HB-D into a cuddle) Come here babe I need some warmth.

Sure enough it was warm. As I pull her to a cuddle her hair is right in front of my face. 10 mins into the movie. I whisper in her ears.

Me : I love your hair (And I smelt it)

This set the stage for further kino escalation. I have a standard set of moves for kino escalations in the movie halls.

Caress her arms. Kiss on the back of the palm/forearms. Kissing on the head as we cuddle up. Caress her face with back of my palm. Kissing on forehead. Kisses on cheeks. Peck on lips. And full on make-out with some tongue.

Of course at each step I gauge the reaction. If I get a positive reaction or even a neutral reaction just escalate. In case of negative reaction take a step back and continue from there.

Somewhere before interval I go-in for a kiss. And she pulls back I end up kissing her nose instead. It was a bit awkward. . After about wordless tense 30 seconds. I go in for kiss.

Me : I got to kiss you NOW.
HB-D: But why?
Me : Because I missed on my first attempt. (With these words I leaned in and kissed on her lips - light peck)


And after about five mins of more cuddle and caress. I went in for full on K-Close. And I get no resistance whatsoever. This time she kisses me back with some tongue involved.

I swear to god from then on we didn't watch the movie at all. We had some heavy make-outing for next half an hour or so. And I decide to escalate it further. As I was kissing I took to caressing her neck. Compliance again. Followed it up with some ear nibbling and kisses on the neck. All of which she complied to. In deed she started to nibble on my ears and kissing on my neck. By now I am like "I gotta go for base 2 NOW". Base-2 I did and got no resistance. This encouragement was sufficient for my hands to explore under her T-Shirt/Sports Bra :P. Again no resistance what so ever. That was as far as I could go before the movie ended.

We hit food court again and I finished my dinner. During dinner we conversed again on the various topics like work, leisure, family etc.
After dinner I was walking with HB-D to my car which was park quite some distance away from the mall. Mid way towards my car...

HB-D : BTW where are we going now.
Me : We are going towards my ride babe. Your home is en-route my home. So I can drop you on the way .
HB-D : hmmmmm... I don't know if I should sit in car with you. I bearly know nothing about you.
Me : But its not a car... its a bat mobile.
HB-D : Ha ha ha.
Me : Do I really look like Psycho-killer to you. (I realized that she was right in hesitating to sit in the car with someone who you don't know thoroughly)
HB-D: NO... But still...
Me : Ok I wont force you to come along. Lets walk to my and drop of my kindle and then I'll find a Rik for you.

After I dropped my stuff in the car, I went along with her to get a rik. But unfortunately (or fortunately) all the Auto-Drivers were are for exorbitant fares.

Me : Hey you know what.. just sit in car with me. I will drop you off safely I promise.

HB-D was little hesitant but I lead her to my car. She hoped on the navigator seat. Then I start driving. Two minutes into the drive.

Me : Hey you know what ? Lets do a long drive.
HB-D: OK !!! Tell me on which road.
Me : Let hit the airport and comeback.
HB-D : Cool.

I really can't believe that she was hesitant 5 mins ago to even get inside my vehicle and now she agreed quite so well for a long drive. Man you can never understand female brain.

On the way to airport more kino and kissing. I totally digged the drive, so did she.

At airport she had her dinner. Then we were laying on the lawn outside the airport and watched the moon, clouds and star for about 30 mins while talking about some random stuff.

During the ride back from the airport.

Me : Listen, I really want to spend this night with you.
HB-D : I don't know things are going so fast. And I dont Sleep around with guys.
Me : I know I don't usually do this either. But I have some strange attraction towards you. I can't even figure out why.
HB-D : I don't want to do this impulsively. I am afraid somethings will happen.
Me : Listen, we spend night together doesn't mean something has to happen between us. Its just your company that I want for the night. We will do nothing that You don't want to do. So what do you say ?
Hb-D: Are you sure about this.
Me : Absolutely.
HB-D: OK.

Now there is the issue of logistics to take care. I can't take her back to my home as I stay with my folks. So the only other option was to rent out a hotel room for the night.
Fortunately I knew quite the place for me. A budget hotel on airport road which I had used on previous occasion for another lay. I had their visiting card. So I called them up and booked a room at about 12.30 in the night.

We check-in the hotel. Waste no time at all. The clothes came flying off. "The K-Night" (pun intended in all possible ways) Stood at its peak. By morning "The K-Night" was history.

