Imagine you are on the street going about on your daily business. You see this cute girl coming from the other side of the footpath. At first you don't really notice anything. Then at about 10 meters away you can actually see how beautiful she is. You initiate an eye contact. Within a second or so her gaze fixes on you and held there for a bit longer than required. With in those few moments your heart beats race up to 150. Without your notice your breathing has deepened and you freeze, not knowing what to do.
Have you been in the above situation before. I have been a there a zillion times. Every time, its the same. OK OK I admit a few times I have ran back to her and introduced myself. But for most of the guys its pretty much the same unless if the guy has a severe case of hormonal imbalance. I thought about whats actually happening in this situation. Basically when you see a beautiful girl there is an attraction spike (u know that, "WOW she's gorgeous" thingie) but once she gives you an EC the attraction spike is multiplied by a factor of 5 or 6. All of a sudden you are excited and she appears much more attractive than before. And thats the power of EC when it comes to attraction games. And I bet my dime, its the same story on the other side as well.
I always wondered why in the dance classes (salsa classes) the hottest chick fell for me (its a different thing that I messed up down the line). Even me without bothering to game them. I thought I was a good dancer and girls were charmed by my super sexy movements. But the truth, I was a so so dancer. But, I am very passionate about dancing. And I always looked my partner dead in the eye with a very slight smile (NOT a 32 bit smile). And the smile is very important or the EC would become a STARE. I never knew (until today) that EC would have such a strong effect. I made an EC, because I really felt the passionate while dancing (towards the dance i.e;). And a great EC was a natural thing to do for me on the dance floor. But the EC created such a intense attraction that some girls just gave a shy smile and looked down with uttering the line "hey please don't look at me like that". And even some of the most confident girls have melted down before the EC. And even in the LTR, a great EC is just enough to melt her bitchiness away and create instant attraction.
Probably only the most confident of guys can Hold an intense EC. Just like the alpha of the wolf pack staring every other member of the pack to submission. However its never an easy thing to do. The urge to look away and break the EC is intense at times(Oh yeah.. think back u will find out). However the reward for holding one is immense. Pure attraction guaranteed.
Friday, July 11, 2008
Monday, July 7, 2008
Lose it like a man
Just back from Poland. And the experience was awesome. I was all alone.. So was it took a great deal of energy and effort to keep myself motivated and de-stressed. Nevertheless I enjoyed the beautiful country and of course the beautiful girls. I could not get hold of any Polish guys as wings, though this would have helped a whole deal in skyrocketing my game. I had contacted the Polish lair, but its as good as dead not even a single reply to my messages. I guess with the amount of beautiful women they have and considering the sex ratio, Polish guys need not be players.
Though I wanted to do street game. My AA and lack of wings had a very bad effect on my Mojo. This is bad, I should be able to be in control of my Mojo and it should depend on anything else. Not quite there but slowly getting there. Anyways, but clubs were a different thing. The very atmosphere of club made clubs ease for me. Way to easy than Indian club scene. Even though all alone by myself, I got approached and turned out not so bad for me. But, I wont write about all that 'coz there was nothing I did or learnt from the whole 'girls game me' stuff. But one thing that worked definitely in my favor, I was definitely working the room. Even had a Pivot who encouraged me to approach girls. And I was natural... no canned material at all. Yes thats where I wanted to be.
The last night rocked for me. All I approached was two sets and both of them rocked. Actually I approached three, third set was pointed out by a pivot and it blew up even before I approached. Anyways, on to good set.
As soon as I walk into the club, hit the bar and grab my usual favorite drink. Water on the rocks i.e :P. See a two set on a table by the speaker. I know bad logistics. But approached it without even thinking about it. As I walk towards the set. One of the girls gives me eye contact. I ask them "if I can join them" and join them without even waiting for their permission. Although the girls were hesitant on approach they chilled later. But I learnt a thing "Polite by words, cocky by BL", nice way to project the BadboyGentleMan attitude eh!!
The music is so loud that we cant even talk to each other. Just few HIs cheers and name exchange and I just lay back and enjoy the music. And the girl who is farthest starts giving me IOIs and trying to fluff with me. Before I could take it to anywhere the obstacle finishes her drinks and drags the target to go get another.
I spot another two set. As I get up. The target vanishes to the bar. I walking anyways and introduce my self to the obstacle. Who is not very open. I learn that she doesn't talk that much English. I don't let it bother me and sit there with her not even speaking word, yet sitting there confidently. Right then the target comes-in. Without missing a beat I say a Hi to her and intro myself and lay-back and chill. And Gosh its On IOIs, this one is trying to fluff as well. I was just wonder what laid back attitude can do with seated sets. Its amazing to have them open you. I pull my chair beside that target. We fluff exchange stories. She give me more IOIs. And even ask me if I want any drinks (on her i.e. I love women who offer to buy me things.. I really do with respect). I just get my "Water on the Rocks" refilled. SOI time... "I really like you 'coz, you are the first women in recent past, who has offered to buy me a drink. And that classy behavior. I like it." To which more IOI come from her side. She mentions that she has a boyfriend, I don't let it bother me and even tell that I have a girl friend too. Exchange pics of our partners. But still I can see the IOIs coming. All these while even the target doesn't speak much English. I tried to keep her entertained as well. Cheering the toasts and stuff like that.
All was going well. Until the obstacle says that she really wants to dance but didn't want the table to be gone. And could I "Please" be at the table when they are out there dancing. I knew at that point that I should not agree. But I did agree ... just for sake of being polite. That was end game. I must have got it that its a shit test and replied politely something to the effect of
"This is the first and last time I am keeping tables for you, and thats just 'coz u bought me a drink. You have just 10 minutes at the dance floor ;-)" that would have been so alpha. But lesson, "If you are loosing, lose like a man" was so evident. It happened the other night as well. The HB who approached me and after a while of chatting and dancing, asked me to buy her a drink and I obliged... end game.
Lessons :
"If you are loosing, lose like a man"
Polite by words, cocky by BL", nice way to project the BadBoyGentleMan attitude
"Work the room... always"
As I was writing this article, I came up with a beautiful thought. I will leave you guys for now with the thought.
"A Player is an AFC who doesn't mind being rejected again and again."
Though I wanted to do street game. My AA and lack of wings had a very bad effect on my Mojo. This is bad, I should be able to be in control of my Mojo and it should depend on anything else. Not quite there but slowly getting there. Anyways, but clubs were a different thing. The very atmosphere of club made clubs ease for me. Way to easy than Indian club scene. Even though all alone by myself, I got approached and turned out not so bad for me. But, I wont write about all that 'coz there was nothing I did or learnt from the whole 'girls game me' stuff. But one thing that worked definitely in my favor, I was definitely working the room. Even had a Pivot who encouraged me to approach girls. And I was natural... no canned material at all. Yes thats where I wanted to be.
The last night rocked for me. All I approached was two sets and both of them rocked. Actually I approached three, third set was pointed out by a pivot and it blew up even before I approached. Anyways, on to good set.
As soon as I walk into the club, hit the bar and grab my usual favorite drink. Water on the rocks i.e :P. See a two set on a table by the speaker. I know bad logistics. But approached it without even thinking about it. As I walk towards the set. One of the girls gives me eye contact. I ask them "if I can join them" and join them without even waiting for their permission. Although the girls were hesitant on approach they chilled later. But I learnt a thing "Polite by words, cocky by BL", nice way to project the BadboyGentleMan attitude eh!!
The music is so loud that we cant even talk to each other. Just few HIs cheers and name exchange and I just lay back and enjoy the music. And the girl who is farthest starts giving me IOIs and trying to fluff with me. Before I could take it to anywhere the obstacle finishes her drinks and drags the target to go get another.
I spot another two set. As I get up. The target vanishes to the bar. I walking anyways and introduce my self to the obstacle. Who is not very open. I learn that she doesn't talk that much English. I don't let it bother me and sit there with her not even speaking word, yet sitting there confidently. Right then the target comes-in. Without missing a beat I say a Hi to her and intro myself and lay-back and chill. And Gosh its On IOIs, this one is trying to fluff as well. I was just wonder what laid back attitude can do with seated sets. Its amazing to have them open you. I pull my chair beside that target. We fluff exchange stories. She give me more IOIs. And even ask me if I want any drinks (on her i.e. I love women who offer to buy me things.. I really do with respect). I just get my "Water on the Rocks" refilled. SOI time... "I really like you 'coz, you are the first women in recent past, who has offered to buy me a drink. And that classy behavior. I like it." To which more IOI come from her side. She mentions that she has a boyfriend, I don't let it bother me and even tell that I have a girl friend too. Exchange pics of our partners. But still I can see the IOIs coming. All these while even the target doesn't speak much English. I tried to keep her entertained as well. Cheering the toasts and stuff like that.
All was going well. Until the obstacle says that she really wants to dance but didn't want the table to be gone. And could I "Please" be at the table when they are out there dancing. I knew at that point that I should not agree. But I did agree ... just for sake of being polite. That was end game. I must have got it that its a shit test and replied politely something to the effect of
"This is the first and last time I am keeping tables for you, and thats just 'coz u bought me a drink. You have just 10 minutes at the dance floor ;-)" that would have been so alpha. But lesson, "If you are loosing, lose like a man" was so evident. It happened the other night as well. The HB who approached me and after a while of chatting and dancing, asked me to buy her a drink and I obliged... end game.
Lessons :
"If you are loosing, lose like a man"
Polite by words, cocky by BL", nice way to project the BadBoyGentleMan attitude
"Work the room... always"
As I was writing this article, I came up with a beautiful thought. I will leave you guys for now with the thought.
"A Player is an AFC who doesn't mind being rejected again and again."
Tuesday, July 1, 2008
Teasing....
Hooked this one from TSB. So All credits to Brad Howard of the TSB. This guys rocks. I used to be a big time teaser and the guy who gave hard time to ladies. I have gone bad with this stuff. I definitely need a re-entry.
Here is the siht.
Teasing works BEST with women that you already know… or that you’ve just met through a circle of friends (especially if you have a bit of notoriety amongst the group for being a fun guy).
Here’s the thing about teasing though, that I DON’T condone.
It might work for some, but I don’t usually use it.
Don’t use teasing to “knock” a woman down.
For instance, you might hear tell you to say, “You know, everything is working for you tonight EXCEPT those shoes… where did you get those?”
Is there a way to say this so that it works? Absolutely.
Would I RECOMMEND that you try it if you’re a rookie at the whole “teasing” game?
Um… HELL NO!
And here’s why.
A woman’s ego is like a glass house and teasing in this way COULD be like throwing a ROCK into it.
She feels uncomfortable now… and the conversation takes a negative tone.
The WHOLE POINT of teasing is to make the woman FEEL GOOD by being around you.
It’s meant to be fun.
“Setting up TEASE BAIT”
Teasing is no fun if only one person is doing it. So, many times, I’ll throw out some self-depreciating humor as BAIT to get the ball rolling.
(The KEY to self-depreciating humor is that although you’re a strong, confident guy… you don’t take yourself so seriously)
So maybe I’ll tell a fun story that people can laugh at (like the time I locked myself out of my hotel room NAKED and had to walk down to the desk NAKED to get another key) and then ACCUSE people of having similar stories, but they are just to scaredto tell anyone about them.
This works REALLY well. On closer look, the reason this works is because people (women) can see how SECURE you are with yourself because MOST men would NEVER tell a story in which THEY were the one being made fun of.
Again, POWERFUL STUFF here. I use this ALL the time.
“The Accusational Tease”
This one is FUN.
Basically, all you’re doing is ACCUSING the other person of trying to do something that YOU want to happen.
Let’s say that you want to ask a person out on a date (bland, yeah I know… haha).
So you say:
“Yeah, yeah, I get it… Look, if you wanna ask me out, just say so. You don’t have to keep beating around the bush. Who knows, if you get on one knee and smile really pretty… I MIGHT even say yes…”
Her: “I AM NOT!”
You: “It’s okay, really… it won’t make you a lesser person (smile).
Her: “(maybe changing subject)”
You: (laughing) “You can change the subject if you want, butjust remember that I KNOW (point to head), what you’re up to…You may continue… (smile, wink)
This also works well if you want to take it to a sexual level.
You: “Whoa, Nelly… I know you’re just trying to get me drunk so you can take me home and do dirty things to me. (smile)
Her: “Whatever, I am not”
You: “Man, why is it that every woman thinks that she can buy you a drink and then try to get in your pants. Here’s a hint, Missy… (whisper) it’s gonna take more than one (smile)
Guys, keep in mind that these ARE NOT serious conversations. They are tongue in check and playful.