In morning we caught a good breakfast and I dropped off to her place. No I didn't get her number as I wanted it to be proper one k-night stand.

There you go guys. I made the FR as elaborate as possible. So that ppl learning the ropes can get take back something from it.

Lessons :

Even simplest of simple openers can work wonders. Its not about the opener its about the vibe.

I need to get better way of dealing with logistics.

I couldn't do a home-run as the home was bleeding (if you know what I mean wink wink)

No matter what there will be some people who will try to make you feel like you can't do shit. I just need to tell them to "Go fuck themselves" and keep on treading the path to glory.

A new indirect/direct opener.

I went out yesterday. While in the field I came up with new fun opener, that I tried out and worked well.

2 chink set in front of mall. The target is HB6.5. I approach them head on.
OH BTW I was really happy 'coz I had just heard "The Secret" in my car. It damn put me into a really happy mood. I was wide smiling for no reason at all.

Me : (Bigass smile. And pointing to the target. Maintaining a good EC) Hey, I need to ask you simple question. Give me female opinion.
Set : (Stops immediately. Gives me 100% attention without even thinking of going anywhere)  Yes.
Me : What would be an interesting first date activity? Suggest me something interesting.

Set : Well .... ( Target discusses with her friend. Translates the opener to her friend into her native tongue :P)
Target : What kind of girl is she ?

Me : I really don't know her that well. I haven't even asked her out yet.
Set : awwwwww... (you know that "How cute..." kinda expression)
Me : And I am very interested in her. I dont know her that well.  Suppose I were to ask you out, what would you prefer for 1st date. ;-).

Obstacle : She like movies. Movie dates are great.
Target : Yes I think movie date is good.

Me : Well... OK (Pause, Pause, pause.. while maintaining eye contact)
Me : Actually you are the girl that I want to ask out. Would you go on a movie date with me.

Set : (Giggling hard and running away from me.)

I persisted quite a bit. Trying to be funny and direct. But I had to give up. As the target was running away from me.

May be I will trying introducing myself before I go direct next time. Let me see how well that work out.

I also want to try several other similar openers.
   "Whats the best way to approach a beautiful stranger" Exit the set and re-approach complying to the way they asked you.
   "Whats the best way to initiate a conversation with YOU "


I am going to try these out today.

My Gameplan for a typical outting.

This is plan will be updated on a constant basis as my understanding increases.

1. Busting through AA : Each outting you have to get through your AA. Somedays its tough some other days easy. This will be the plan for get my AA handled.
    a. Do a direction (to a place/shop) opener. Dont persist leave.
    b. Direction + Tomboy opener. Leave.
    c. Direction/Tomboy -> Introduction of self.
    d. Direction/Tomboy -> Direct opener -> Introduction
    e. Direct opener -> Introduction. or the Indirect-direct openers.


2. Handling Fears of Escalation: There is AA and then there is fear of escalation even if conquer your AA. The following is my step by step approach to handle my Fear of Escalation.
    a. Initiate an Introduction.
    b. Hold a Seductive eye contact. ( Look for dilated pupils)
    c. Handshake and don't let go first.
    d. Bridge the physical Space.
    e. Push for Finger lock.
    d. Bounce to new venue
    f. Date close.

Slow ramping your way through AA.

Its often the case that I am like literally overcome by AA. I really wanted to find way around it. Yesterday I tried out a new approach for approaching which resulted in less approach anxiety.

I realized that its important to approach even the UGs continually if not anything this will keep you in top form and help you with the next Hottie that you might encountered.
It also made a lot of sense when I started small and ramped up slowly step by step.  And above all its imperative that you just do the first five sets you see when you are in the field. If you avoid these five sets it would set up a very bad (negative) start for your evening. If you miss any of the first five sets you might as well go back home just then as save yourself some time.

Anyway this is how I ramped up yesterday.

Set 1:
Opener : What a good shop around here to buy some ladies footwear.

Set2:
Opener : What a good shop around here to buy some ladies footwear.
Opener2 : Get the answer to the question and followup with 2nd question which transitions into Tom Boy opener.

Set3:
Opener : What a good shop around here to buy some ladies footwear.
Opener2 : Get the answer to the question and followup with 2nd question which transitions into Tom Boy opener.
Opener3 : Try to transition into personal

Set4:
Opener : What a good shop around here to buy some ladies footwear.
Opener2 : Get the answer to the question and followup with 2nd question which transitions into Tom Boy opener.
Opener3 : Cut the stupid indirect opener and transition into a direct.