Using the accusational tease is a SURE way to get her to give you a “love tap”… or punch on the arm… or a light shove.
To which you can reply:
“Dang, feeling me up already and we just got here… geez…”
“The Frame-Banging Tease”
Okay, I couldn’t think of a better term for this but here’s the gist of it.
Say your woman, or even a woman that you just met has had a really rotten day… but you want some sex… because, well, you’re a guy and that’s what guys want.
Here’s what you do:
Her: “Man, I’ve had such a shitty day… (blah, blah, this is what happened)”
You: (Smiling) “Wow, I never expected YOU to let (someone/something) get under your sking like this. What would you do if I lost my hair all of the sudden, would that mean you wouldn’t hang out any more. I TOTALLY expected more out of you”
(You’re doing this to show her that it’s CRAZINESS for her to feel like she’s feeling… naturally, we can go on and on with this but I hope you get my drift.)
If she doesn’t snap out of her funk with this, we now have to employ our most SECRET WEAPON…
“The Tickle Tease”
NOTHING changes the tone of a conversation faster than some “good ole” tickling.
Start slow at first. Like a little bit.
You: (Smiling) “Are you going to get in a better mood… huh… are you?
Her: “Stop it!”
You: (tickling) “Are you in a better mood yet? Tell me I’m the greatest ever… who’s your buddy… who’s your pal… (okay, so I stole that from “Stripes”… shoot me)
Then you just start kissing and BLAMMO!
Bumming Monkeys Time.
Wow, I can’t believe I just said BLAMMO… haha
(The above statement is a great example of self depreciating humor, by the way)
“Physical Teasing”
Before I end this, because I could literally go on for ever on this topic… physical humor and teasing ROCKS.
For example, bring back the old school “You’ve Got Something On Your Shirt” gag… where you point at a spot on her shirt and when she looks down, you bonk her nose with your finger.
That always works great.
Or… and this is always fun.
If you’re walking side by side and there is a physical object on her side… slowly start walking her into it. That’s fun too.
I also like walking up behind my woman and “shanking” her if she has on sweats or loose shorts in the house… and then ACT like I’m gonna do it when we’re out in public. Fun Stuff.
Teasing is a fun way to build attraction and BOOKS have been written on the subject.
It’s the ULTIMATE way of flirting and getting her to chase you, all while showing your strength as a man.
Here’s my final tip on teasing… and pay attention because this is important.
When you are teasing a woman, maybe sure that it’s fun for HER… but that you are ALSO AMUSING YOURSELF at the SAME TIME.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had people ask me:
“You just trip yourself out don’t you”
Me: “Absolutely, I can’t help the fact that almost everyone else in life is lame. I like to think of it as “playing with myself” without all the mess. You should try it sometime instead of living in “lame-o land”. (smiling, laughing… Note: Having fun, with a touch of self depreciation as well)
That’s it. I’m done.
Here is the siht.
Teasing works BEST with women that you already know… or that you’ve just met through a circle of friends (especially if you have a bit of notoriety amongst the group for being a fun guy).
Here’s the thing about teasing though, that I DON’T condone.
It might work for some, but I don’t usually use it.
Don’t use teasing to “knock” a woman down.
For instance, you might hear tell you to say, “You know, everything is working for you tonight EXCEPT those shoes… where did you get those?”
Is there a way to say this so that it works? Absolutely.
Would I RECOMMEND that you try it if you’re a rookie at the whole “teasing” game?
Um… HELL NO!
And here’s why.
A woman’s ego is like a glass house and teasing in this way COULD be like throwing a ROCK into it.
She feels uncomfortable now… and the conversation takes a negative tone.
The WHOLE POINT of teasing is to make the woman FEEL GOOD by being around you.
It’s meant to be fun.
“Setting up TEASE BAIT”
Teasing is no fun if only one person is doing it. So, many times, I’ll throw out some self-depreciating humor as BAIT to get the ball rolling.
(The KEY to self-depreciating humor is that although you’re a strong, confident guy… you don’t take yourself so seriously)
So maybe I’ll tell a fun story that people can laugh at (like the time I locked myself out of my hotel room NAKED and had to walk down to the desk NAKED to get another key) and then ACCUSE people of having similar stories, but they are just to scaredto tell anyone about them.
This works REALLY well. On closer look, the reason this works is because people (women) can see how SECURE you are with yourself because MOST men would NEVER tell a story in which THEY were the one being made fun of.
Again, POWERFUL STUFF here. I use this ALL the time.
“The Accusational Tease”
This one is FUN.
Basically, all you’re doing is ACCUSING the other person of trying to do something that YOU want to happen.
Let’s say that you want to ask a person out on a date (bland, yeah I know… haha).
So you say:
“Yeah, yeah, I get it… Look, if you wanna ask me out, just say so. You don’t have to keep beating around the bush. Who knows, if you get on one knee and smile really pretty… I MIGHT even say yes…”
Her: “I AM NOT!”
You: “It’s okay, really… it won’t make you a lesser person (smile).
Her: “(maybe changing subject)”
You: (laughing) “You can change the subject if you want, butjust remember that I KNOW (point to head), what you’re up to…You may continue… (smile, wink)
This also works well if you want to take it to a sexual level.
You: “Whoa, Nelly… I know you’re just trying to get me drunk so you can take me home and do dirty things to me. (smile)
Her: “Whatever, I am not”
You: “Man, why is it that every woman thinks that she can buy you a drink and then try to get in your pants. Here’s a hint, Missy… (whisper) it’s gonna take more than one (smile)
Guys, keep in mind that these ARE NOT serious conversations. They are tongue in check and playful.
Using the accusational tease is a SURE way to get her to give you a “love tap”… or punch on the arm… or a light shove.
To which you can reply:
“Dang, feeling me up already and we just got here… geez…”
“The Frame-Banging Tease”
Okay, I couldn’t think of a better term for this but here’s the gist of it.
Say your woman, or even a woman that you just met has had a really rotten day… but you want some sex… because, well, you’re a guy and that’s what guys want.
Here’s what you do:
Her: “Man, I’ve had such a shitty day… (blah, blah, this is what happened)”
You: (Smiling) “Wow, I never expected YOU to let (someone/something) get under your sking like this. What would you do if I lost my hair all of the sudden, would that mean you wouldn’t hang out any more. I TOTALLY expected more out of you”
(You’re doing this to show her that it’s CRAZINESS for her to feel like she’s feeling… naturally, we can go on and on with this but I hope you get my drift.)
If she doesn’t snap out of her funk with this, we now have to employ our most SECRET WEAPON…
“The Tickle Tease”
NOTHING changes the tone of a conversation faster than some “good ole” tickling.
Start slow at first. Like a little bit.
You: (Smiling) “Are you going to get in a better mood… huh… are you?
Her: “Stop it!”
You: (tickling) “Are you in a better mood yet? Tell me I’m the greatest ever… who’s your buddy… who’s your pal… (okay, so I stole that from “Stripes”… shoot me)
Then you just start kissing and BLAMMO!
Bumming Monkeys Time.
Wow, I can’t believe I just said BLAMMO… haha
(The above statement is a great example of self depreciating humor, by the way)
“Physical Teasing”
Before I end this, because I could literally go on for ever on this topic… physical humor and teasing ROCKS.
For example, bring back the old school “You’ve Got Something On Your Shirt” gag… where you point at a spot on her shirt and when she looks down, you bonk her nose with your finger.
That always works great.
Or… and this is always fun.
If you’re walking side by side and there is a physical object on her side… slowly start walking her into it. That’s fun too.
I also like walking up behind my woman and “shanking” her if she has on sweats or loose shorts in the house… and then ACT like I’m gonna do it when we’re out in public. Fun Stuff.
Teasing is a fun way to build attraction and BOOKS have been written on the subject.
It’s the ULTIMATE way of flirting and getting her to chase you, all while showing your strength as a man.
Here’s my final tip on teasing… and pay attention because this is important.
When you are teasing a woman, maybe sure that it’s fun for HER… but that you are ALSO AMUSING YOURSELF at the SAME TIME.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had people ask me:
“You just trip yourself out don’t you”
Me: “Absolutely, I can’t help the fact that almost everyone else in life is lame. I like to think of it as “playing with myself” without all the mess. You should try it sometime instead of living in “lame-o land”. (smiling, laughing… Note: Having fun, with a touch of self depreciation as well)
That’s it. I’m done.
Thursday, June 12, 2008
Warzawa experiencza.
Jin Dobre Guys,
Jak Sie Masz (Typical Borat Style huhhnn!!! ;-) ?
This is my first visit to a country which is almost eastern Europe. Poland. Nice country....No wait.. make it 'Beaaaaauuuuutifuuuul country'. Really helpful people. Not like the 'developed european people' who have this false superiority complex. And chicks... WTF guys its for god sake eastern part of europe :P. I had no option but to really like this country. Muuaaaaahhhh... I love this place already.
But getting her was a bit of trouble. I missed my connecting flight.. mummmmmeeeeee.. sob sob :'-(. Nevertheless the journey was adventurous. I leave Blore by 10 PM. My Parents saw me off at the new international airport. Really nice airport. And when they say international it really has the international look and feel :-).
I was in line to pay my 'User development fee' (have no idea what its for). And I have this chick walk up and join the Q behind me. She is quite nice looking. Dressed up in bull jeans, black top, black 'jag-mag' footware and had this white jacket which was absolutely incredible. How can I not talk to her :-). So I open.
Me : (Turn back. Look at her for a second) Hey, Do you know how much is the UDF?(Not that I didnt know how much was the UDF ;-):-)
Her: Its about 1000 bucks or so.
Me : One way or both the way ? (Ya this is ridiculous)
Her : :-) One way of course.
Me : :-).
Her: So u r flying by Lufthansa ?
Me : Ya how do you guess ?
Her: Most of the ppl here are ( We are close to Lufthansa checkin counters).
Me : Oh :-).... I am Preetham btw.
HBN: I am HBN.
Me : Nice meeting u HBN.
HBN: Nice meeting you too.
We chat up a bit abou where we are travelling. And where we are from. No attraction stuff only fluff and comfort talk. Then it was my turn to pay. I tell her I will catch her in the lounge and eject.
I go for checkin. OMG. It looks like Lufthansa has contract with some kinda modelling firm or something. What cute girls at the checkin counter eh? Literally 9's and 10's. I just hoped that my turn would never come. I just want to enjoy seeing all the beautiful girl.. for ever. But, the inevitable happened and I moved on. Sob, Sob.
At the boarding lounge. There was this beautiful chinki I wanted to open. But I kept giving myself excuses not to open her. I see HBN talking over the phone.. I made an excuse not to go and sit beside her 'coz I thought I would talk to her later (Which never happened 'coz later when I saw her the place beside her was occupied by somebody.. Lesson : Spontanity is the name of the game). There was yet another beauty, but was with her mother which was the reason why I didnt approach. But in the aircraft I had a few IOIs from her (Fuck me.. I shud have opened them).
Arrived at the Frankfurt airport at about 8AM. Had my flight scheduled at 11:25 AM. I freshned up and waited waited waited .. But the sad part was that I was waiting at a wrong GATE. (No wonder there werent so man babes there). I missed my flight sob sob sob. I thought I was having a bad day. But you never know what adventure u will have ahead. I get myself transfered to the next flight at 5:20 PM(which took off only by 6:20 PM :-( talk of a bad day huhn!!). I was waiting in the boarding area. Either there were no chicks. Or I made excuses. I did all kinds of things to ward off my boredom, untill I saw this cute Vietnamese chick sitting all by herself. After few minutes of pumping myself up. I walk up to her.
Me : Hey, are you a German. (Wasnt that confindent, and am fiddling my pen)
She : No. I am not.
Me : U look like u kno German. Do you?
She : No, I know only a lil bit.
Me : ( Parking my ass just on a seat beside her) Oh!! pity. I had to get the meaning of this word 'Lufthansa'. And u sure looked like u know german I could ask you. I know for sure 'Luft' means Air. Do you kno what 'Hansa' means.
She : I have no Idea. It just looks like some meaning less name to me.
Me : Oh Ok. I am Preetham BTW.
MyHB: U can call me MyHB.
Me : Nice meeting you
MyHb: Nice meeting you too.
Me : Where are you from ?
MyHb: Guess ?
Me : ummm.... China.
MyHB: Close But I am from Viet. And what about you.
Me : Guess ?
MyHB: India.
Me : Bang on.
MyHB : I have lot of Indian friends. We have this bollywood club in Warsaw that my friend own.