Set5 :
Opener : Direct.


This way I am slowly and continuously ramping up the approach ladder busting the approach anxiety little by little. If you are total beginner you might consider something as basic as asking time or direction and slowly working you way up-to transition phase over a course of some 10-15 sets.

One more stuff that really helped me (not just in PU but my Day to Day life as well). Don't be a slave to micro avoidance. When you want to do something that you wanna do but avoid or procrastinate (even smallest of things like tidying up your desk which would take like a minute or so) you take a hit on your self esteem. You think less of yourself. Over the course of the day the micro-avoidance will degrade your self esteem. So say NO to avoiding stuff and set yourself up for success. (For more on Micro-avoidance refer to Sixty Years of challenge)

FR: May I join you.

I went out all alone yesterday. I called other guys from the community but they were busy in their own world. Fuck them I am doing this all alone.

In garuda food court. I saw a lone wolf sitting by herself. All my instincts told me that she was lone wolf my logical brain starts it over analyzing process and waiting game to see if she is with anybody. Seriously, I need to stop playing it safe and embrace the unknown, Push myself out of comfort zone, act spontaneously and listen to my instincts. After lame assing around for a few minutes. I decide to open her :

Me : May I join you if I ain't disturbing you i.e.
Made a confident effort to open her with the widest smile and great EC.

HB8: I am almost done (with my food) but you can join me.
Me : Thanks, I am Preetham. What's your name ?

And then I don't remember exactly what I told her. But it more of general talk about work, family, friends, interests and other getting to the other person stuff. I didn't see lot of IOIs but I was comfortable because she seemed interested and I was genuinely interested in her. Lot instances where I know I came across as a confident passionate guy. I remember I was deliberately slow and took all the time I can while I talked. Listening is my forte ... which I did with intent.

I notice that although she was done with her food within few mins of opening her. She still hung around for me to finish mine. I was nearly done with my food. She said she would leave. I tried to push for a date close. Asking what she was doing for the weekend. Unfortunately she wasn't going to be in town. Hence, I had to settle for number close.

HB8 : I gotta move now.
Me: Sure, it was nice meeting you here. I would love to meet you again. What are you doing this weekend.
HB8: I am outta town.
Me: Let me get your number in that case. May be I will give u a call sometimes.
HB8: Sure. here it is ....xxxxxxxxxx
Me: I will give you a missed call so that u have my number.

I sent her a text message saying that it was nice meeting her. I didn't get any response. May be its not a solid close. I gonna text her in a day or two to find out. :-)


After this I went to brigade... found this HB9.5 walking with her friend HB8 on the other side of the street. I wanted to open, I was about to cross the road that they started walking towards me.  They made it easy.

Me : Hey guys, whats a good shop around here to get some ladies shoes.
HB8 : You have this shop over there go there you will find.
Me : Oh !! really.
HB9.5 : You'll get some nice ones in Levi's
Me : Are you trying to like mislead me. I am beginning to be afraid of you now. :P (delivered playfully)
HB9.5 : he he ... no no I meant this shop mochi.... blah blah blah
While blaberred for that minute. I was just standing there lost in her beauty. :D. I also noticed that the HB8 had gone away from the set and wanted I guess she was not into me :P.
I realised that I had less time before HB9.5 exits the set. Although she seemed interested she had to bow to her cockblock friend. :-(. So I was beginning to go direct.

HB9.5 : <>
Me: Listen I just came here to say a hi.....  << By the time I could say this the cockblock friend had already motioned her over. What a pity ?.>>
In hindsight if I had a stronger presence I could have so gotten this one. Lesson : Have a great presence.

In all a good evening.

How to transition into personal talk from opener?

You : What book do you suggest ?
her : I dont know. I haven't read much lately.
You: Im planning to give a book to my friend on her bday she is like a total bookworm.
Her : May be book xxx is good choice.
 
You: : Ya it is a good choice. Thanks. I am PUA and you ?
Her : My name is blah blah.
You: Where do you work ?
Her : Blah blah
You : What are your hobbies ?
Her: I would love to answer that but I gotta go bye.
                       
                      V/S

You : Ya I guess thats an excellent choice perhaps. You know your books. I bet you are a budding author or something.
Her : I am just Financial analyst.
You : Financial analyst who knows her books. Thats quite a combination. I must know your name. For all I know you might be only one of your the kind.
Her: Ha Ha ha ... My name is so and so
You : I am so and so. I like the way you laugh.(And you kino her.)