Me : Cool. I definitely want to go there. Do you kno the address of the place.
MyHB: I dont have the address of the place. Right now.
Me : Ok no problem. Gimme your number and I will call you up when I am in Warsaw and take the address later during the week.
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We fluff fluff fluff. Lil bit of tease and banter. She is kinda interest. She even waits for me after the boarding check. In her own banter words "Its too bad we don't have seats next each other". In flight I was making plans to reel her for a instant date after alightning. However, at Warsaw a Bangladeshi guy greets her definitely vibes like her BF. I meet him. On my way to taxi stand. I loudly utter the PUA's magic word "NEXT".
Quickly check-in to Hotel at about 8. Freshenup inspite of tiring day of travel. And go out. I opened up this not so good looking Iraqi student.
Me : Hey, do u know any foreign exchange near by. (Really needed some local currency).
She : (Taken aback for a moment, but then realizes that I am some foreign guy asking directions)
She : One's there on this street. Just 20 m ahead.
Me : I will walk with u till there.
She : Oh, looks like its closed. But there shud be one more upahead come with me.
Me : Oh so nice of u. I am Preetham and You.
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Fluff, Banter.
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Walk around with her for the next 20 mins. She shows the way around the city. I could feel that she was definitely interested. But what the I wasn't :P. So I take her leave to head to hotel, I was really tired. As we part I could see the disappointment on her face. I number close her (just being polite :P) and move on.
Definitely is good start to my trip. I definitely didnt expect Polish ppl to know this good english. Its not bad at all. Ok, so I am all set to rock up this city in coming days. I already have a french wing who is travelling poland (Polish lair is as good as dead). Expect few more amazing reports from Warsaw.
Jak Sie Masz (Typical Borat Style huhhnn!!! ;-) ?
This is my first visit to a country which is almost eastern Europe. Poland. Nice country....No wait.. make it 'Beaaaaauuuuutifuuuul country'. Really helpful people. Not like the 'developed european people' who have this false superiority complex. And chicks... WTF guys its for god sake eastern part of europe :P. I had no option but to really like this country. Muuaaaaahhhh... I love this place already.
But getting her was a bit of trouble. I missed my connecting flight.. mummmmmeeeeee.. sob sob :'-(. Nevertheless the journey was adventurous. I leave Blore by 10 PM. My Parents saw me off at the new international airport. Really nice airport. And when they say international it really has the international look and feel :-).
I was in line to pay my 'User development fee' (have no idea what its for). And I have this chick walk up and join the Q behind me. She is quite nice looking. Dressed up in bull jeans, black top, black 'jag-mag' footware and had this white jacket which was absolutely incredible. How can I not talk to her :-). So I open.
Me : (Turn back. Look at her for a second) Hey, Do you know how much is the UDF?(Not that I didnt know how much was the UDF ;-):-)
Her: Its about 1000 bucks or so.
Me : One way or both the way ? (Ya this is ridiculous)
Her : :-) One way of course.
Me : :-).
Her: So u r flying by Lufthansa ?
Me : Ya how do you guess ?
Her: Most of the ppl here are ( We are close to Lufthansa checkin counters).
Me : Oh :-).... I am Preetham btw.
HBN: I am HBN.
Me : Nice meeting u HBN.
HBN: Nice meeting you too.
We chat up a bit abou where we are travelling. And where we are from. No attraction stuff only fluff and comfort talk. Then it was my turn to pay. I tell her I will catch her in the lounge and eject.
I go for checkin. OMG. It looks like Lufthansa has contract with some kinda modelling firm or something. What cute girls at the checkin counter eh? Literally 9's and 10's. I just hoped that my turn would never come. I just want to enjoy seeing all the beautiful girl.. for ever. But, the inevitable happened and I moved on. Sob, Sob.
At the boarding lounge. There was this beautiful chinki I wanted to open. But I kept giving myself excuses not to open her. I see HBN talking over the phone.. I made an excuse not to go and sit beside her 'coz I thought I would talk to her later (Which never happened 'coz later when I saw her the place beside her was occupied by somebody.. Lesson : Spontanity is the name of the game). There was yet another beauty, but was with her mother which was the reason why I didnt approach. But in the aircraft I had a few IOIs from her (Fuck me.. I shud have opened them).
Arrived at the Frankfurt airport at about 8AM. Had my flight scheduled at 11:25 AM. I freshned up and waited waited waited .. But the sad part was that I was waiting at a wrong GATE. (No wonder there werent so man babes there). I missed my flight sob sob sob. I thought I was having a bad day. But you never know what adventure u will have ahead. I get myself transfered to the next flight at 5:20 PM(which took off only by 6:20 PM :-( talk of a bad day huhn!!). I was waiting in the boarding area. Either there were no chicks. Or I made excuses. I did all kinds of things to ward off my boredom, untill I saw this cute Vietnamese chick sitting all by herself. After few minutes of pumping myself up. I walk up to her.
Me : Hey, are you a German. (Wasnt that confindent, and am fiddling my pen)
She : No. I am not.
Me : U look like u kno German. Do you?
She : No, I know only a lil bit.
Me : ( Parking my ass just on a seat beside her) Oh!! pity. I had to get the meaning of this word 'Lufthansa'. And u sure looked like u know german I could ask you. I know for sure 'Luft' means Air. Do you kno what 'Hansa' means.
She : I have no Idea. It just looks like some meaning less name to me.
Me : Oh Ok. I am Preetham BTW.
MyHB: U can call me MyHB.
Me : Nice meeting you
MyHb: Nice meeting you too.
Me : Where are you from ?
MyHb: Guess ?
Me : ummm.... China.
MyHB: Close But I am from Viet. And what about you.
Me : Guess ?
MyHB: India.
Me : Bang on.
MyHB : I have lot of Indian friends. We have this bollywood club in Warsaw that my friend own.
Me : Cool. I definitely want to go there. Do you kno the address of the place.
MyHB: I dont have the address of the place. Right now.
Me : Ok no problem. Gimme your number and I will call you up when I am in Warsaw and take the address later during the week.
:
:
We fluff fluff fluff. Lil bit of tease and banter. She is kinda interest. She even waits for me after the boarding check. In her own banter words "Its too bad we don't have seats next each other". In flight I was making plans to reel her for a instant date after alightning. However, at Warsaw a Bangladeshi guy greets her definitely vibes like her BF. I meet him. On my way to taxi stand. I loudly utter the PUA's magic word "NEXT".
Quickly check-in to Hotel at about 8. Freshenup inspite of tiring day of travel. And go out. I opened up this not so good looking Iraqi student.
Me : Hey, do u know any foreign exchange near by. (Really needed some local currency).
She : (Taken aback for a moment, but then realizes that I am some foreign guy asking directions)
She : One's there on this street. Just 20 m ahead.
Me : I will walk with u till there.
She : Oh, looks like its closed. But there shud be one more upahead come with me.
Me : Oh so nice of u. I am Preetham and You.
:
:
Fluff, Banter.
:
Walk around with her for the next 20 mins. She shows the way around the city. I could feel that she was definitely interested. But what the I wasn't :P. So I take her leave to head to hotel, I was really tired. As we part I could see the disappointment on her face. I number close her (just being polite :P) and move on.
Definitely is good start to my trip. I definitely didnt expect Polish ppl to know this good english. Its not bad at all. Ok, so I am all set to rock up this city in coming days. I already have a french wing who is travelling poland (Polish lair is as good as dead). Expect few more amazing reports from Warsaw.
Monday, May 26, 2008
Direct revelations
Its altogether a different feeling when you are meeting (at least trying to :-) new people amidst your day to day activities. I feel that finally (after so much of struggle, and practice) meeting new ppl is becoming so much so like a second nature to me. I am opening in all sorts of places. Street while on the way to work. Coffee shops while I am out with my cousins. While with friends. I want to be at a stage where I do not specifically want to go out to meet new ppl.
The other day me and my cousin were hanging out at this JPNagar CCD. My cousin is kinda natural guy (but unfortunately doesn't do cold calls.) He points out to me that a lonewolf 9 just walked in and is sitting "over there". It takes a while for me to pump myself before I get myself to approach her.
I walk up as she finished her sandwich. I pulled a chair in front of her with a big smile. And park my ass right next to her. I extend my arm towards her.
Me : Hi, I am Preetham.
HB : ( 90% Neutral 10% Pissed ) I don't know you!!!
Me :(Still the hand stretched out and still smiling) Thats why I am introducing my self. I am Preetham.
HB : (80%:20%:P) So!!!
I let my hand stay there in front of her. Hoping at least that leaving it there would make the moment so uncomfortable that she would have to eventually shake hands with me. But she is a tough nut to crack. I leave the palm in front of her for about 7-8seconds. But no luck.
Me : (Pointing to myself) Me and my cousin (Pointing to my cousin) over there were just about to leave the cafe. I saw you.. just want to come and say you a Hi.
HB : (Perfect blank.. no expression) (Starts sorting out her bill)
I sit there for about 5 more seconds before realizing that it is going anywhere but down.
Me : (Smile wide) It was pleasure meeting you (no not the sarcastic vibe but sincere vibe). Have a nice evening miss.
As I walk back to my cousin. I punch the air with my fist. And re-iterate to myself "Congrats you did your approach of the day".
Just as we came out side CCD. I had to attend a call. My cousin notices that the same HB is coming out of the CCD and is kinda staring at me while she ejects the place. (Girls.. aren't they crazy!!!). I couldn't notice her 'coz I am facing away from the exit of the CCD.
I thought about the approach later. I would have preferred pacing the approach before actually going for the introduction. If we notice above that I introduce myself first and then pace it (may be I was nervous.. quite possible). Thus it occurred to me that its time to structure/refine my approach.
Elements that I would like to incorporate in my approach.
1. Politeness (even at the expense of alphaness)
2. Outcome independent.
3. Coolness and composedness.
4. Mix of laid back and being interested.
Structure :
1. Have a big smile even before you approach:
You are already having fun. Plus the smile increases the attractiveness of your face by at least 10 times.
2. Begin with a "Excuse me":
This might come across as less alpha. But makes approach more polite and decent. You come across as less player like.
3. Get them to answer your first question with a yes:
Yes -> Acceptance. Once they accept you its kinda difficult to reject you. More often than not.. the Yes train continues.
Ex:
Me : Excuse me. If I ain't disturbing you can I sit by you for a minute.
She : Yes.
(Note the (false) time constraint as well)
4. Pace the intro. Genuine Compliment and introduce.
Ex : Me and my cousin were just about to leave the CCD I happen to notice you. I had to to come and meet you. 'Coz I think you have a great sense of dressing. I am Preetham.
5. Shake hands and get to know her name. If she has company, pay equal attention to her friends.
6. Banter, flirt and make their day.
7. Pace the close.
Example :- Lack of time have to run now. But definitely would like to hangout again. Lets swap numbers.
8. Ejecting (even if you are blown out) Smile at her. Sincerely thank her for talking and eject blissfully. Just make sure you convey using your body lang that u aren't affected by the outcome.
Ex : Blow out
She : Get the fuck off from here dude.
Me : Oh !!! Pardon me. didn't mean to offend you or something. It really was my pleasure meeting you. Have a wonderful day ahead. (smile and eject).
Now I have to get myself in the field and practice this. Check this space for updates on the results.
The other day me and my cousin were hanging out at this JPNagar CCD. My cousin is kinda natural guy (but unfortunately doesn't do cold calls.) He points out to me that a lonewolf 9 just walked in and is sitting "over there". It takes a while for me to pump myself before I get myself to approach her.
I walk up as she finished her sandwich. I pulled a chair in front of her with a big smile. And park my ass right next to her. I extend my arm towards her.
Me : Hi, I am Preetham.
HB : ( 90% Neutral 10% Pissed ) I don't know you!!!
Me :(Still the hand stretched out and still smiling) Thats why I am introducing my self. I am Preetham.
HB : (80%:20%:P) So!!!
I let my hand stay there in front of her. Hoping at least that leaving it there would make the moment so uncomfortable that she would have to eventually shake hands with me. But she is a tough nut to crack. I leave the palm in front of her for about 7-8seconds. But no luck.
Me : (Pointing to myself) Me and my cousin (Pointing to my cousin) over there were just about to leave the cafe. I saw you.. just want to come and say you a Hi.
HB : (Perfect blank.. no expression) (Starts sorting out her bill)
I sit there for about 5 more seconds before realizing that it is going anywhere but down.
Me : (Smile wide) It was pleasure meeting you (no not the sarcastic vibe but sincere vibe). Have a nice evening miss.
As I walk back to my cousin. I punch the air with my fist. And re-iterate to myself "Congrats you did your approach of the day".
Just as we came out side CCD. I had to attend a call. My cousin notices that the same HB is coming out of the CCD and is kinda staring at me while she ejects the place. (Girls.. aren't they crazy!!!). I couldn't notice her 'coz I am facing away from the exit of the CCD.
I thought about the approach later. I would have preferred pacing the approach before actually going for the introduction. If we notice above that I introduce myself first and then pace it (may be I was nervous.. quite possible). Thus it occurred to me that its time to structure/refine my approach.
Elements that I would like to incorporate in my approach.
1. Politeness (even at the expense of alphaness)
2. Outcome independent.
3. Coolness and composedness.
4. Mix of laid back and being interested.
Structure :
1. Have a big smile even before you approach:
You are already having fun. Plus the smile increases the attractiveness of your face by at least 10 times.
2. Begin with a "Excuse me":
This might come across as less alpha. But makes approach more polite and decent. You come across as less player like.
3. Get them to answer your first question with a yes:
Yes -> Acceptance. Once they accept you its kinda difficult to reject you. More often than not.. the Yes train continues.
Ex:
Me : Excuse me. If I ain't disturbing you can I sit by you for a minute.
She : Yes.
(Note the (false) time constraint as well)
4. Pace the intro. Genuine Compliment and introduce.
Ex : Me and my cousin were just about to leave the CCD I happen to notice you. I had to to come and meet you. 'Coz I think you have a great sense of dressing. I am Preetham.
5. Shake hands and get to know her name. If she has company, pay equal attention to her friends.
6. Banter, flirt and make their day.
7. Pace the close.
Example :- Lack of time have to run now. But definitely would like to hangout again. Lets swap numbers.
8. Ejecting (even if you are blown out) Smile at her. Sincerely thank her for talking and eject blissfully. Just make sure you convey using your body lang that u aren't affected by the outcome.
Ex : Blow out
She : Get the fuck off from here dude.
Me : Oh !!! Pardon me. didn't mean to offend you or something. It really was my pleasure meeting you. Have a wonderful day ahead. (smile and eject).
Now I have to get myself in the field and practice this. Check this space for updates on the results.
A funny set
I want to write about a funny set that we did on Friday.
Me and PBR. We both were hanging out on Brigade Road. We saw a Chinki Lonewolf standing all by herself. Not too great just about 6-6.5.
I nudge PBR to open it for Kicks. So we went indirect, with something like "Where is this Place ?". To which she says that she doesn't know.
Its PBRs first set of the day. And he is all set to eject. I sense that and drop a lil Hydrogen Bomb.
"The only reason we approached you is 'coz my friend kinda likes you and wanted a reason to come and talk to you.;-)".
She smiles. Not like "welcome I am all yours, sarge me" kinda smile. But more like a Polite smile. So PBR like continues with a routine. Which she was not into, 'coz she only checked her mobile all thru the routine. We grab her phone saying that its a nice phone and want to check it. We bust on her about how common that model is.
As, soon as I return the phone she calls her friends and asks them to come fast. PBR is all set to eject.. inspite of getting eyecoded for close. I get that PBR is not very much into her and won't go for close. Drake says something like "Gimme your number, we will hang out sometimes". The lonewolf went silent. So I push a bit more. Take my phone out and say something like "So your number is 9.." She gives in and tells me her digits.
As I was punching her number. I notice a Chinki male who peered over my shoulder and walked away and waited in distance. After I get the number, the lone wolf rushes off and joins the Chinki guy. And thus it occurs to us that its her boy friend. In front of whom we number closed his girl. Now, I know for sure that this is not a solid close. But what the heck.. it was at least worth a hearty laugh.
Me and PBR. We both were hanging out on Brigade Road. We saw a Chinki Lonewolf standing all by herself. Not too great just about 6-6.5.
I nudge PBR to open it for Kicks. So we went indirect, with something like "Where is this Place ?". To which she says that she doesn't know.
Its PBRs first set of the day. And he is all set to eject. I sense that and drop a lil Hydrogen Bomb.
"The only reason we approached you is 'coz my friend kinda likes you and wanted a reason to come and talk to you.;-)".
She smiles. Not like "welcome I am all yours, sarge me" kinda smile. But more like a Polite smile. So PBR like continues with a routine. Which she was not into, 'coz she only checked her mobile all thru the routine. We grab her phone saying that its a nice phone and want to check it. We bust on her about how common that model is.
As, soon as I return the phone she calls her friends and asks them to come fast. PBR is all set to eject.. inspite of getting eyecoded for close. I get that PBR is not very much into her and won't go for close. Drake says something like "Gimme your number, we will hang out sometimes". The lonewolf went silent. So I push a bit more. Take my phone out and say something like "So your number is 9.." She gives in and tells me her digits.
As I was punching her number. I notice a Chinki male who peered over my shoulder and walked away and waited in distance. After I get the number, the lone wolf rushes off and joins the Chinki guy. And thus it occurs to us that its her boy friend. In front of whom we number closed his girl. Now, I know for sure that this is not a solid close. But what the heck.. it was at least worth a hearty laugh.
Friday, May 23, 2008
FR: 60 - 0 in 3.5, YAQC
This is big one for me. It shattered one of my limiting beliefs. I am biker dude. Thing is I love the freedom/maneuverability/speed the motor-bike offers me. And I always wanted to do an off-the-bike approach, for which the time was just right today :-). Plus I always wanted to "Sarge while I am Out" rather than "Go out to sarge"... mean to say meet new ppl while doing the day to day activities rather than to have to specifically go out to meet new ones.
Enough of setting the stage... on with the FR.
Its Nine in the morning and I am cruising @ 60 KMPH. Even though it is mid summer I can feel the coooool wind on my face for it had rained heavily the previous day. Clear skies clean streets cool breeze what else does a biker need. As I was riding my 'girl', I was mentally going thru a list of activities that I need to complete @ work. Something in my peripheral vision distracted me.. something in white top and blue jeans. It took me about .5 seconds to realise that it was lone wolf about 8 on my scale. As I rode past her, voices in my head debated whether to approach or not to. I decided to do it anyways and braked hard for about 3.5 seconds until the digital speedometer showed O KMPH.
Parked my 'girl', got off her. Removed my helmet. Brushed off imaginary dust off my shoulders. Set off towards the HB. With my chest out, chin held up and a big smile on my face, approaching her from her side. During the 10 seconds walk to the target, I couldn't help but admire her curves ;P. As approach near to her she got it from her peripheral vision that I was about to approach her. Girls and their intuition..kinda amazes me sometimes.
Drake : Excuse me.
HB : (Turns towards me)
Drake : (Big smile on my face)Hey Hi.
HB : (Confused Smile) Hi.
As she said this she kinda turned to face me. (Saw the face was a bit disappointed as the face value was just of a 7.. but that ain't stopping me from going on.
Drake : I was just passing by.. I saw you. Thought you are kinda cute. Wanted to come and meet you. (Thrusting my hand out) I am Preetham.
There is goes on yet again.... the chirstmas tree light i.e.
HB : I am HBSlp. (Smile)
Drake : Nice meeting you HBSlp.
I barely completed the above sentence.
HBSlp: So you are working somewhere ?
Guess she is in a hurry to jump off to comfort stage :PPP.
Drake : blah blah blah. You working or studying??
HBSlp : I am working as well as Studying. Doing ma MBA.
Drake : Oh no... One more of those HR girls yeah. (Playfully delivered) :-)
HBSlp : :-). Actually I am into Finance.
Drake : And where do you work?
HBSlp : XYZ software firm. blah blah blah.
fluff tease flirt for another minute.
HBSlp : So are u on ur way to work ?
Drake : yeah. You.
HBSlp : Yeah. Waiting for a friend of mine. He is supposed to come and pick me up from.
And right then I hear ring tones from her cellphone. Guess its was her 'pickup and drop' service aka her bodygaurd. As she continued to give directions to her 'pickup drop service' I slowly pulled out my phone. And waited for her to end the call.
HBSlp : (cutting the call) Its m friend whose is picking me up.
Drake : AH OK. .....
HBSlp : :-)....
Drake : Hey I gtg now... getting late for college.
HBSlp : College ???
Drake : Oh did I say college.. I meant office.. I guess I am bit nervous.
HBSlp : :-) :-) :-)
Drake : It was nice meeting you. I would like to keep in touch. Whats your number.
HBSlp : Sure... my number is XXXXXXXXXXX.
I store the number and give her a call so that she has my number.
HBSlp : Gimme a call sometimes.
DRake : Sure. Bye.
HBSlp : Bye.
I had this sense of satisfaction and achievement as I was walking back towards my 'girl'. :-). It feels really good to inculcate the whole 'pickup' thing in ur day 2 day activities.
And I was writing this FR I at least got four calls from HBSlp. It definitely on. But that kinda turns me off a bit.
Lessons:
1. Direct is fucking awesome... no unnecessary beating around the bush.
2. Quick closes are not necessarily the lucky ones.
PS: YAQC :: Yet Another Quick Close.;-)
Enough of setting the stage... on with the FR.
Its Nine in the morning and I am cruising @ 60 KMPH. Even though it is mid summer I can feel the coooool wind on my face for it had rained heavily the previous day. Clear skies clean streets cool breeze what else does a biker need. As I was riding my 'girl', I was mentally going thru a list of activities that I need to complete @ work. Something in my peripheral vision distracted me.. something in white top and blue jeans. It took me about .5 seconds to realise that it was lone wolf about 8 on my scale. As I rode past her, voices in my head debated whether to approach or not to. I decided to do it anyways and braked hard for about 3.5 seconds until the digital speedometer showed O KMPH.
Parked my 'girl', got off her. Removed my helmet. Brushed off imaginary dust off my shoulders. Set off towards the HB. With my chest out, chin held up and a big smile on my face, approaching her from her side. During the 10 seconds walk to the target, I couldn't help but admire her curves ;P. As approach near to her she got it from her peripheral vision that I was about to approach her. Girls and their intuition..kinda amazes me sometimes.
Drake : Excuse me.
HB : (Turns towards me)
Drake : (Big smile on my face)Hey Hi.
HB : (Confused Smile) Hi.
As she said this she kinda turned to face me. (Saw the face was a bit disappointed as the face value was just of a 7.. but that ain't stopping me from going on.
Drake : I was just passing by.. I saw you. Thought you are kinda cute. Wanted to come and meet you. (Thrusting my hand out) I am Preetham.
There is goes on yet again.... the chirstmas tree light i.e.
HB : I am HBSlp. (Smile)
Drake : Nice meeting you HBSlp.
I barely completed the above sentence.
HBSlp: So you are working somewhere ?
Guess she is in a hurry to jump off to comfort stage :PPP.
Drake : blah blah blah. You working or studying??
HBSlp : I am working as well as Studying. Doing ma MBA.
Drake : Oh no... One more of those HR girls yeah. (Playfully delivered) :-)
HBSlp : :-). Actually I am into Finance.
Drake : And where do you work?
HBSlp : XYZ software firm. blah blah blah.
fluff tease flirt for another minute.
HBSlp : So are u on ur way to work ?
Drake : yeah. You.
HBSlp : Yeah. Waiting for a friend of mine. He is supposed to come and pick me up from.
And right then I hear ring tones from her cellphone. Guess its was her 'pickup and drop' service aka her bodygaurd. As she continued to give directions to her 'pickup drop service' I slowly pulled out my phone. And waited for her to end the call.
HBSlp : (cutting the call) Its m friend whose is picking me up.
Drake : AH OK. .....
HBSlp : :-)....
Drake : Hey I gtg now... getting late for college.
HBSlp : College ???
Drake : Oh did I say college.. I meant office.. I guess I am bit nervous.
HBSlp : :-) :-) :-)
Drake : It was nice meeting you. I would like to keep in touch. Whats your number.
HBSlp : Sure... my number is XXXXXXXXXXX.
I store the number and give her a call so that she has my number.
HBSlp : Gimme a call sometimes.
DRake : Sure. Bye.
HBSlp : Bye.
I had this sense of satisfaction and achievement as I was walking back towards my 'girl'. :-). It feels really good to inculcate the whole 'pickup' thing in ur day 2 day activities.
And I was writing this FR I at least got four calls from HBSlp. It definitely on. But that kinda turns me off a bit.
Lessons:
1. Direct is fucking awesome... no unnecessary beating around the bush.
2. Quick closes are not necessarily the lucky ones.
PS: YAQC :: Yet Another Quick Close.;-)
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